Introducing Babyfur Con - Virtual Edition

Virtual Babyfur Con

Saturday, April 25th 2020

Introducing Babyfur Con - Virtual Edition.

Babyfur Con (aka Cub Con) is a convention

devoted entirely to babyfurs!

It will be Las Vegas Nevada sometime in 2021 or 2022. 

This year they'll be doing a virtual con, 

to be held April 25!

Held via Zoom, 

it will be a collection of babyfurs all in one (online) place.

They'll have panels...

Your favorite artists like Marci and Jade

will be talking and drawing cute stuff live. 

The Panel on Padding by Fruitkitty 

featuring the most scientific diaper testing you've ever seen.

Ferix - that cub who makes the really cool cloth diaper

sharing his passion and explaining everything you didn't know

about cloth diapering.

Speaking of which there is a panel on that too - diapering 101. 

For those new to the scene, 

or those that need a refresher, 

Aloha will teach you how to properly diaper

yourself or another. 

Plus more!

They'll have prizes... 

ABU will be donating $50 gift cards

Cub Con will be giving away a 50 pack of custom fursonia #diapersocks

prizes from Tykables and Crinklz

and more!

They'll have babyfur artists galore...

Imagine all your favorite babyfur artists streaming art,

selling commissions, and hanging out all simultaneously!

You will be able to move room to room

checking out all the cute things! 

Signups are happening now...

You can visit babyfurcon.com to register. 

Use code WhyABDL for 30% off! 

Having $ trouble because of COVID-19?

You can fill out a form on their website for consideration. 

Thanks for the invite... 

I was invited to host a panel this year,

but cannot due to a previous vanilla engagement. 

(Damn vanillas). 

It looks like a good time, though... 

They tell me that it will have stuff for

babyfurs and littles alike.

Consider signing up, and let me know how it goes! 

Con Drop Is Real...

CON DROP IS REAL

LittleBroTyTy at CAPCON 2017

‘Con drop’ is real. 

Con drop is that feeling of angst we get when we realize we’re leaving a place where we truly fit in for once, and returning to... real life. 

We wait our whole lives for the kind of cameraderie we achieve at events like CAPCON. 

Conventions are a place where being little, being different, or even being ‘weird’ feels completely natural. So leaving such a place brings on a depressed state that is, for many of us, like no other.

At Con we can run around in diapers, a onesie, or a footed sleeper, and nobody bats an eye.

We begin to feel comfortable in our own skin - or the diapers that cover it. For some of us attending for the first time, it’s the first time we’ll feel that comfortable.

We can literally change outfits every hour, and there’s always going to be someone new to tell us how adorable we look. That feels so empowering, hearing that! And it’s something most of us won’t be able to recapture once we leave this space, at least until we return.

Even if we were dressed as vanilla as could be, we could still have conversations out in the open that we can’t have back home. I talked to a man in a bar about changing a college boy’s first diaper since his toddler days, and the people at the next table joined in with a similar story of their own. Try having that conversation at Applebee’s tomorrow and see if you get the same reaction…

Most of us walked through a virtual mall of ABDL merchandise: diapers, and onesies, and pacifiers, and little gear, and adult baby furniture - tomorrow most of us will have to go back to shopping for those things online. Before this weekend we didn’t mind - now we’ve been waited on by the Casey, and going back to a dot com shopping experience just won’t feel the same.

Whether we spent most of our time this weekend snuggling in one of the cribs, playing in a playpen, racing tricycles around the track at top speed, or just taking deep breaths in the corner and trying to get the courage to talk to someone - or, in some cases, anyone - wherever we’re headed back to tomorrow, it’s likely we won’t be doing any of those things.

Some of us will go to a rave this weekend - but it won’t be the rave.

Some of us will return to classes - but they won’t be these classes.

Once the con organizers start taking down those barriers, this experience known as CAPCON is coming to a close, and real life is rearing its ugly head once again.

So we go back to real life, and what we know as ‘con drop’ begins.

For the first-timers… what is con drop?

First, be prepared to feel irritable for no reason - and to not understand why.

When coworkers or friends bother you with things that seem important to them, but ‘little you’ now realizes is grown-up trivial bullshit, you will resent the shit out of them - so much more so than usual.

Even ordinary responsibilities you were used to before con will seem like such an arduous chore after.

Everyday life stuff will feel exhausting and overwhelming after this high that we experienced over the weekend.

All that contributes to the feelings that we know as ‘con drop’.

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WCJJ In Effect!

Just got a picture message from ABDLShadow out at the West Coast Jungle Gym! You may remember that he was the winner of the free entry from my #Abysitter1mil Photo Contest, of which WCJJ was a sponsor. Sounds like everyone's having a great time - hopefully this event garners some good reviews and some staying power!

Check out the official website here. Thanks for the pic, Shadow - glad you're having fun! 

Prizewinner: West Coast Jungle Gym

Congratulations to ABDLShadow! He's the winner of the West Coast Jungle Gym prize from my Abysitter.com Photo Contest!

West Coast Jungle Gym is a brand new ABDL convention being held in San Diego, CA September 7 - 9 of this year. Ticket sales close August 7, so visit their website and get in now for the inaugural year! Congratulations to ABDLShadow, and thanks to WCJJ for sponsoring the contest!

Click To Visit

Thoughts on CAPCON: Con Drop

Con Drop. 

That's what CAPCON organizers refer to as the low feeling many participants will experience upon leaving the event, after being on a 'high' for so many days - the kind of 'high' that an ABDL can only get by being around other ABDLs. 

In a world where so many of us want to just… feel little… we entered a temporary world created just for us. For one long weekend we were in our element, surrounded by people who think like us, feel like us, and have had many of the same experiences as us. And it was magical. 

There was a space just for 'littles', with a giant ball pit, a high chair, a playpen, and even giant tricycles to ride around on. There were toys and games, fun play mats, huge stuffed animals, tables covered with coloring books and crayons, and all sorts of other things to make you feel little. 

There were classes galore on all sorts of topics, some pertinent to ABs, others to DLs, and even some to daddies and mommies. I especially enjoyed a class called "Still AB After All of these Years", lead by a panel of folks who have been in our community for many decades. I marveled at the sight of someone I remembered from my days in college; I'm not allowed to reveal participant info for confidentiality reasons, but let's just say that this person had their own website before we even had a community site, and was one of the first websites I found on infantilism. I remember thinking, then: "how intensely crazy must someone be to make their own website about this diaper shit?" Now I've had my own for eight years. If you had told me as a college student in the late 1990s that one day we'd be all sitting together celebrating our infantilism, I'd have laughed at you. Yet here we were… 

New this year was a nursery space, set up in a separate area from the main play area. It was quiet and soothing, with soft lighting and pretty colors. I walked through it and saw a changing table, a playpen, a high chair, and a crib. I'm told there was a big rocking horse, as well, although I somehow didn't see it. What I did see were ABies at peace. It was a beautiful thing. Next year I plan to enjoy that nursery myself, as a little - but more about that in a future blog entry. 

There was a pageant on Saturday night where littles had the opportunity to answer a question about what ABDL means to them, as well as show off a talent. There were quite a few talented littles, and we watched as they belted out the hits - including some popular music repurposed for the ABDL scene. At the end prizes were awarded, and raffles winners were announced, as well. There were some touching moments during the pageant, as participants become overwhelmed by their feelings, something I saw a lot of over the weekend. Many of us felt alone for so long, that realizing how un-alone we truly are is… well, overwhelming. 

There was another room filled with vendors. I bought my first-ever Nuk 5 from PacifiersRUs this weekend. You may remember that PacifiersRUs served as a sponsor of both my photo contests a few years back, and offered a special sale to Abysitter.com readers. Guess who didn't get one? That would be this guy. But I bought one at CAPCON, and I am kicking myself for not having bought one sooner. I also bought an awesome Batman lanyard and a backup Nuk 5 from LilKinkBoutique. Baby/Daddy Inky was selling products from a few different manufacturers, including some adorable patches that my good friend Baby Spencey will be adding to some overalls soon. The folks from Tykables were there selling diapers galore, and I saw quite a few people wearing Tykables t's. I remember talking to Todaler circa 2011 about how our ABDL diaper companies did very little to support our community back then, so it's especially nice to see Tykables stepping up and supporting this event. 

There were room parties, too, some private but most open to all. I enjoyed having friends to my own room - I even brought a playpen for the occasion, pictures coming soon. People met up in rooms after each nights events, or went to dinner; I was glad I got a rental car, because I went out to eat with friends and having a car helped. 

Speaking of friends… the best part, for me, was the people. 

I reunited with old friends, including a few I've chilled with in Orlando, or New York, or other places - even some I've babysat before, but who I haven't seen for a few years. 

Lots of first-time meet ups, too. It was funny to see some of the people who I've seen online so often over the years. There were people I recognized immediately just from years of seeing pictures. I met people who have submitted photos to my blog, or who've done Q&A's for it. I met people who've entered my contests. People I am Facebook friends with, or text with a lot, but who I've never met in person, I finally got to meet at this event. I wish I'd had more time to actually sit down and talk with some of them, but we often met in passing - one was volunteering at the moment, and another was in the bouncy chair. But recognizing people you've only seen online was pretty dope. Next year I think I'll host my own room party and hopefully get to actually spend time with some of the people I wish I could have gotten to know better at this event. 

I did get to hang out with some of the people I've gotten to know via the diaper sites, and I found out that they are as awesome in person as their online personas are. I did some diaper changes, and fed someone a bottle, and through all of that had some pretty deep conversations about all kinds of things. CAPCON seems to be a place where you can talk about just about anything, and from that came some very personal stories. If you know me you know I enjoy talking to people about the origins of our fetish/lifestyle, and I had lots of chances to do that here. 

I met some amazing new friends, too - some people who I suspect will become 'con buddies', and some others who may well become lifelong friends. I met people who I felt like I bonded with almost immediately, and as it was happening I kept thinking how none of it would be possible without diapers - diapers were the one thing that brought us together. 

I fucking love diapers. 

Con drop. 

It began this morning for many. Following the pageant, and a whole series of late-nite room party conversations had, new friendships made, Fetlife handles and Tumblr links swapped, and the high all of that brings, Sunday was basically a day for saying goodbyes. 

I watched people cry as they gave each other hugs, promising to keep in touch - and I knew that the con drop that I'd heard spoken of was beginning. I gave and received hugs myself. Then it was my friends' turn to go, and I watched them haul their luggage out on the trolley to the parking lot, and… boom. 

That con drop. 

As I post this rambling collection of things I noticed from the weekend, I am sitting in my room looking at the playpen I set up and was fortunate enough to get to watch some adorable li'l boys chill in. I'm seeing the empty baby food jars a new friend and I ate dinner out of last night. I look over at my phone and want to text someone and ask them if they're in their room like I have so many times this weekend - maybe I'll stop by on my way downstairs - but I remember that they're already out on the road. And I'm reading a text from someone promising to keep in touch, and I'm realizing that after a weekend filled with so many smiles and hugs and - well, just adorable littleness in person - going back to text messages is going to be HARD. 

Con drop. 

Already, though, I'm thinking ahead to the next con. There's US Littles in Colorado. And TeddyCon in the northeast. And CAPCON 2017. After an amazing weekend in my element, surrounded by so many others so much like me, I find myself like so many others leaving - wishing there was a way to make this feeling last. 

This weekend has made me resolved to one day have a permanent little of my own - a way to get some of this feeling every single day. 

Until then, there are con's… and you'll be seeing me at a lot more of them. 

To everyone who made CAPCON 2016 so amazing for me and so many other people here, thank you. 

Reflections on CAPCON: Day One

I am attending my first CAPCON. (That's an acronym for Chicago Ageplayers Conference.) It's actually my first conference of any sort. More accurately, my first real diaper event. And, my first time meeting more than two ABDLs simultaneously. 

I have to say, so far the experience has been amazing.

I arrived at the undisclosed hotel location on Thursday. Scheduled events weren't planned until Friday, save for a pre-con "munch." I checked in and then took a seat in the lobby, hoping to spy someone I knew. Or even anyone else who might be at the convention. 

I'll admit, my first hour or two here was spent curiously checking out the other people in the hotel, trying to determine who was actually with the con and who was probably just a vanilla guest of the hotel. Nobody had been issued their wristbands yet, so it was difficult to determine. 

As folks began to trickle in, I begin to realize something: this was going to be what you might call... an odd bunch. 

There were people in all phases of adult, including more than a few folks who looked like cartoonwear is probably their daily wear. The socially anxious sat in their corners, speaking to no one - as did I - while others, clearly in their element, held conversations with old friends peppered with ageplay terminology, including code words even I didn't understand. 

Weirdos? 

Most definitely. 

I kept reminding myself, "not weird - just unique." But as a collection of people with unique qualities grew, I caught myself second-guessing, wondering if I might have made a mistake.

I found myself saying, "Yup - this is exactly who I'd expect to see at an ageplay convention" a lot. I saw before me an assortment of social misfits, brought together only by a common interest, it seemed. 

As more and more people arrived, though, I began to have a realization: these were MY people...

Eventually it occurred to me that I, too, was someone the other people around me were probably looking at and saying, "Yup - that's exactly who I'd expect to see at an ageplay convention." 

People began to introduce themselves to me, and as I met them I began to view what I first saw as "weirdness" - ahem, "uniqueness" - as something to be embraced. In them, and in me. 

I felt bad for being so judgmental myself. I'm the guy who is constantly saying "Fuck normal - normal is boring." 

What kind of asshole was I being...

After a while the CAPCON folks outnumbered the vanilla folks, who probably had no idea they were sharing a hotel with such an alternative convention, but almost certainly must have noticed a mass of fellow hotel guests wearing all sorts of childish t-shirts, overalls, and etc.

Where I had first sat trying to pick out people might be visiting the convention, I later found myself trying to pick out people who might not be with us at all. 

A part of me felt sorry for the regular people.

I noticed the judgmental looks two men in business attire gave each other when a woman with pigtails and a brightly-colored bow walked by, and I couldn't help but think how close they had just come to becoming acquainted with a crowd of some of the purest, most nonjudgmental people they might ever meet.

Being surrounded by all of these people in person who share so many of my own weird/unique qualities - the ones we refer to as "little"/ABDL - made me proud to be "different." 

When you're attending a convention with so many guests that your group outnumbers everyone else, are you really that different at all? 

Or, after a while, are the outsiders - now in the minority - the "weird" ones?

Hmm... :P

It was an amazing feeling to be with my people - to be accepted for who I am and, after an initial bout of sizing people up, to just accept everyone for who they were, as well. 

I am looking forward to a great weekend at my first diaper convention. And while no photos inside the convention space are allowed save the official photos - what happens in a con stays in the con - I will do my best to give you an overview of my experience. 

I definitely did not a mistake - the only mistake I made was not doing one of these sooner. 

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By the way, got to hang out with a group in my hotel room, including some old friends, Baby Spencey and his daddy, Paul, and some new friends, too. If you are at this event, hit me up somewhere - text, email, sites, whatever - and let's make a point of meeting up and saying hello.

CAPCON 2016

CAPCON 2016

Me and Pomsky

are going to be attending

CAPCON

this year! 

I've posted ads for CAPCON on my blog before,

but this will be my first time actually attending this

(or any) conference. 

I'm excited! 

I can't wait to meet some of the people

I've been talking to for a decade or more. 

Looking forward to the classes, especially... 

...some cool learning experiences, sounds like. 

Yay! 

(Interested in hearing the discussion

about the history of ABDL, especially. 

Because I'm old and was there for part of it lol.)

Don't be shy! 

Email me: 

abysitter@gmail.com

or text me

and let me know you're going to be there! 

I'd also like to do a few photoshoots for the blog, 

so if anyone attending is up for it, definitely get in touch. 

See you in Chicago! 

CAPCON - who's going?

Just bought my ticket to CAPCON. 

Not even 100% sure I can go,

but hoping this will be the year I get to the event

and get to meet some of you

for the first time. 

Who's going? 

Who's been before and has tips for me? 

Hit me up

in the comments below, 

email me at

abysitter@gmail.com

or text me

if you've got the number! 

Cwis

Crib Notes: IML Diaper Party

CRIB NOTES: IML DIAPER PARTY

Friday, May 25th 2012

[CWIS'S NOTE]: I won't personally be in attendance at this event. Wish I could be, sounds like it's going to be a lot of fun... but for anyone able to make it, details are below:

Hello All

The time has come once again for IML and for Spring to turn to Summer.

The Chicago Daperbois are hosting their annual IML cookout on Friday May 25, 2012 from 4PM until people get bored and leave. This historically has been a way for people to connect, make plans for the weekend and catch up. Many of you haven’t seen each other for a whole year.

Should you be interested in coming or if you know a Leather, Rubber, Pup, Furry, AB/DL, or Bondage person that is, RSVP to Cloolessboi@yahoo.com for more details.

Usually we serve burgers, brats, potato salad etc., along with veggie offerings and a whole lot of good time. We of course also serve alcoholic and non-alcoholic beverages to get the weekend rolling.

Also babywabbit will be facilitating a party at the host hotel that we will be helping him with. More info to come on that. This year would like to get a group pic in the lobby of the host hotel with ebody wearing.

Should you have any questions or comments give us a shout.

Puck

Want to visit the International Mr. Leather official site? Click here. 

Hosting an ABDL event? Hit me up for an announcement: abysitter@gmail.com. 

Announcing: CAPCon!

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