[CWIS'S NOTE] Up today I have a Q&A from someone local to me but new to the blog: Oliver. You can check him out on Tumblr at .tumblr.com. http://nabannat.tumblr.com. Thanks, Oliver!
Q&A With Oliver
Name/Nick: Oliver
Age: 26
City/State/Country: Rochester, NY
AB/DL/BabyFur/Other? 90% DL, 10% AB
When did you first realize you were ABDL?
Like most people in the community, I had an inexplicable affinity towards diapers from an early age. My earliest memory of this was when I was 5 or 6 years old and my friend still wore pullups on occasion. I distinctly remember feeling jealous of her and, I think, I asked my parents at one point if I could wear them too.
What steps did you take to get your diaper 'fix' as a child and/or teen?
I ordered Pampers samples off the internet in the early 2000s and even got a small stash (3) of diapers from a hotel vending machine. Later, as a teenager, I grew more bold and would walk to my neighborhood drug store to pickup Depends, hoping I wouldn't run into any friends along the way.
There were never any explicit conversations about why, but my parents found diapers and other paraphernalia multiple times when I was in high school. Most of the time, they'd awkwardly mention what they found and ask me if I was alright (suggesting they thought or hoped I had these things for a medical necessity), but typically left it at that. It was rarely spoken of, and, if it was, it was when I'd have an angst-ridden fight with my mom. She'd mention the diapers as a way to shut me up, which, to her credit, usually worked.
Have you dealt with the shame and regret that is the binge/purge cycle? Please explain.
In my early teens, I felt a lot of shame about my habits and interests. But, I figured out that those feelings came from not understanding and accepting myself and also from the typical shame/guilt feeling that boys get in their stomach once they start jerking off. Once I realized how common kinks like mine were in the real world and met others like myself, the shame faded away. I purged once or twice, but I'm too practical to throw good stuff away for no good reason.
For collegebabies/DLs, did this interest affect your college experiences? If so, how?
My partner at the end of high school and half of college was also in the community. He convinced me that I should lie to my freshman roommate and tell him I was a bedwetter so I could wear on the regular. In hindsight, not a great idea. It made for a lot of uncomfortable moments during an already socially challenging first year of university. After my freshman year, I dropped the act and just wore recreationally as much as I could. Had a few fun times with kids on campus over the years.
How has this fetish affected your social life and/or dating? Married life? Parenting?
Ever since college, I have always made a point to talk openly about my kinks whenever I made it past a few dates with someone new. I've known for a long time that my DL side is important and static in me and I needed a partner who was minimally accepting but preferably indulging of that side of me. My partner of 3.5 years is a DL convert and we have plenty of fun together. We got engaged a few months ago.
Some experts believe that we become the way we are because of traumas experienced at an early age, including abuse and/or neglect. Do your life experiences bear this out?
I have very loving and caring parents, but I definitely had some challenging experiences as a child. I don't know if they correlate, but I suspect that my AB side (which has since disappeared) grew because it was an escape for me during hard times.
For the little dunces, please tell us about what it was like to discover this fetish/lifestyle on the Internet. Please be at least 18 at the time of writing, but be specific about what age you discovered it, what sites helped you, and keep this part PG for obvious reasons.
DPF was my first encounter with this community on the internet. I was probably 11 or 12 at the time. I remember being enthralled with everything it offered, specifically the chat room. In retrospect, though, there were some real creeps in there...
Do your interests involve a subset of this community, such as babyfurs, diaper disciplinarians, wet/messy, sissybabies etc.? Please tell us about it. I won't even try to be specific here; just tell us what you think people should know.
Very much into BDSM, puppy play, chastity, water sports, leather and rubber, all of which overlap nicely with this side of me. Also, I love to be a little stinker.
What % of your sexual activities and/or masturbation incorporate diapers? Has this caused problems for you?
Around 50%.
