Guest Entry: On Tumblr - by DiaperWhiz

Guest Entry by DiaperWhiz

This is a piece I wrote about tumblr. If you don't know what tumblr is, it is a micro-blogging site that deals primarily in photos. There is other kinds of content there yes, but mostly images. Some people post images that are inspiring, some people post images of places they want to visit, and predictably some people post porn. If you are not aware of tumblr and you are in this community then I suggest you find out and be educated, especially when it comes to sharing visual content. This is not a piece designed to "hate on" anyone who has a diaper related tumblr, it is merely an issue that i think needs some clarity in this community and a healthy discussion. 

Over the years I have gone back and forth about showing images of my face on diaper sites. I want to meet people in the community and have them know i am a real person, and I'm not some creep. And a guess part of it is vanity too. wanting to show a cute face and getting nice things said about you. I never got nice things said about me growing up so maybe it comes from that. But I also think part of it is about wanting to give something back to the community. I like to know that I can be a cute boy in a diaper and share it with others if it brings them joy or makes them feel normal or sexy ;) . I like sharing that we all share this interest and its kinda naughty and its kinda nice. But its about the community in the end. Sharing our common kink.

I have found this to be good for helping meet new people, its always nice to have a face when you are chatting with someone. I hate chatting to torsos or diaper crotch shots. Having a face makes the other person feel real and it validates you. people will tell me that if I put it out on the internet then I should expect that it will be downloaded. I believe that. I am a photographer so I am aware how people can take images from anywhere on the web. I don't mind if a couple of horney guys want to download my image and jerk to it, I mean I've done the same thing. There are some cute boys out there. Hollar! hahaha, but seriously thats what I share them for. a kind of quid pro quo

But every once and a while I would get creeped out by something someone said or by just about having my face out there that. Like many people I went through purge periods. For a while I was putting pics out there but blurring my face. I think lately though since its clear that I am not going to be famous, lol, I have started putting just a few face pics out there again. That is until I saw one of my images recently on tumblr. Lucky for me my face was cut out. Im not sure whether or not I should be offended by that but I was happy none the less.

I contacted the blogger and asked hime to take the photo down as it was not his and I had not sanctioned my sexy body to be salaciously thrown on to just any old blog. But he took forever to get back to me. When he did, he removed the photo. But now my image was on a dozen or so more sites, because they had reblogged it from him. Think of it as a visual retweet. But there was no way that I could contact every single blog owner and have them remove the image. Down the rabbit hole my poor diapered bottom went. and to add insult to injury, it wasn't even a flattering photo.

I had been keyed onto diaper tumblrs because I myself was a tumblr user. Though I posted inspiring images to help me with ideas for my photography. One day I searched the keyword diaper and all these tumblrs came up. At first I was overjoyed! it was churning out some really great material. I never wanted to leave my bed! until of course that I realized that my images were at risk too.

Sharing images online now it totally different from when I was first using the internet. When I first came on the scene people were still using news groups to talk about ABDL related info. Granted I was 13 at the time and the internet was very new, but when you spent your early teens waiting minutes (GASP!) minutes for a single image to download, well you can imagine that never in our wildest dreams did we think that sometime like tumblr was even possible. Boy were we wrong.

There has always been a kind code in the community. I've liked that. There was something about wearing diapers that scared us all from a young age. As if it was so weird that we would literally DIE if anyone found out. I remember feeling like that. Something that I have always appreciated about this community is its discreetness. Why do you think diapers come through the mail in plain shipping. Because we want to be discreet. Just because we share images with each other online in our little corner of the web, does not mean that we don't wish to be discreet. When someone takes an image of an ABDL  who has been brave enough to show their face and shares it online without their consent than that is a betrayal of the community and the discreetness that we all live by. 

I know that some people don't care if their images are out there and to them I say thank you. haha. But its tricky unless you know people personally to stop the sharing. Im not saying that people shouldn't post their pictures, I like seeing a cute boy in a diaper, Im not even saying that diaper tumblrs should go away. But I do think that a code of ethics is needed. Crop the face if you don't have permission, or get permission. Don't leave your fellow diaper brethren open to exposure or outting. 

 

How would you feel if the diaper was on you?

 

 

 

DiaperWhiz is a regular Abysitter.com reader and contributor. He previously completed a Q&A you can read here, and was a winner of my First-Ever ABDL Photo Contest... you can see his entry here. If you enjoyed reading his entry please let him know - contact him directly or leave a comment below. And if you would like to contribute something of your own, please contact me at abysitter@gmail.com. Thanks, DiaperWhiz!

Reader Mail: Letter of Thanks

[CWIS'S NOTE] I am going back through my email trying to find stuff I haven't seen before, including photos, letters, and guest entries. This email actually just arrived today. I'll have more in the days and weeks ahead. 

Reminder: Email me at abysitter@gmail.com. But if you are sending me something that you would specifically like to see posted on this blog, please state that in the email. I try not to post stuff that's meant to be private, for me, but sometimes I can't tell. Thanks!

Dear Cwis,

I am a junior in college in Boston. I have been reading your blog since the day I turned 18, literally. Maybe even a little bit before that, but I'm not telling…

I have appreciated your blog for a few years now. I recognize that your blog is different from nearly every other website or blog within the AB/DL community, at least the ones I've seen, in that you care about us as a community, and not just yourself. Also, the fact that your blog stays away from posting obvious photos of children, as so many Tumblr blogs and even some real AB/DL blogs do, is a plus. I respect you as a blogger more than I do most others. When you weigh in on a topic in the forums on RUPadded or Diaper-Bois.com your opinion gets more respect from me, and others, than that of a normal AB/DL person.

I'm not writing to go on and on about you, though. I am writing to let you know about an experience I had over the weekend, and how you played a role in it.

Last spring I got a message from a young AB/DL. He had just graduated high school, and was going to be attending the same school I do here in Boston. He had found me on RUPadded. He'd never met another AB/DL, since there really aren't any near where he lives. He saw me online, hit me up with a chat message, and asked if I'd be interested in getting to know each other. I, of course, said yes… he seemed really cool, and he's really, really attractive too, certainly not a downside in our community. We agreed we'd meet up when he got to campus.

The summer dragged on, and on and on. I had the opportunity to meet up with a few other diaper boys, and had a lot of hot fun - but I couldn't wait for [Chad] to come to campus! We talked a lot online, and eventually that turned into texting, which turned into phone calls. As July finished up and August started we were talking on the phone nearly an hour every night. It was, as you might say, magical. It seemed like we were connecting in a hundred different ways, and I couldn't wait to meet him.

He arrived on campus last week. After his parents left he called my cell.

"You on campus, bro?" he asked me.

"I sure am," I replied, excited.

"Ok," he told me. "FaceTime me and show me."

I was like… um?

I was in my dorm. I connected to wi-fi and called him on FaceTime. He answered, and I could see he was standing in front of a building, outside. He looked at me, and as his eyes adjusted to his iPhone screen he looked disappointed.

I was so sad.

But then he said "Bro, you're inside a room. How can I tell you're on campus?" And I could see he was disappointed not in me, but in the fact that I wasn't in a clearly identifiable spot on our campus. I was surprised by this. He and I had talked once about the need to be safe, but I didn't realize how serious he was. I walked across the room to my window, which has a clear view of a main building on campus, and stood in front of it, holding the phone up to show myself and the view. He immediately cracked a smile.

"I don't know the campus very well yet," he told me. I replied by telling him my dorm and room number, and he immediately looked confused. I started to explain how to find it and he interrupted me.

"We are meeting somewhere public, right?" he asked.

I was surprised, again. We'd talked. A lot. And he'd never given me any reason to think that he didn't trust me. Now he wanted to meet somewhere public? Ok…

I suggested a meeting spot, and he agreed. I hauled ass to get there and was sitting at a table, waiting, when I saw him walk in. He walked down the stairs, looking all around. Eventually our eyes met and he cautiously made his way to me. I stood up and offered a hug, which he accepted. Then I sat down. Before he did, though, he pulled out his wallet and his driver's license. I was like… ok what? He held his license out so his finger was over the address, but I could see his name, date of birth, and picture. I wasn't really sure what I was supposed to be looking for. I said "COOL BRO" and he put it away. Then he stood in front of me, not sitting down. He finally said "Can I see yours?"

At this point I had to laugh. I knew exactly what was going on. He'd read some of your blog posts about checking ID, and was doing it. I showed him my license, letting him see my address and everything. He seemed much more comfortable, and finally sat down.

"Sorry, bro," he said, "this is my first-ever meet up."

We talked for a few hours. I even got up to get a cup of coffee, and he got up to pee twice. We talked about so much. It was surprising that we had that much to talk about, since we'd already talked for hours on the phone, but we did. While it's true that we talked about college a lot, I'd say that at least half of our conversation had to do with diapers, and we honestly didn't even notice that other people seated around us might have been able to hear.

It was while we were talking that I realized how much your blog really means to people in our community.

First, it was clear to me that my new friend was pretty new in the community. I really was his first diaper meet. And he went over his criteria for meeting: first talk online; then text; then phone; then FaceTime or some kind of proof of identity; and then meet - but somewhere in public. Never in a private place - like a dorm.

"I read that on Abysitter.com," he told me matter-of-factly. "You don't EVER meet up with people in private if you're not 100% sure they're who they say they are."

My friend has never talked to you. But he's been reading your blog since high school, and told me he's even scrolled back and read every entry since the beginning. He didn't seem aware that you are just one person, and kept referring to your blog like it was an AB/DL community site. When I told him I'd texted with you before he looked pretty surprised. In fact, you might even get a text from him, because when I explained that your number is right on your blog and you'll text with anyone he was pretty stoked.

He told me how, when he was in high school, he got messages from a daddy. The messages were flattering, at first. But they quickly became creepy and, when he explained that he felt uncomfortable, they only intensified. He then found himself getting messages from other people on behalf of the daddy, people who tried to criticize him for not responding "nicely" to the daddy, and people trying to tell him to give the daddy a "second chance." These messages, too, intensified over time. It all culminated with the daddy and his boys trying to, basically, bribe him… basically offering things like free diapers, at first, and eventually offering to pay for a plane ticket for him to travel to visit.

He was a junior in high school, not quite 18, though legal in his state. He'd never met anyone into diapers before, and he told me that, after he started getting "messages from randoms" he started to be kind of scared of putting his information out there.

That's when he read a post on your blog about this very topic.

He explained to me that, after he read your blog post, it was like you'd been talking directly to him. He decided to make his first meet up with someone a special one, and to avoid daddies completely, at least at first. He chose me because we would be going to the same college and, while he had offers of travel expenses paid to meet others, he realized that any offer, be it free diapers or a plane ticket, would probably come with expectations - sexual or otherwise. He knew if he met up with someone on his terms, he could have a little control over what happened next.

"My biggest worry was meeting someone on my campus," he told me. He explained that he was concerned about blackmail. On the other hand, he'd found the dozens of pictures I've posted of myself to be a "an insurance policy against that." I had to laugh… this kid had thought it all out, 100% and then some. As he explained to me what he'd learned, I realized how much information your blog has that's of use to AB/DL's new to the community.

We'd talked for hours when I thought of your story about your first AB/DL meet up. Maybe he was waiting for me to invite him to diaper up and I was missing out on my only opportunity? With that I asked him if he wanted to go back to my room. He blushed, and asked me for what.

"Diapers?" I suggested, leaving it there.

He said he'd go, and we walked across campus together. I saw people I knew and they all had to come over to say hello, having not seen me since last semester. I introduced my new friend to all of them. One asked if he was my "little brother" and I told her "pretty much." I could see that [XXXX] seemed kind of happy when he heard that.

We got to my dorm and went up to my room. I have a single this year, and my diapers aren't well-hidden as a result. He saw one sitting on my desk right when he walked in, and started laughing, then quickly closed the door behind us.

"Wow, you've got balls," he told me. "What if your roommate gets here?"

"No roommate," I told him.

"Damn, I got three," he told me. "I'm so sad. I'm on my own, and I'll never get to wear diapers!"

With that I invited him to come over and wear at my place anytime. He looked excited and scared at the same time. And then he hit me with this:

"I think that once we get to know each other better I'm going to have to take you up on that offer."

I could see that, as much as I felt like we'd gotten to know each other, he was going to be extra cautious. And I understood why. For a brief second I thought "Damn Cwis and his blog… scaring people out of wanting to diaper up!"

But as he went through my supply of diapers, we talked, and your blog came up again. And he asked me if I'd ever read "Chris's message." And, weirdly, I knew exactly what he was referring to. I told him I had. And he told me that it was that entry, and others, that made him accept his AB/DL-side - and, he said, made him be willing to meet up in the first place.

"Without reading some of that stuff I'd still be racked with guilt, throwing away diapers just after I buy them," he told me.

I realized that your blog, and texting with you, has actually helped me a lot, too. So I had to agree with him.

"I'll be honest, bro," he told me. "After being harassed by a sex-crazed daddy and his flunky sons, I was thinking maybe meeting people was farther than I wanted to take this fetish. And if I went solely on what I read in forums on RUPadded I'd be afraid to meet anyone at all." He went on to explain that some of the entires you've written, and some of the guest entries he's read, have helped him realize how normal some of the people in our community are.

"And," he told me, "to be honest, meeting you has been one of the best things I've ever done."

Since that day we've chilled twice, and we even went on some diaper sites together, including your blog. If you ever need someone to take over your blog for a while hit up [XXXX] - he's an expert, and knows where every single entry is over the past few years.

This weekend we're going to spend Labor Day at a picnic - my friends are throwing it, and I've invited him to come along. And he has asked about spending Monday night at my place - in diapers.

He's been hit up by the daddy since he got here, but he's completely avoided him, simply deleting his messages. I got to see a few, and they really are creepy. I can honestly say that your blog helped someone avoid being victimized. And I wanted to thank you for that.

Far too many blogs just exploit our community, posting stolen pictures and pictures of minors. Yours rocks, Cwis, in that it does none of these things, and seeks to help our community instead.

I wanted to let you know that you are helping our community, and I got to see that firsthand over the past few weeks.

Please continue what you are doing….


Sincerely,
[XXXXXXX X.]

I'm Not Ignoring You. Probably.

Sup!

I get a lot of email. So much so that I often have trouble keeping up with the volume.

I feel awful when I go back through my inbox and see all of the messages I read and just didn't have time to respond to. I always think I'll respond later, but sometimes by the time I get to responding to emails I have a bunch of messages that have come in since I read the original message, and I just never got to it.

You've probably seen people trashing me in different forums on diaper sites because they feel that I believe I'm too good to reply, or that I'm ignoring them, etc.

Sometimes I am ignoring someone, but more often than not I was just extremely busy when their message came in and I missed it.

I have seven or more email accounts all funneling email into my phone, and on top of my diaper life, I have a home life and work life too. I will sometimes get a dozen or two emails in a few days related to stuff having nothing to do with this blog. I once got more than 100 emails just related to my fax service in the period of an hour. Those messages, and the fact that I just suck at managing them, sometimes result in long delays in reading - and/or my failure to reply - to diaper-related correspondence.

I am now taking a day or two to go through my inbox, to try to get to as many emails as I can.

If you sent me an essay I didn't use, or pictures I never posted, you may see those in the next few days.

And if you have anything to email me, now is the time...

Don't ever be afraid to message me if I haven't responded to an email within a few days. Seriously.

And I do text with people I know, so if you and I are close on a diaper site, or already email, shoot me your digits and I'll hit you up with a text.

In the meantime, if you ever took the time to write something heartfelt, or something that took you some time to compose, and I didn't reply, rest assured it was not my lack of interest in what you sent me.

Please find it and send it again, ASAP.

I do tend to ignore messages from people who only want to talk baby talk. I do tend to ignore messages from people who I can clearly see are only trying to stir up drama. And I do tend to ignore messages from people who appear to be fake - I have found these are often people who have been ignored before and went on to create new accounts from which to be adored in the future. Lol!

But if you are a real dude, wrote to me, and I didn't get back to you... please write again.

Or at the very least, understand that it is the volume of stuff that fills my inbox, and nothing to do with you, that caused me not to respond.


Cwis
abysitter@gmail.com

PS - I may soon switch to an email system that allows me to better organize my messages. And I may be looking for someone to help me with the blog. More on that later.

Q&A: Teenbaby96

[CWIS'S NOTE] Up today I have some great pictures, and a Q&A, from Teenbaby96, a collegebaby from Malaysia. Teenbaby96 is my first Q&A respondent from Malaysia, and I'm psyched that he took the time to answer some questions and give us some perspective from a different part of the world. 

My blog map and analytics show that this blog has readers on six of the continents. (What, no ABDLs in Antartica? hehe). I'd love to have people from other continents introduce themselves, so if you come from any other country or continent and want to give us Americans - and about 90% of my blog readers are from the US - a foreign perspective, please contact me. 

Thanks for being a part of this, Teenbaby96!

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 Q&A with TeenBaby96

Name/Nick: Teenbaby96
Age: 21
City/State/Country: Malaysia
Just an AB/DL, more AB than DL

• When did you first realize you were ABDL?

Since I was little I been interested in diapers. It started as
something out of curiosity but after I tried it, I liked it, well more
than like actually, I LOVE IT. Somewhere along the way this love of
diapers turned into something more. I didn't even know anything about
ABDL till I was around 15, I stumbled on it when I was browsing the
internet. From then on I thought of myself as an ABDL.

• What steps did you take to get your diaper 'fix' as a child and/or teen?

As a child money is hard to come by, even the allowances that I get
weekly isn't enough to buy diapers so I had to consort to other
devious methods, you might have heard this over and over again but I
just had to say it, I STOLE MY LIL BRO'S DIAPERS. Talk about
desperate, but of course they are small and couldn't fit me so
necessary modification, mainly cellophane tape, I know usually people
tend to use duct tape, but we dont have any, so I just use what I got.
Other than that, I used my old cloth diapers with the plastic cover
that you tie up, my mum didn't use it on my lilbro, I think its
because she's tired of washing poopy diapers, mainly mine when I was
little, hahaha.

• Do your parents and/or siblings know about you and diapers? If so,
please explain how, and how they reacted?

My mum found out a couple of times, the first time when she found one
of my used diapers when I was 19, yes it was full (and I dont mean
just pee) she confronted me. She was really mad at that, I guess I was
so scared that I couldn't even speak, that how much she was mad at me.
The second time was when she found my stash of Mamypoko diapers (yes I
used to fit in them, if you have a 28 or smaller size waist, you would
too), this was about a year ago. She confronted me again, this time in
a worry tone, she said I was sick and if she found diapers again she
would take me to the doctors to get my problem "fixed", this time I
managed to talk, I said "Mum this isn't a problem, its not like I'm
taking drugs or anything, I just like to wear them" but sadly it only
fell on deaf ears, she insisted that I stopped, till today she doesn't
know that I'm still wearing them every now and then.

• For collegebabies/DLs, did this interest affect your college
experiences? If so, how?

Not really, college is stressfull, diapers helps me to release stress,
I guess it does effect me in a positive way. I cant really wear all
the time, only when my roomates aren't around that I can really BABY
OUT. Its fun even if I only get to do it once in a while.

• How has this fetish affected your social life and/or dating?

Dont think it has, I have a bf (yes I'm gay) and he understands me as
an ABDL, he's not into it but at least he understands. He even agreed
to try wearing diapers with me, this has yet to be done, but it
something to look forward in the future.

• What % of your sexual activities and/or masturbation incorporate
diapers? Has this caused problems for you?

If I had to put it in percentage, it would be around 30-40%, not all
masturbation incorporate diapers, I rarely masturbate in them,
sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. I'd do it when I feel like it.
Haven't had diaper sex before, would love to try it someday if I can
get my bf to do it with me.

• If you get into the regression aspect of ABDL please tell us more
about that.

Well not really regression, more to hypnosis, I tried all sorts of
hypnosis (free ones of course), like hypnosis to regress me to a baby
(that didn't work), and hypnosis so I wet everytime I wear diapers (I
guess it did made it easier for me to pee in diapers a little). For
someone like me who's a lil sceptic, its hard for it to work.

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Want to complete a Q&A?

You can be from any continent hehe.

You can be AB, DL, babyfur,

or any other variety of the community. 

Just be 18+. 

Email me: abysitter@gmail.com. 

Put "Q&A" in the subject header.

Q&A: Dprderic

[CWIS'S NOTE] Up today I have a Q&A and some cute pictures from Dprderic. Dprderic is a long-time member of our community. He has his own blog, Tales of the ABDL Kind, which I highly recommend you check out. Thanks for the Q&A, Eric!

PS - Still waiting on a bunch. Hit me up when they're done!

Q&A with Dprderic

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Name/Nick: Dprderic and Bbyboyeric
(Eric is not my real name, that comes later in the relationship)
Age: 30
City/State/Country: Dallas, TX, USA
AB/DL/BabyFur/Other? AB and a DL

• When did you first realize you were ABDL?

My earliest memories are of watching the toddlers in my daycare being changed. I may have been around 5 or older, definitely long out of diapers. Either way, my potty-training experience was not the most entertaining phase of my life, and as a result I grew terrified of having accidents, longing for the security diapers alone provided against accidents.

• What steps did you take to get your diaper 'fix' as a child and/or teen?

Before I had a job, diapers were very hard to come by. Like many others, I wore multiple pairs of underwear, tried to (unsuccessfully, I might add) tie towels around me like a diaper, and sometimes stuffed tons of toilet paper in my underwear for extra padding. I'm surprised my mother never mentioned that we were going through so much toilet paper.

Once I finally got a job and was making money, I bought my first package of diapers: a package of the largest Huggies I could find, I think. Unfortunately, they didn't fit, but it was one of the most exciting moments in my life. After that, I used Goodnites until I finally discovered adult diapers.

• Do your parents and/or siblings know about you and diapers? If so, please explain how, and how they reacted?

Hell no! Diapers are a fetish for me and informing anyone in my family about it would be like inviting them to watch what I do during sex. For me, it's a bit creepy to even consider the prospect.

That being said, I can't imagine my parents don't know that I sometimes wore diapers to bed, or even around the house. My mom has a super sensitive nose after all, and I'm sure I couldn't keep the covers off of me during the entire night. My parents are the type to notice but not say anything. 

• Have you dealt with the shame and regret that is the binge/purge cycle? Please explain.

Thankfully, I am past this stage (at least I hope!). However, I remember it well. Several times throughout my life I have picked up all of my diaper-related paraphernalia, thrown it all into a trash bag, and walked to the dumpster. And each time I was sure it would be the last time I'd indulge in such a strange "sexual thing." Now that I have spent a number of years on various diaper sites and have meet a number of really cool people online, I have not experienced a purging in a very long time. Hell, the binge/purge cycle gets expensive after a while.

• For collegebabies/DLs, did this interest affect your college experiences? If so, how?

While I am going back to school for my PhD in a year, I am not technically a collegebaby/DL. Also, I lived alone or with my parents while in college, so I wouldn't say any of this affected my college experience. Although, there were a few times when stressed, because of my ever increasing work load, that I would hold up in my apartment for a weekend and wear for two days straight. Those were fun times. 

• How has this fetish affected your social life and/or dating? Married life? Parenting?

I wouldn't say I've had a lot of boyfriends in my life. I'm rather shy and a bit awkward around hot guys. All in all, I've had three boyfriends. The first two had no idea about my fetish because I never told them and they weren't around long enough to discover it on their own. My current boyfriend found out by accident because I foolishly left RUPadded open on my laptop, so I found myself having to explain it.

Of course, he freaked out. He's still standoffish about it all and doesn't want to participate, or see it really, but he has at least accepted it and no longer thinks I'm a pedophile.

Outside of my romantic attachments, none of my friends know, and I plan on keeping it that way. I might tell my best friends some day, but that's a long way off. 

• Some experts believe that we become the way we are because of traumas experienced at an early age, including abuse and/or neglect. Do your life experiences bear this out?

I tend to believe this as well, at least in how it relates to me. Actually, I've written about it on my own blog. The short of it goes like this: Because I had such a hard time with potty-training, my brain became fixated on the idea of security, of returning to a time when I didn't have to worry about having accidents. 

Many may not consider potty-training to be sufficiently traumatizing, but to a two-year old not ready to quit diapers, there may not be anything worse.

• Some people have pointed out their observation that a larger-than-average number of multiple birth babies (twins, etc.) rep the ABDL lifestyle. If you are one of these, please explain what effect, if any, you feel this may have had on your ABDLishness.

This does not apply to me. I do have a sister who is rather close in age, but I wouldn't say it had any affect on my becoming an ABDL.

• For the older generation, please tell us more about what it was like being ABDL before social networking. I will be looking for the perspectives of members in their 40s, 50s, and even higher.

I have not reached this milestone yet, still have about another ten years. Personally, I think I came into this lifestyle at the right time. Had I not had access to the Internet, I'm not sure I would have adjusted as well as I have to being an having a diaper fetish.

Bravo to those who had to deal with all of this before the Internet!

• For the little dunces, please tell us about what it was like to discover this fetish/lifestyle on the Internet. Please be at least 18 at the time of writing, but be specific about what age you discovered it, what sites helped you, and keep this part PG for obvious reasons.

At sixteen I discovered DPF and Deeker's. Both are now pretty much defunct, and while the latter was uncomfortably okay with stories involving minors, both sites were my introduction to the ABDL lifestyle and I must acknowledge that. It was such a relief to find both sites. Discovering them was the beginning of accepting this part of my life. 

• Do your interests involve a subset of this community, such as babyfurs, diaper disciplinarians, wet/messy, sissybabies etc.? Please tell us about it. I won't even try to be specific here; just tell us what you think people should know.

While I have been a part of the community (strictly online so far, so at a bit of a distance) for a while now, I can't say I've had much experience with any of the subsets mentioned above. I do enjoy using my diapers, both wet and mess, but my as the rest, I'm still pretty green. 

• What % of your sexual activities and/or masturbation incorporate diapers? Has this caused problems for you?

Since I have a boyfriend who does not participate in anything diaper-related, 100% of my sex life with him does not involve diapers. However, he once fucked me while I was wearing a footed sleeper (no diaper), which was insanely hot.

Nearly all of my masturbatory activities involve at least diapers. If I don't have any diapers available, I either watch videos or read some of the wonderful stories written by other ABDLs. :)

• If you get into the regression aspect of ABDL please tell us more about that. If you do not, and you have feelings about being lumped into a fetish involving it, explain how it makes you feel.

 As I have grow older, ironically, I have started to enjoy being treated as a baby. I don't think a 24/7 lifestyle is possible for me, but I love the idea of being regressed for a much shorter time frame, say a weekend or maybe even a week. Any more than that, and I'd have to seriously consider the implications, especially since I'd have to explain my diaper-wearing to my family.

Don't let yourself be limited by my questions. If you have anything else at all that you would like to say please feel free to say it here:

These questions are pretty thorough, so I can hardly write anything more here. However, I would like to take this moment to mention my own blog, if I may: http://www.talesoftheabdlkind.blogspot.com. My blog is mostly a collection of my short stories, which explains the fact that I don't post as much as Cwis does, but I have written a couple of "explanation" pieces as well.

Q&A: Robby

 [CWiS'S NOTE] This is my first Q&A in a while. I know I have a shit ton out there... seems like some of y'all are struggling with coming up with the answers. This dude did it in a matter of minutes, so if you have a Q&A email and you're mulling over your answers, speed it up! And if you want to answer one but don't have the email or need me to send it again, email abysitter@gmail.com and put "Q&A" in the subject header. You can read all of the Q & A's I've posted so far at www.QandA.abysitter.com.

This Q&A is from Robby. You may have seen his photo set yesterday, and i'm hoping we'll get treated to more in the future. For now, here's a chance to get to know a little more about him...

Q & A with Robby

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Name/Nick: Robby

Age: 18

City/State/Country: San Diego, CA

AB/DL/BabyFur/Other? Babyfur

The questions are:

• When did you first realize you were ABDL?
 

Ummm, not entirely sure when exactly i realized i was AB/DL.  I was wearing diapers until i was 16 for bedwetting problems, and had always enjoyed the aspect of being treated younger than i actually was.  I remember just always enjoying it when someone would say i was adorable or cute cause of the way i acted all the time, i guess it just made me feel special rather than normal like everyone else and i liked it.  

• What steps did you take to get your diaper 'fix' as a child and/or teen?

I was still in diapers at night my entire life and would sneak them during the day whenever i wanted to.  

• Do your parents and/or siblings know about you and diapers? If so, please explain how, and how they reacted?

My whole family pretty much knows about me wearing diapers.  When i was about 12 or so i had summed up the courage to tell my mom that i actually enjoyed wearing them.  She kinda just told me that if it makes me happy she didn't really care.  After that she let me wear em whenever i wanted to and would even change me whenever i needed it.  But she also made a point of embarrassing me a little in front of my friends when they would come over.  All my friends knew about me wearing them, they kind of had to if i was going to have any kind of a social life lol…  But my mom would change me even if my friends were over, so it was a little embarrassing, but i still enjoyed it.

• For collegebabies/DLs, did this interest affect your college experiences? If so, how?

Well i didn't go to college, but i did join the Marines.  It really didn't affect me, i got through bootcamp and the rest of my training with a few bedwettings but i still made it through.  And now that I'm done with training and everything I'm back in diapers.  I still almost wear 24/7 to work and everything.  It can be a bit scary at times, seeing how if anyone find out i could get into trouble with the military, but i kinda enjoy that sense or feeling, just knowing you might get caught, or might get into trouble…idk it just kinda excites me hehe

• How has this fetish affected your social life and/or dating? 

Socially it started affecting me when i was still in diapers for bedwetting.  Mostly because for me to have any kind of like…sleepover, my friend or at least my friends parent had to know about me being in diapers…so i ended up just telling all of my friends.  It ended up with pretty much everyone during all my school years knowing about them, and ya i got harassed a lot about it.  So going through school was kinda hard.

• Do your interests involve a subset of this community, such as babyfurs, diaper disciplinarians, wet/messy, sissybabies etc.? Please tell us about it. I won't even try to be specific here; just tell us what you think people should know.

Umm I'm a Babyfur, my fursona is a Baby Panther/ Hyena hybrid.  Ive been a part of the Babyfur community since i was like 13 and have met a lot of great friends through it.  It gave me another way to just enjoy being who i am and continue being cute and adorable hehe :P

• What % of your sexual activities and/or masturbation incorporate diapers? Has this caused problems for you?

Percentage wise I'm not too sure lol…. some of my sex life does involve diapers, and i do have a lot of diaper fantasies….so id say maybe like, 40%.  It doesn't really cause any problems, i can still have sex without diapers being involved with no issues, but diapers always make it more fun hehe

• If you get into the regression aspect of ABDL please tell us more about that. If you do not, and you have feelings about being lumped into a fetish involving it, explain how it makes you feel.

I've always loved being treated like a baby. It makes me feel like I have no real worries, that someone else is going to take care of me and i have nothing to worry about. When I regress it kinda just takes the whole stress of Military life off of my shoulders. It also used to kinda be a therapy treatment for me when I was still in school and living at home. Starting about the time I turned 13, if I was ever just feeling horrible, like really sad or depressed, my mom would kind of treat me as though i was still 2 years old. She'd talk to me like i was a baby, or she might cuddle me while we watched a movie, or give me a bottle and pretty much just baby me til i was happy again. I had an aunt that kinda babied me, too, and since I've gotten older I've had a few friends try it out. :P

Diaper Pictures: Robby

Up today, some hot/fresh diaper pics from someone new: Robby.

Robby is 18 and living in San Diego. You'll find him on some of the diaper sites.

If Robby has a military look about him, that's for a reason. I have to say, I love when someone looks hard as fck - yet soft as hell in a diaper. That's a contradiction that definitely works for me.

Enjoy the pictures. Thanks for sharing them with us, Robby!

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Hope to see more from Robby in the future. 

For anyone else: 18+ only to

abysitter@gmail.com. 

Sign Pic: RobbiexRainbow

I almost forgot to post this picture with the photoset donated by RobbiexRainbow this week. He started it off with a fresh, custom-made sign for me, but I didn't remember that when I was posting all of the dope-ass diaper shots haha.

Y'all know by now that I love me some signage. So I gotta give it up to Robbie for not only entering my contest but for making me something fresh and new. I'm working on something to do with all of these signs, but if any of you feel like getting creative, please don't wait til my next contest... hit me up!!!!!

Thanks Robbie!

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Hall of Shame: Diaper Porn

In the news, two stories about how diaper pictures and child pornography can sometimes cross boundaries and blur lines. 

The first story comes to us out of Kentucky, where a 24yo DL was spared a jury-recommended seven-year prison sentence in favor of five years probation and twenty years as a sex offender. Among the reasons for the lower sentence:

“... of the tens of thousands of diaper-related files found on his computer devices, only a few dozen (less than 1 percent) contained child pornography (which he usually deleted, one discovered) were relatively very rare, incidental, and perhaps accidental to his download of legal yet odd diaper-related files,” attorney Dan Carman, PLLC wrote in Wharff’s defense. “To treat Robby (Wharff) the same as offenders who have had contact offense or who other wise pose a risk to others would not be just.”
 

Carman goes on to state that Wharff is not dangerous “but, in a sense, mentally ill” and should be placed in treatment and not jail for his offense."

It's clear from the above paragraph that the legal community has a view of the ABDL community that many of us don't share. Still, consider whether the pictures you're seeing online might fall into the illegal category. On some sites, it's questionable... 

...also consider that this young man had thousands of diaper photos on his hard-drive. We know he didn't take them all. How many of them were yours? 

The second story is out of Gilbert, AZ where a 31yo ABDL was caught by his wife with a binder full of child pornography. She promptly called the police. Her husband, she says, is facing the prospect of a "very long prison sentence." 

From the article:

Jeremy Baland admitted to the responding officer that he had a diaper fetish and a pornography addiction. 

Jeremy Baland also told the officer that, when he was 15, an unidentified 55-year-old man told him where to find child pornography. He said the white binder in question had been in his possession since he was 15. 

"[Jeremy Baland] told me about some specific photos that were in the binder, and told me he placed them in the binder because it reminded him when he was little," a report from Gilbert Police read.

Gilbert police is not releasing further details on the investigation at this time, but said they are also looking into possible child porn content on Jeremy Baland's computer."

Sound familiar to anyone? 

Learn from their mistakes, boys.

If I've said it before, I've said it 1000x. 

Keep it 100% 18+. 

In our online communities. On our hard drives. And in our activities. 18+. 

No exceptions. 

No esxcuses. 

18+.

Baby Pictures: RobbiexRainbow

[CWIS'S NOTE] Anyone who's been reading my blog for a while knows that I have a thing for dope diapered bottoms. There is nothing like a Pampered ass - especially if it's in my face, or I'm resting my head on it like it's a pillow. To be honest, I don't care if you're gay, straight, bi, asexual, diapersexual... if your bum looks good in a diaper, I wanna see the pics. 

And today I've got some great shots from a friend... that's what's up!

Diaper Pictures:RobbiexRainbow

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Up tonight, I have some hot diaper pics from RobbiexRainbow. Robbie entered my recent photo contest - one of his picture entries is shown below.

Robbie was the subject of my ABDL Community Spotlight entry back in April, in large part because he has his own blog, www.RobbiexRainbow.tk, a very popular community blog. He's recently featured an FAQ page, and he's got contests, videos, and more.

I'm always up for promoting blogs and events, and Robbie puts a lot into his, so check it out after you check out his beautiful bottom, below...

...Robbie is going for a baby goes exploring theme in some of these. If you like the pictures comment on them, or hit him up and let him know!

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Later this week I'll have some new pictures from an old friend,

and some more information on contests. 

IF YOU ARE 18+

AND HAVE ABDL PICTURES YOU'D BE COOL WITH SHARING,

PLEASE HIT ME UP ASAP!

ABYSITTER@GMAIL.COM

Diaper Pictures: Fizzle

[CWiS'S NOTE]: Up today I have some adorable baby pictures from Fizzle. Fizzle is a 20yo ABDL from Perth, Western Australia. 

Some of you might already know him from his Diaper-Bois.com profile, or his profile on other diaper sites. This is the first time I've featured photos from him here. Fizzle's diaper pics are some of the most stolen around, so I ask that you leave them where you found them: right here, or right on his page.

I've included some of Fizzle's bio on his Diaper-Bois profile. In addition to being cute as hell, he's also a really good writer. Check out the rest of his profile here; he updates it often. That's probably why people have lifted his entire profile, pics bio and all, in the past. But trust, there's only one Fizzle.

Thanks for the treat, bro!

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Diaper Pictures: Fizzle

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I'm 20 years old and from Perth, Western Australia. I've been into diapers for as long as I can remember! I can't remember a single point in my life where I haven't loved diapers. I've always felt an affinity for them. When I was younger, every wish I'd ever make was for a box of diapers to suddenly appear somewhere in my room... which, for the record, never happened. What a waste of my wishes.

I wear as often as I get the chance to. As with most other people on here, my ultimate fantasy is to have someone (around my own age, don't get any ideas Grandpa) take the decision out of wearing - to put me in diapers and keep me in them. I'm really not into roleplaying though, so don't go getting any ideas fellas!

A lot of people know that I wear diapers. My parents and grandmother know, my brother knows, and a couple of my friends do too. Most of the few ex's I have also know, as I came clean with them pretty soon into the relationship. I'm not afraid of who I am, and what I do. When I started buying my diapers I was absolutely TERRIFIED of people finding out. But after a while I came to realise that people have a very limited perception beyond their own existences. They might, for an hour or so, remember me buying diapers. But after that hour has passed they probably won't remember it unless they have an affinity for diapers themselves. Most people in society nowadays are completely accepting of everyone's little quirks - diapers simply aren't the worst possible thing out there. I also strengthen myself with the knowledge that there are people out there who HAVE to wear diapers, and have to deal with it every day of their lives. So if they can do it, so can I.

When I move out into my own house, I am definitely going to try going 24/7. Even though my family knows that I wear them, I still do it in complete discretion.

I'm happy to chat and I don't bite, so message me. If you're over 30 though I'd be cautious about what you say. I'm not into older dudes, so if you message me asking ridiculous questions then I will simply ignore you!

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Thanks again to Fizzle for allowing me to post his pictures! I'll post more if/when he takes them! And be sure to hit him up on his page for the latest.

Anyone else got photos you'd like to share? If so, please be 18+ only and email me at abysitter@gmail.com.