[ABYSITTER'S NOTE] The saga of Chris continues this week. I'll be writing about some "challenges" Chris and I did, about an intimate conversation we had, about our second/third/fourth diaper experiences, and about how he robbed me at knifepoint - sort of. And, since he robbed me at knife point - sort of - I'll be saying "FUCK YOU" and posting his real picture in my last entry! Get excited.
To answer a question a few of you have asked: no, I don't paddle everyone I abysit. LOL! Chris was into "fem dom", which is when a female has control over you; he was also into spankings. In fact, he once told me "I get into a lot of freaky shit" and, on our second visit, he brought his own handcuffs. Most of the people who I dropped dough to diaper weren't into the "freaky shit", and they just wore. And I never spank someone who's not into it a little. If you say you don't want a spanking, you don't get one.
Anyway, on to tonight's blog entry... originally posted at RUP:
I was scanning through RUP profiles today when I came across one that made me laugh. The AB had posted a lot of dope stuff about himself, and then a warning: don't message him if you're a dirty old man. Nothing odd about that... a lot of people there post similar sentiments.
But then I read his definition of a "dirty old man": anyone older than twenty-five. LOL!! WTF?
That got me to thinking. I remember when I was 17, and my best friend gave me an issue of Penthouse Forum that contained an article about the Diaper Pail Fraternity (later Diaper Pail Friends, and DPF.com). It talked about how these men from Phoenix or somewhere would molest kids as part of their diaper fetish. One of them ran a "bedwetting clinic" out of his van, and parents dumb enough to trust him with their boys would later find that he was diapering them and performing sexual acts. EWW! That was, sadly, my first introduction to other people into diapers.
So when I discovered the original Aby.com, and then DPF.com, I was wary of anyone too much older than me. I was probably 20, and my inbox would get blown up by messages from guys in their 30s, 40s, 50s, and up. Ick! I'd reply, at first, but after a few really creepy ones I stopped. If you were older than, say, 25, you weren't hearing back from me.
Eventually I was twenty-five, and people who were 25 didn't seem that old anymore. I was also corresponding with people 18, 19, 20, and 21, and while most were friendly, some had the same attitude I had; they were looking to meet people their own age. Then the current version of Aby.com came out - well, when it was a live site lol - and over a few years I watched these same guys turn 22, 23, 24, 25... you get the idea.
When I was 18 you couldn't have paid me to wear a diaper with someone 25 or older. It just wasn't my thing. Today I'm in my early 30s and guys 25 seem pretty dope. It's funny how your overview changes over time.
I'm well aware that there are plenty of guys on this site who are 18, 19, 20+ etc. and looking for older guys. Some want a "big bro", others a "daddy", and, for a variety of reasons, they seek out guys who can fill the paternal void, dole out some discipline, or - well, their reasons are probably as many as they are.
I just thought it was funny that someone 18 admitted thinking that anyone over 25 is a "dirty old man". Growing older is inevitable; if there is any group that is cognizant of age it is us, we seekers of eternal youth through the wearing of diapers, the sucking of pacifiers, and the sleeping in cribs.
I've been involved in the ABDL "scene" for about fifteen years, ad I've watched a lot of young people "grow old" lol. Some now fit into the category of "dirty old men", being in their late 20s. EWW!
In seven years that site, and/or this community, will still be going strong. Remember that "Abysitter" was the first to say it: as much as you try to stop it by putting on diapers and crawling around, you will age over time. You will, eventually, be old, and the new crop of abdl's just discovering the fetish will put warnings in their profiles against you contacting them.
Does anyone else have feelings about this "aging" phenomenon?
Please limit the conversation to those 39 and younger, as anything over 39 is "dirty" and "old" in my book.
(JK! Haha.)
WHITE CITY -- Police arrest a man with a disturbing fetish. This isn't the first time police have arrested the man known as "diaper boy." He's a registered sex offender with a history of lewdness arrests. Deputies say, this time, the man did more than just expose a diaper he was wearing to young kids.
Investigators got a call that a man was showing his diaper to children in the area of 10300 South and 800 East Thursday night. Police say that man was 31-year-old Barton Bagnes.
They say Bagnes pulled down his pants and showed kids his diaper. "You're talking about a grown man who walks up to young children, very young children, 3 to 4 (years old), and drops his pants and says, ‘Look, I wear a diaper like you do,'" said Lt. Don Hutson of the Salt Lake County Sheriff's Office.
Investigators say he also handed out fliers with images of kids and adults wearing diapers. Investigators say it doesn't show nudity, so although disturbing and strange, it is not criminal.
That, in itself, upsets those who work with sexually abused children.
"The fact that something may be completely legal does not mean it's not harmful, and it may have devastating effects," said Bonnie Peters, executive director of the Family Support Center.
Peters says the photos are damaging to the kids who see them and the children who pose in them, even if they are legal.
"It's drawing attention to their genital area, and it's also putting them in an infantile role. This whole thing is emotionally abusive to these kids," Peters said.
Sheriff's deputies did arrest Bagnes for lewdness involving a child and disorderly conduct. "I've spoken to detectives who have interviewed him, and I asked them point blank, ‘Does it seem like he is mentally understanding exactly what he's doing?' And they say, ‘absolutely.' He is plenty capable of making appropriate, adult decisions," Hutson said.
Bagnes is known to deputies who have arrested him in the past for similar conduct. His last arrest was in March,when Bagnes pulled down his pants and showed off his diaper to three young children in Holladay. A search of court records does not show any charges filed in that case.
In 2000, he was convicted and had to register as a sex offender.
But in 2008, three similar charges against him were dismissed.
Deputies say this case walks a fine line because Bagnes does not expose himself.
Hutson said, "We have been instructed by the district attorney's office to bring each case to them just to see if there are any facts that may change, the circumstances or anything that's just a little bit different."
Investigators say there are no reports of Bagnes touching kids or exposing himself, but they say he is specifically targeting children, which is a concern.
A spokesperson for the Salt Lake County Prosecutor's Office says, she could not comment on the case until it has been screened with them.
