Q&A
Name/Nick: SGB
Age: 25
City/State/Country: Eureka, California, USA
AB/DL/BabyFur/Other?: AB, Daddy, and Kinkster
Q & A with SGB
• When did you first realize you were ABDL? When did you first realize you were a Daddy?
I began acting on my diaper fetish at around age 6 or 7. At 19 or so I realized that it'd be really enjoyable to be on the other end of the spectrum. About three years ago I decided to act on that impulse, and it was wonderful.
I was prepared for how sexy & kinky it was.
I wasn't prepared for how heartwarming and intimate it turned out to be.
• Do your parents and/or siblings know about you and diapers? If so, please explain how, and how they reacted?
My mother and little brother know about my fetish. The mom through cleaning my room on the wron day and finding some supplies and my little brother from going through my laptop.
In both cases I explained the emotional bits first, and earned their acceptance.
• Have you dealt with the shame and regret that is the binge/purge cycle? Please explain.
I had difficulty with intense shame and regret after wearing or using a diaper when I was a teen. My first partner at age 17 helped me cope and come to accept that part of myself.
Now I'm comfortable in my own skin. There'll be weeks when I don't feel very sexy and there'll be weeks when it's all I think about. I don't trash my gear or feel guilt over something that doesn't hurt anybody.
• How has this fetish affected your social life and/or dating? Married life? Parenting?
I confess my kinkiness to potential partners early on in any given relationship. It's easier to find a vaguely kinky person and introduce them to the fetish than it is to find that one perfect abdl.
Being kinky has encouraged me to seek kinky partners rather than dating in the vanilla crowd. As in everything social, open and frequent communication is key.
I have a wife who participates in this kink and does all manner of kinky stuff of her own. We do not intend to ever have children.
• For the little dunces, please tell us about what it was like to discover this fetish/lifestyle on the Internet.
It was great to know that other people had similar interests to me. I was irritated by the lack of resources available to learn from and by how... off some members of the community are. Almost all of the practical and helpful skills I've picked up have come from the well established BDSM crowd rather than the ABDL crowd.
Coming up with helpful resources and advice is one of my goals for this community. People like the folks at the Chicago Ageplay Convention, Penny Barber, and US Littles are moving in the right direction.
• Do your interests involve a subset of this community, such as babyfurs, diaper disciplinarians, wet/messy, sissybabies etc.? Please tell us about it.
Do sane people count?
In all seriousness, I'm a generalist. I enjoy Babyfurs, Sissies, Littles, and Tweens, as much as I enjoy DLs, and ABs. Any faction that involves diapers, fair & ironic discipline, or caretaking. I'm a bit less into medical play and fecal stuff however.
• If you get into the regression aspect of ABDL please tell us more about that. If you do not, and you have feelings about being lumped into a fetish involving it, explain how it makes you feel.
As a Daddy, I enjoy some parts of regression and dislike other parts.
I like having to provide additional care for an AB, like dressing them, brushing their teeth, teaching them things, and holding their hand while out and about.
I dislike babytalk. For some reason I just can't tolerate it. Excessive bratty or whiney behavior can also get on my nerves, and not in a good way. I'm fine with correcting misbehavior once or twice in scene, but every few hours gets tedious.
Don't let yourself be limited by my questions. If you have anything else at all that you would like to say please feel free to say it here:
• How long have you been a Daddy, and what do you look for in your AB/DLs?
I've been a daddy for going on two years now. Generally I look for people who accept themselves a bit and want to experience something new. Age, sex, race, and sexual preferences aren't as important to me as having good grammar, being safe & sane, and being able to carry a conversation.
A very kind and patient Daddy was my first and I want to pass that kindness, patience, and caring on to others and make a lasting, positive impression on the people I play with. He encouraged me to jump in with both feet and I hope to help others do the same.
• You sound new, what kind of experience do you have?
I've been to the Chicago Ageplay Convention. I routinely hit up fetish events once every month or two, and larger ones like Folsom Street Fair once or twice a year. I've played in Oregon, Washington, California, Illinois, Washington D.C., New Jersy, and West Virginia.
As a Daddy, I took a week long road trip through Oregon last Summer visiting 15 different ab/dls and learning what I could. I've taken care of two abdls for a day or so and I played big brother to a babyfur for a week.
• What's your next evil plan?
This Winter, sometime between December 14th and January 19th I'd like to arrange a week long vacation with someone who I can keep in diapers and take care of. Gotta plan ahead for these things.
I can be contacted on fetlife as SGB69 or via email at diapersanddildos@gmail.com.
[PHOTOS COPYRIGHT ABYSITTER.COM]
[DO NOT REDISTRIBUTE WITHOUT PERMISSION]
