[CWIS'S NOTE] Up today I have a Q&A and some awesome photos from someone new to the blog: Frankenfurter. You may know him from Fetlife (frankenfurterdds) or Twitter (@frankenfurterdd). Frank hails from the UK. Enjoy! Thanks, Frank!
Q&A with Frankenfurter
Name/Nick: Frankie Anderson
Age: 30
City/State/Country: Hampshire, UK
AB/DL/BabyFur/Other? AB with DL side. Kinkster.
Social Media:
Fetlife: frankenfurterdds
Twitter: @frankenfurterdd
Daily Diapers: frankenfurter (if that's still a place?)
When did you first realize you were ABDL?
Probably about 14, when I started to get unsupervised, unfiltered internet access. I'd had access at school and with parents right there ready to read over my shoulder but suddenly I was free. I think I stumbled upon it through some bed-wetting forums first - I was a bed-wetter and just got less and less common, down to only a few times a year. Almost ironically it stopped as I started getting adult diapers that fitted me and it would have been fine! Then those few nights I wet, I wasn't wearing a diaper!
What steps did you take to get your diaper 'fix' as a child and/or teen?
My first 'fix' was to take diapers from a bag left from when I was diapered at night for bedwetting and try to wear them. It was around 11-12 years old and I was just starting to masturbate too. Looking back, this was clearly one of my first DL specific actions, I don't think a 'normal' 12 year old decides to try masturbating into a diaper. I sort of got caught and they were taken away from me. As an older teen I bought Drynites (Goodnites) from a supermarket, well away from home at first, then gradually nearer and nearer. Smuggling them in to stop my parents seeing wasn't easy either. I think I got my first adult sized diapers at 17, a very medical set which I'd now think were really thin, but back then I was in awe with how thick and bulky they felt. By the time I was 19 I'd got a credit card and received my first shipment from ABU - which meant international delivery and a visible customs form! Fortunately it read 'underwear' and my dad was none the wiser, although somewhat confused.
Do your parents and/or siblings know about you and diapers? If so, please explain how, and how they reacted?
Not explicitly about my relationship with diapers. My mum and sister know about my 'little' side, fairly explicitly. I suspect my sister is involved in kink somehow but I don't know the details - nor do I go looking. I suspect she has a fair idea, but hasn't gone looking for me.
Have you dealt with the shame and regret that is the binge/purge cycle? Please explain.
I haven't had this nearly as much as most seem to have - early on (before I got adult sized diapers) I chucked out almost everything a couple of time. Mostly I've been very clear and known this wasn't harming anyone one and that it wouldn't be able to change - other than to a dry diaper, of course. I'm very lucky I have some of my childhood toys still - plushies, toy cars, building blocks. Obviously, not everything I ever owned and there's often things I wish I had when I was actually young that I either buy or add to my Amazon wish list for when I can justify the cash (say, when it's 25% off in the sale).
For collegebabies/DLs, did this interest affect your college experiences? If so, how?
Well, university gave me the freedom away from my parents for the first time, for longer than ever before. Sadly, it didn't last as I dropped out within my first year, so back to living with my parents then.
How has this fetish affected your social life and/or dating? Married life? Parenting?
I don't do "dating" - I'm asexual and don't care. I tend to be a bit of a loner. I have a circle of friend now, many of whom wear themselves but all of whom know and just don't care. I've found a 'home' in a fetish community who are very accepting of alternative lifestyles. Having said that, I've built some close relationships and have become part of an open poly group (presently a triad).
Some experts believe that we become the way we are because of traumas experienced at an early age, including abuse and/or neglect. Do your life experiences bear this out?
Well, theories about bed-wetting being linked could be right for me, I wore diapers every night until I was nearly 8. I was also bullied at school, but my home life was most rather boring and stable. However, I think my interest predates both of these - I recall really wanting to be put into my diaper in the evening at around 5 years old or so.
For the little dunces, please tell us about what it was like to discover this fetish/lifestyle on the Internet. Please be at least 18 at the time of writing, but be specific about what age you discovered it, what sites helped you, and keep this part PG for obvious reasons.
I found various teen baby and such forums from about 14-15 years old, I recall while initially searching for bedwetting forums and teen sized diapers. I found terrible places such as Deekers pages (fortunately gone), plus DPF (which I was aware enough of the potential problems to steer well clear of) and some really good ones which are still around, such as Daily Diapers. Played with having an ABDL Facebook account in parallel to my vanilla one, but it got blocked completely so that went down the drain. Various other diapers specific forums were found and disappeared, but never seemed to be either large enough to work or were full of fake profiles. Eventually I found FetLife in my mid 20s and have been there ever since. I've now also got Twitter and joined Tumblr for a while, until it decided to kill off adult content.
Do your interests involve a subset of this community, such as babyfurs, diaper disciplinarians, wet/messy, sissybabies etc.? Please tell us about it. I won't even try to be specific here; just tell us what you think people should know.
I'm not a sissybaby but I do play with gender both in my ageplay and outside of it. I'm somewhere in the trans* community but I'm still finding myself. I identify as genderfluid and non-binary. I recently came across the wonderful term 'genderpunk' which seems to sum up my attitude to gender a lot of the time. I'm also kinky and enjoy some bondage, such as Segufix, floggings and electroplay with my violet wand. Sometimes (frequently?) this is mixed with ABDL play, such as the ABDL/medical/tickling crossover scene, where I was dragged onto a medical bed and forced into a diaper before being tickled by an evil doctor, including with a violet wand as well as feathers and pinwheels.
What % of your sexual activities and/or masturbation incorporate diapers? Has this caused problems for you? At one point, 100% of my masturbation.
Now slightly dropping, to around 85% or so. Some due to masturbation with other toys, such as magic wands and panties, some with my partner from the poly triad I'm involved in. As they met me at an ABDL event then that's not been an issue. I suspect ABDL and fetish events are now my main socialising so I expect anyone else I might get involved with will know up front about practically all my kink and fetish interests.
If you get into the regression aspect of ABDL please tell us more about that. If you do not, and you have feelings about being lumped into a fetish involving it, explain how it makes you feel.
I love to regress, but I don't always. When I do regress, I split my personality - there's little me there playing and running around and there's my adult side sitting back and watching and even commentating on what's happening around me. It's sort of weird and similar but also different to subspace experiences, although I know I've only tuched the surface of that. I tend to approach AB play and regression on a "fake it 'til you make it" principle - I role play and act little, and if I'm in the right mood with the right people, I'll just regress. I have also found I have older personas which I can sometimes play, I have an older caregiver side, where I ageplay older than I am. But sometimes I'm just a DL and I want my diaper rubbed until I cum or just go out wearing a nappy and do my everyday stuff, go to the cinema or such. Given how generally kinky I am, I have no problems being included with the wider kink community, especially since a number of other kinks seem to have sections which insist their way of doing 'x' isn't to do with sex.
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