Q&A With LittleBoyJakey

[CWIS'S NOTE] Up today I have a Q&A with, and some adorable pictures from, LittleBoyJakey. You may know him from his Twitter account; he's also the fiancé of LittleBoyOlive, who some of my readers may remember as Z from the LuvsBoat. If you're on Twitter, be sure to give Jakey a follow (@LilBoyJakey)!

Want to do a Q&A for my blog? Email me at abysitter@gmail.com, and put "Q&A" in the subject, I'll reply with the questions! 18+ I'll be updating the WhyABDL.org website with Q&A's in the near future, as well... stay tuned! 

Thanks, Jakey!

Q&A With LittleBoyJakey 

Name/Nick: Jakey
Age: 21 (little age 1-2)
City/State/Country: Richmond, Virginia 
AB/DL/BabyFur/Other? ABDL!


When did you first realize you were ABDL? 

I first remember having thoughts about diapers, pacis, bottles and such around 8 years old. I often has accidents for years as a kid, come to find out later on in life I actually have what’s called urge incontinence and my mother just never helped me get it treated. But none the less I would get locked in staring at the diapers at the grocery store, if a family member ever asked me to get a diaper for them when they were changing their kid I would take a little to long just holding them and staring in awe. When I discovered I could fit into pampers size 7 as a 10 year old it kind of exploded from there!

What steps did you take to get your diaper 'fix' as a child and/or teen? 

Around 10 years old I started acting on my desires, as much as I hate to admit it I stole some diapers from my brother (they were for his kid) and discovered that I was tiny enough to fit comfortably into a pampers size 7. I kept that up for about a year and then discovered goodnites which I could get free samples of! So of course I did, unfortunately I did not account for the fact that my mother checked the mail, and she had lots of questions! Eventually I started scrounging up money and gift cards and walking about 2.5 miles down the busy main highway through town to the local grocery to buy pampers, pacis and goodnites whenever I could get away with it. 

Do your parents and/or siblings know about you and diapers? If so, please explain how, and how they reacted?

Unfortunately, all of my family knows about my diapers and most of them know about my little side. My mother was suspicious when I ordered free samples of goodnites, however I was able to chock this up to my constant accidents and bed wetting. She had other ideas unfortunately she took the samples from me and instead purchased a cold, noisy and uncomfortable plastic sheet to “solve” my problems. I eventually found other ways to find diapers of course and unfortunately for me I was not very good at hiding it, my mother thought I was disturbed. Her biggest concern was that I was a “gay” or a pedophile. I would continue to buy diapers and when I turned 16 I started buying abdl diapers (QTTY rawr diapers to be exact), this would enrage her. She would find them in my hiding spots and trash them all. I would dumpster dive for the, this only worked for a short amount of time before she started destroying them before tossing them out. One of my father’s neighbors caught me lounging about outside my father’s home in just a goodnite once and informed my father, he was more confused than anything. When I eventually made it out of my mother’s home, I ended up living with my father at the age of 18 until I was 20, he was aware of my abdl shenanigans, but he never said anything I assume out of respect since I was technically an adult and it was my own money. 

Have you dealt with the shame and regret that is the binge/purge cycle? Please explain. 

ABSOLUTELY! I cannot count the times I have thrown out all my abdl gear in shame. I was also dealing with some unresolved mental health issues and periodically I would start to feel disgusted by myself and my abdl side. Luckily I ended up getting some mental health assistance and started to accept my little side and all that comes with it! I discovered that little space is like an anxiety medicine for me and I haven’t had any “purge” for about 2-3 years.

How has this fetish affected your social life and/or dating? Married life? Parenting? 

Before I found (@lilboyolive), currently my fiancé, dating was an interesting minefield for me, I would start talking to people but I would never meet them because I knew that little me is a big part of who I am, and I couldn’t love someone who couldn’t love little me. All of my friends and even my coworkers know I wear diapers and that I am a little, taking this step has made my life 100% easier, no more fear and no shame about being who I am. All of my friends and coworkers were very accepting and most of them said they weren’t surprised in the slightest!   

Some experts believe that we become the way we are because of traumas experienced at an early age, including abuse and/or neglect. Do your life experiences bear this out? 

I 100% believe this, I suffered an unfortunate amount of verbal, mental, and physical abuse from my mother as a child. I think this directly influences my need to be a little, and my lack of desire for any mommies in my scenes. I'm sure the way my mother poorly handled my health issues with accidents and bedwetting definitely pushed me into ABDL. 

For the little dunces, please tell us about what it was like to discover this fetish/lifestyle on the Internet. Please be at least 18 at the time of writing, but be specific about what age you discovered it, what sites helped you, and keep this part PG for obvious reasons. 

Oh goodness do I feel a large amount of shame about the age I discovered ABDL social media, I was 10 years old! I first discovered abdl content on the image hosting site “photo bucket” of all places! I quickly discovered abdl tumblr and lerked for years, at one point I actually made a ABDL Instagram that was short lived (thank god) before Instagram deleted me for my age and content. The sight that ultimately helped me accept myself was tumblr, the sea of ABDL pioneers helped me feel less alone and definitely helped me stop feeling so crazy about wanting to act like a baby all the time! Tumblr would actually lead me to Cwis’s site and I would actually eventually try to use it to convince my mother that I wasn’t insane!

Do your interests involve a subset of this community, such as babyfurs, diaper disciplinarians, wet/messy, sissybabies etc.? Please tell us about it. I won't even try to be specific here; just tell us what you think people should know. 

As much as I originally never wanted to admit it, I am a diaper pup as well as a little! Pup space is not a hard jump from little space and I think that’s why it has always called to me (also collars and onesies I mean have you seen the combo!). I think pup space and little space are almost identical kinks just one has a little more cuteness (ill let you decide which one!) thankfully Olive helped me explore my pup side and having close friends (and idols for the longest time) like @jamesfrost_3 (a ABU diaper god and fantastic baby sitter) and @pupjacksonboy ( a part-time babysitter and unofficial big for me) really helped me get out of my comfort zone and become the little crinkly pup that I’ve always been!

What % of your sexual activities and/or masturbation incorporate diapers? Has this caused problems for you?

Diapers are Definity not required for me to have sex, however they’re not removed entirely from the bedroom activities, they have been incorporated a few times but they’re by no means a necessity. HOWEVER, masturbation is pretty much exclusive to diapers for me. Simply put its convenient and a magic wand on a soggy diaper is just stimulation heaven.

If you get into the regression aspect of ABDL please tell us more about that. If you do not, and you have feelings about being lumped into a fetish involving it, explain how it makes you feel. 

I most certainly do regress, of course if you know me or follow me then you’ll know that I’m a huge baby! I’m almost always in little space to some degree and I’ve more or less let it become a part of my daily life. You’d be hard pressed to find me out and about not wearing at least one article of little clothing, being a little is really who I am! I am genuinely just a little boy in a big boy body making my way through life being as sweet as I can! 

 

I do want to touch on the fact that little space, whether you like it or not is a kink. DO NOT involve or allow minors to be involved in your kink. It’s dangerous for everyone! Their time will come to join the community! Don’t put yourself or others in danger, not only could it be detrimental to your life it makes a horrible name for our community. We are a group of consenting (and adorable) adults who like to be cutesy and dress up like kids and wear diapers, let’s keep that to consenting adults!  

Don't let yourself be limited by my questions. If you have anything else at all that you would like to say please feel free to say it here:

Our community is amazing and wonderful, there are so many of us out there and I am beyond thankful for the ability to be united on social media! With that being said, we have to fight every day for our kink to be accepted in other kink communities, what we do is simply that, a kink and there is no reason for us to not be accepted! So I ask that all of us make sure to make a good name for the whole community, do not interact with minors, and (this is really important to me) do not, do not force non-consenting individuals to be a part of your “scene” not everyone wants to see a man in a diaper walking down the street! It makes our community as a whole look awful and destroys the progress we make establishing ourselves with other kinksters.

 

I cannot wait to see how our community continues to grow, I hope that it becomes more accepted and I hope that our community itself becomes more accepting. I cannot wait for the day that babs don’t have to be the “picture-perfect” twink to gather likes and friends! 

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