[CWIS'S NOTE] I am forever in search of people with writing talent who want to pen guest entries for my blog. To be frank, blogging is tiresome, and creativity ebbs and flows. Sometimes I just don't feel like writing, grr! So anytime I spot someone with writing skills in a diaper website forum (or even someone's bio on a diaper site profile) I hit them up and invite them to write.
Today I have a guest entry from Flashurpixels, a 19 year-old ABDL from Oregon. You may know him from Diaper-Bois. He's writing a post on what I would essentially sum up as avoiding internet drama. But read it for yourself, because we all get something different from what we read, and you may take something different away from it. Whatever you take away from it, I think you'll find it helpful.
Guest Entry: Flashurpixels
I'd like to start out by saying thank you to Abysitter/cwis for letting me have the chance to write a discussion topic for his blog, Abysitter.com.
Now, I'd like to say writing isn't a passion or hobby but it is something I indulge myself in when I find a interesting thread/post that I want to respond to.
One particular topic I'd like to discuss is cyber bullying/harassment&trolls.
It's become apparent (whether you find it true or not is your call) that a lot of people don't know how to handle harassment of any kind and think creating a "witch-hunt" or personal attack against said person is more appropriate whether it be a open chat, thread, blog and forum.
Before I continue I'd like to cover some things mostly abbreviated forms that people use in forums and to clarify a few misunderstandings.
Trolling: Trolling is not the same as someone just flat out being a jackass or incredibly rude. When someone is trolling they are seeking out ANY kind of response, even if it's you lecturing them or "yelling back". When you respond to a troll YOU are "feeding them", which means you're giving them what they want and probably giving them a good laugh. DO NOT respond to them or stop communication and move on with your life, they WILL eventually go away since after all they are seeking any kind of response.
OP: OP stands for Original Poster, which in this case would be me. People use the word OP in forums mostly when someone is responding to a certain individual in a thread but also using the OP's post as a example in their discussion etc.
TL;DR: To long, Didn't read. Which is self-explanatory and people usually use it to be a asshole to the OP or use it when someones just writes a HUGE ASS WALL OF TEXT with no spacing or paragraphs.
Now as far as choosing this topic I really only chose it because I recently came across a thread on Diaper-bois.com where the OP made a post attacking a stalker/troll (just some random jackass bugging him). I gave my advice and moved on with my daily life. However it was the person who responded that made me wonder if some people should even be allowed to post in such forums since this person had NO clue what to do if someone was making death threats/suicide threats. His only solution was to delete his own profile and create a new one to avoid confrontation of any sort which was a thread derailment to the discussion and NOT helpful to anyone.
I'd like to mention that calling out people in anyway on a sites forums/chat functions is frowned upon and even on some sites will result in you getting a temp. ban or loss of posting privelages and I say this as a yeild for those who make a habit out of it, PLEASE make sure you have taken the neccesary steps to deal with your problems with other members since that is the BEST thing you can do for yourself since the general public has no control over what people do on the internet or say.
For those that spam you or constantly annoying you or even saying crude things you have a couple of options.
1) block said person
2) ignore them
3) report for spam
For death threats or even suicide threats if it's someone you might have broken up with and is threatening you or telling you about their lifestory YOU NEED TO CONTACT YOUR/THEIR local police and contact the sites moderators or owner(s) regarding this issue!
Even if they are joking you MUST take it seriously, there is more to people then anyone could imagine and it is not your responsibility to make their day better, it is however your responsibility to report it and offer them some resources.
When dealing with a local person who is causing you any of the above grief you must keep in mind that there are options and if it's happening on a AB/DL site that your not comfortable getting involved in with the local police etc. then you must ask yourself if your really in any danger at all or what's more important to you.
My advice in the long run was not helpful to the person I was responding to in the thread on Diaper-Bois.com and was the result of him saying he gave up and to delete his own profile which, by all means, you do what you gotta do.
Now I realize some sites like Diaper-Bois.com do not have a block option unless you pay $30 dollars a month which I can see the issue with that BUT like I mentioned before,you have to ask yourself if your issue is really that important to begin with or if being on the site is worth your time.
There are other AB/DL sites so you will NOT find solace/comfort with me when you complain about a sites features that you may or may not rant about. In most cases where someone is constantly harassing you it is because you are responding or "fanning the flames", you just need to be the bigger person and ignore them and move on, and I say this as nicely as I can and I apologize to those that are offended but to be quite frank, You are ALLOWING them to ruin your day and internet experience and ultimately hold control over you. If it does get to that point then my only advice is to throw your computer out the window because I can't fathom how anyone like that must handle bullies in real life.
As far as personal life experience goes, I have had only one person constantly harassing me and asking the same redundant questions for the past year. What do I do? IGNORE HIM! and I don't get another message for another three months.He's not completely gone but it doesn't bother me at all! It just makes me wonder how incredibly desperate this man is for some "pooty tang".
TL;DR version:
Report/block/report for spam/contact police depending on what situation your in and move on with your life and don't call out people on forums.
You may contact me on Diaper-bois.com for any questions or concerns, my username is Flashurpixels. My email is maktharp@yahoo.com and thanks again to Abysitter/Cwis for giving me this opportunity!
Cheers!
You'll probably see more from Flashurpixels here in the future, so if you enjoyed reading this please comment below or email him directly. And if you are a writer of any ability and want to contribute to this space, please email me!
