Up today I have a Q&A from someone new! Min is 33 and lives in Colorado Springs. He and his girlfriend are looking for some new friends - and they even bring a nursery to the table! Min included some adorable pictures, below, and I'll have more from him in a few days! Thanks, Min!
Q&A With Min
Name/Nick: Min/Min
Age: 33
City/State/Country: Colorado Springs/Colorado/U.S.
AB/DL/BabyFur/Other? AB/DL
When did you first realize you were ABDL?
Around 7 or 8 years old, when my younger sister and several of my cousins were born (we all lived in the same city at the time), I remember seeing them in diapers and wanting the same. I moved around alot around that time and didn't have much time to think about/act on my desire to wear diapers until much later on in my teens when we finally settled down and my parents bought a house. I first got online when I was 14, around '96 and within a few months found about about AB's, DL's and adult sized diapers.
What steps did you take to get your diaper 'fix' as a child and/or teen?
I remember trying to wear my sister's or cousins disposable diapers but of course they didn't fit, a few times I put one on and put my underwear on over it but it still never fit. When I was in my teens I would purchase adult diapers at the drugstores or mostly order them online with my parents credit cards and would lie and tell them it was for computer parts or something similar.
Do your parents and/or siblings know about you and diapers? If so, please explain how, and how they reacted?
My parents were never nosy or went thru my things when I was younger so I never expected them to open my mail but when I was in school they opened a box that came for me, I'm guessing because it said something about "medical" supplies on the box. Afterwards they searched my room and found my stash of diapers, plastic pacts, pacifiers, baby bottles etc, thankfully they didn't think/know how to look on my computer. They confronted me when I came back from school and there was a huge fight, they tried to send me to a therapist because they thought I had some sort of mental problem but I refused to go. After what seemed like months of avoiding and not speaking to each other we finally started talking again and it was never brought up again. My younger sister also knows but never said anything or made an big deal over it.
Have you dealt with the shame and regret that is the binge/purge cycle? Please explain.
When I was younger I has several binge purge cycles. Now I look back and wish I had never thrown all that stuff away, mostly harder to get items like custom made clothing. I had a major purge after I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years who knew about my fetish and participated, I had a nursery similar to the one I have now including a crib and got rid of everything. Now that I have accepted my AB side and found someone who accepts and fully understands it as well I think any more purges should be a thing of the past.
For collegebabies/DLs, did this interest affect your college experiences? If so, how?
During college I lived at home, at the time I was too scared to wear outside of my house, college was pretty normal for me.
How has this fetish affected your social life and/or dating? Married life? Parenting?
I've told 2 of my ex girlfriends about it around the 3 to 4 month mark, none of them took it negatively, one participated and one wouldn't, but didn't mind if I wore anytime I wanted. A few of my friends found out, mostly because of the room noone was allowed in (nursery) and a couple somehow found my Twitter, they all acted like it wasn't a big deal though. My current girlfriend was already a AB before I met her, we have also known each other for a very long time (met during our teens) I'm sure she's the one I'll be spending the rest of my life with ☺
Some experts believe that we become the way we are because of traumas experienced at an early age, including abuse and/or neglect. Do your life experiences bear this out?
I don't believe I was actually abused, I know I was spanked alot for things I would never spank a child for, such as not perfect grades in school (as in B's and C's), one time the neighbors heard/saw and called the police, I denied that I was hit but I remember it continuing well into middle school. I know my parents never used that type of punishment on my younger sister which I know some people may resent but I was actually happy she never had a go thru all that when she was younger. Maybe it did have some type of effect because I am a AB and she isn't, I do also find it a bit strange I enjoy getting spanked as an adult now.
For the older generation, please tell us more about what it was like being ABDL before social networking. I will be looking for the perspectives of members in their 40s, 50s, and even higher.
I remember feeling like I was very alone, wondering why I liked diapers so much and if I would just spend the rest of my life alone. When I went online and first found out about AB/DL's I couldn't believe what I was seeing, I felt happy, relief that I wasn't alone and the possibility of having friends who shared my interest. I don't think I slept at all that night, staying online and reading/looking things up.
For the little dunces, please tell us about what it was like to discover this fetish/lifestyle on the Internet. Please be at least 18 at the time of writing, but be specific about what age you discovered it, what sites helped you, and keep this part PG for obvious reasons.
I was around 14, I went online and just searched for "diapers" after a few pages of results I stumbled across DPF, I remember that was the first thing I saw regarding AB/DL's, went thru all the other pages they linked to but the only one I really remember is DPF.
Do your interests involve a subset of this community, such as babyfurs, diaper disciplinarians, wet/messy, sissybabies etc.? Please tell us about it. I won't even try to be specific here; just tell us what you think people should know.
I enjoy all the aspects of the AB lifestyle, spending little time with my girlfriend as both of us being little or one of us switching for the other and being mommy or daddy, being punished (spanking, restrained, enemas/suppositories & diapers and being forced to wear girly clothes) or just cuddling and watching a movie or playing games.
What % of your sexual activities and/or masturbation incorporate diapers? Has this caused problems for you?
It used to be about 50/50, lately though when I'm in little space I don't think of sex much, unless there is some type of BDSM/punishment involved, then my mind pretty much goes straight to having sex.
If you get into the regression aspect of ABDL please tell us more about that. If you do not, and you have feelings about being lumped into a fetish involving it, explain how it makes you feel.
I usually always start regressing and becoming extremely submissive as soon as a diaper is put on me. I've spent several days upto a week of being diapered/little and almost always wear diapers to bed at night. I find it relaxing as my job is pretty stressful and helps me unwind. I also used to have a sleeping problem but I find it helps me fall asleep at night.
Don't let yourself be limited by my questions. If you have anything else at all that you would like to say please feel free to say it here...
I'm always looking to make new friends, it seems as if there aren't that many AB's where I live (Colorado). I'd love to meet other AB's, even if it's just a hang out, it'd be nice not having to put everything away and lock up our nursery every time someone comes over. We're not looking for any mommies or daddies to take care of us but would still love to be friends, and the same for any AB boys or girls 😀 My twitter is @Kmin3603478 & email is k.min10@yahoo.com
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