Luvs Boat: Gas Run 2020

Restrictions on boating in New York because of the Coronavirus would make for a late start to the 2020 season. Even once marinas were allowed to put boats in the water, restrictions on overnight stays and people outside immediate families visiting boats would hamper our usual style. Still, in late May two of our Luvs Boat regulars would join me in moving the boat from the winter marina to the summer one. Still, things just didn’t seem the same, and I carted cases of diapers and other supplies to the boat with trepidation - would we even have a season this year? 

Gas being so cheap - thanks, COVID-19 - and recent news events suggested that it may be going up in the near future. It was time to gas up! The boat has two 75-gallon fuel tanks - fuel consumption on a boat is actually measured in gallons per hour  - and both tanks were very, very low. So on a Monday afternoon in June we’d motor down to the marina I trust to fuel her up, and do just that. Three hundred fifty dollars later - special thanks to Mike and Rob for stepping up with a good portion of that - we were ready for our first real boat ride of 2020. 

The ride would involve masks and some distance, at times, and we’d spend the entire time outdoors - no retreating below to the cuddle cabin this time around. We would be padded, of course. But as we’d be passing close by vanilla friends and family on the dock during our run, it had to be less in-your-face than usual. Enter Tykables cargo shorts… big boys near shore, diapered boys for the rest of the cruise, and the ability to easily switch back and forth with ease. 

After a cruise of an hour or so we’d head back to the marina and spend some time at the dock. Someone along our route would text me a video of our passage - good thing we were snapped up when we passed! We’d spend time discussing how to be safe and social distance but still, hopefully, have some fun in 2020. 

More to come… 

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Ineffectiveness

Not going to call anyone out, but it's pretty clear to me that a few people have come into some of the ABDL private groups on Facebook just to stir up some shit this week - on all sides, really. If you've come into the groups to take a stand, why not lose some of the vitriol and try to educate those who don't seem to understand why people are saying Black Lives Matter? Name-calling and insults aren't contributing shit to your argument, so if your entire presence in those conversations consists of you acting horrified at someone else's opinion,.. how very counterproductive of you. Telling people to leave the Facebook groups in disgust isn't improving the community in any way - it's just giving you a feeling of victory if they actually leave. Woo hoo, you won... what, exactly? 

Some people I've seen posting this week have suddenly realized that our community isn't all-inclusive. Honey, if that wasn't obvious to you a long time ago, you need to open your eyes. With its cliques and its exclusivity, this community is no different from any other. You think there weren't members who are prejudiced? Count the likes... you can see the prejudice in real time up and down your feed. 

One of the private groups on Facebook I belong to has 1,800+ members. Like it or not, its membership is made up of people from all around the globe, and all across the United States, including some of the most backwoods, ignorant parts of it. We are all connected by one thing: diapers. That doesn't mean that every single segment of society isn't otherwise represented here... they are, and it becomes obvious when something like this comes up. 

I've seen people on the BLM side, the ALM side, people who haven't taken a side, and even POC talking about leaving that group today, so I had to go there to see what was going down. It was ugly. Namecalling. Insults. People threatening to leave the group. People ordering others to leave the group. People leaving the group. People apparently being kicked out of the group. On and on...

I DON'T CARE WHO YOU ARE... DON'T LEAVE THE GROUPS. Don't take all your pictures down in a huff. Don't deactivate your Twitter account. Don't give up on the community in a fit of despair because a small number of its members have posted some ignorant shit. Let me open up my inbox so you can see some of the worst corners of the community come alive... a little time with some of the ABDLs who message me, and I think you'll realize that just about everyone in your extended circle is someone who is at least somewhat reasonable... and probably worth trying to help to understand your point of view, if you're up for the challenge. 

(I'm sure some of y'all get the same messages.)

Vitriol... anger... insults... name calling... all on full display in the threads in these groups (and on social media in general) this week, and all completely ineffective at actually helping someone learn more about your point of view. Take a deep breath before you reply to someone's post. If you want to say something to someone that is likely to put them on the defense, consider sending them a private message and open up a dialogue.

And seriously... stop with the quitting the community. Be a LEADER... not just by typing some words on social media, but by seeking out those in our community who are excluded from events and other functions, and including them. De-clique your cliques. And stay put in the groups... leaving just shortchanges our community as a whole. If someone's put in the effort to take a diaper pic they're obviously proud of, give it a like - even if they're not the race, age, or body type you're generally looking for on Grindr. Show support on an individual level, person by person, and not just the comments on a post about discrimination. 

This week has exposed a whole lot about our community - things I think a POC could probably already have told you a long time ago. People who previously found these groups to be their ABDL/littlespace refuge may want to unfollow them for a while. For everyone else... at least keep it civil. It might not be worth trying to educate Karen in the Fox News comments about why her opinion is outdated and even racist, but if its someone in our community... it just may be worth your time. Stop clutching your pearls and declaring your absolute shock that "those type of people" exist in such an "inclusive community." They've been here the whole time... you just weren't paying attention. 

By the way, this isn't the only argument we're going to face... if you think things are bad now, just wait until the lead-up to Election 2020... as much as I think we should all be on the same side, we're not, and things are going to get ugly. 

In the meantime, to all of those who've actually taken the time to try to educate our community in a civil way... keep it up. ✊🏾

Luvs Boat Rules & FAQs

If you've been paying attention to the official Luvs Boat website, you've probably already seen these. But for those who haven't... here are two PDF docs. Click the images to view the "Rules" and "FAQs":

Am I missing anything? Let me know what you think!

Thank You For Your Support...

I want to thank the people who hit up the PayPal and CashApp following my mailing list blast. I'll be reaching out to those I haven't yet, and updating the website to reflect the updated supporter list.

For anyone who's interested in helping out, or checking out the community members who have, click the baby bottles...

Our community rocks.

NEW! Amazon Wish List & Support - Help Needed!

TO MY LOYAL,

LONG-TIME BLOG READERS...

ANY HELP YOU CAN PROVIDE

IS APPRECIATED! 

Ahoy! I’m writing today to my hard-core supporters. My readers who have been with me since 2008. Those who have done the Q&As, entered my photo contests, taken (and learned more about our lifestyle from) the #WhyABDL Survey, visited the Luvs Boat, and more. Not gonna lie - being in a ‘high risk’ category for COVID-19, and living in New York state, where cases virtually exploded over the last few months, I’ve been thinking a lot about what would happen if I was suddenly unable to keep blogging. I’ve gotten someone I’m very close with in the community to agree to take over the blog if something were to happen to me and I couldn't continue it, and I believe he’ll do a fantastic job (if that day over comes). In the meantime I’ve turned down a few freelance gigs this summer, and am hoping to dedicate as much time as I can to updates to the site, including finishing some of the stuff I’ve started but haven’t had a chance to complete over the years. With social distancing in full effect, I expect to have a lot more time to work on the site this summer. I picture myself spending lazy, padded afternoons on the boat, writing like crazy, updating the site. You’ll see several new sections, an expansion of the survey data, a few stories, and maybe even a contest of some sort as well. Today I’m writing to the folks who’d truly miss me if my blog went away. If you're just an occasion reader, or you tune in just for the contests, or you can't even remember why you subscribed to this list in the first place, you can stop reading now. For everyone else... I’m writing today to ask my loyal blog readers and site contributors to consider helping out, if you can. I’ve had so many people hit me up asking if I do an OnlyFans or something of the like, and while I don’t - I’ve always believed in creating content for free, and nobody’d want to see me shaking my ass on an OnlyFans anyway - help of any kind is welcome - and sorely needed. I fully understand that times are hard for people other than me, and many aren't in a position to be able to help. If you are, though, and the content I put out means enough to you to want to, here ere are a few ways you can contribute... PAYPAL & CASHAPP  Every dollar donated is one less dollar I have to make through freelancing, freeing up my time to work on stuff for the blog. For those who’ve been with me since I started blogging in 2008 - or even more recent fans who are in a position to help out - know that any help I receive is appreciated. If you’d like to make a donation through PayPal click here: www.paypal.me/cwis. You can also donate with CashApp - my username is $WhyABDL. And, as always, visit whyABDL.org/supporters for opportunities and recognition.   PAYPAL.ME/CWIS | CASH.APP/WHYABDL AMAZON WISHLIST - NEW!  I’ve avoided putting together an Amazon Wish List for a long time, but I have finally jumped on the bandwagon. I've actually had a lot of people ask if I have one over the years... hopefully a few of those people read this mailing list hehe. The list has nautical plushies and other supplies for the Luvs Boat, and diapers for the stash. If you’re down to send a gift, email me with the order info and I’ll be sure you get credit on the website. I’ll be adding to it over time. Check it out, even if you can't afford to help out... you'll see some of this stuff eventually on the Luvs Boat boat page.   AMAZON WISH LIST OTHER TYPES OF CONTRIBUTIONS  As always, I am always looking for writers, graphic artists, and ABDL models willing to contribute content for the site. Visit the website at whyABDL.org or abysitter.com and check out all of the new content. If you can think of something you’d like to contribute, hit me up. Want to do a Q&A? Same.   EMAIL ME  If you can afford to make a donation, regardless of the amount, your help is appreciated. I fully understand that many cannot. Either way, thank you for your support, and your readership - it’s what’s kept me, and my blog, going for these past 12 years. Be safe, and be well, Cwis Abysitter.com Twitter: @abysitter Tumblr: @abysitter Instagram: @luvsboat

Please... STAY HOME.

I've been super slow to respond to people, sick over the last week. Does not appear to be COVID-19, thankfully... still sucks, was stuck in bed for 3 days. Padded, yay - but still. 

I'll be getting back to people soon. In the meantime, enjoy a graphic featuring old favorite Z... and 

S T A Y    H O M E   ! ! !

The one silver lining to COVID-19 is that ABDLs seem to have a shit ton of extra time to create adorable content! Keep it coming! And if anyone is really bored and wants to do a Q&A... mail me. 

Introducing Babyfur Con - Virtual Edition

Virtual Babyfur Con

Saturday, April 25th 2020

Introducing Babyfur Con - Virtual Edition.

Babyfur Con (aka Cub Con) is a convention

devoted entirely to babyfurs!

It will be Las Vegas Nevada sometime in 2021 or 2022. 

This year they'll be doing a virtual con, 

to be held April 25!

Held via Zoom, 

it will be a collection of babyfurs all in one (online) place.

They'll have panels...

Your favorite artists like Marci and Jade

will be talking and drawing cute stuff live. 

The Panel on Padding by Fruitkitty 

featuring the most scientific diaper testing you've ever seen.

Ferix - that cub who makes the really cool cloth diaper

sharing his passion and explaining everything you didn't know

about cloth diapering.

Speaking of which there is a panel on that too - diapering 101. 

For those new to the scene, 

or those that need a refresher, 

Aloha will teach you how to properly diaper

yourself or another. 

Plus more!

They'll have prizes... 

ABU will be donating $50 gift cards

Cub Con will be giving away a 50 pack of custom fursonia #diapersocks

prizes from Tykables and Crinklz

and more!

They'll have babyfur artists galore...

Imagine all your favorite babyfur artists streaming art,

selling commissions, and hanging out all simultaneously!

You will be able to move room to room

checking out all the cute things! 

Signups are happening now...

You can visit babyfurcon.com to register. 

Use code WhyABDL for 30% off! 

Having $ trouble because of COVID-19?

You can fill out a form on their website for consideration. 

Thanks for the invite... 

I was invited to host a panel this year,

but cannot due to a previous vanilla engagement. 

(Damn vanillas). 

It looks like a good time, though... 

They tell me that it will have stuff for

babyfurs and littles alike.

Consider signing up, and let me know how it goes! 

It's ON like TeddyCon!

In case you haven't heard the news, it appears TeddyCon may be a go! They'll be making a final decision closer to the event, and I'm told they have a decent refund policy in place, but check it out... visit TeddyCon.org for details. 

Baby Pictures: LittleSwimmer

[CWIS'S NOTE] Up today I have some adorable pictures from someone new to the blog: LittleSwimmer! He's 27 and hails from the Pacific Northwest. You may know him from Fetlife. I'll be featuring a Q&A from him soon... today, enjoy some pics. And give him a follow on Fet! 

FETLIFE: @LITTLESWIMMER

Want to contribute your own 'baby pics' 

or do a Q&A for my blog? 

Email me: 

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Baby Pictures: LittleC420

Up today I have some new baby pics from Chuck, aka LittleC420. 

Chuck is an old friend of the blog - 
his pictures have appeared here many times,
and he's even done a Q&A. 

Today he's sent some pics in to share. 

Want to find him? He's on Fetlife! 
And, now on Twitter, too!

Thanks, Chuck! 

Want to contribute pictures to my blog? 

Email me! 

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MORE TO COME SOON! 

Don't forget to look for Chuck

on Fetlife and Twitter!

WhyABDL.org - Updates!

Have you checked out the new site yet? 

This week I updated

a bunch of photos in the 'Little Spaces' section.

Want to see a crib project underway? 

Visit whyABDL.org/littlespaces and click on 'cribs'.

Want to see more? Visit

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Con Drop Is Real...

CON DROP IS REAL

LittleBroTyTy at CAPCON 2017

‘Con drop’ is real. 

Con drop is that feeling of angst we get when we realize we’re leaving a place where we truly fit in for once, and returning to... real life. 

We wait our whole lives for the kind of cameraderie we achieve at events like CAPCON. 

Conventions are a place where being little, being different, or even being ‘weird’ feels completely natural. So leaving such a place brings on a depressed state that is, for many of us, like no other.

At Con we can run around in diapers, a onesie, or a footed sleeper, and nobody bats an eye.

We begin to feel comfortable in our own skin - or the diapers that cover it. For some of us attending for the first time, it’s the first time we’ll feel that comfortable.

We can literally change outfits every hour, and there’s always going to be someone new to tell us how adorable we look. That feels so empowering, hearing that! And it’s something most of us won’t be able to recapture once we leave this space, at least until we return.

Even if we were dressed as vanilla as could be, we could still have conversations out in the open that we can’t have back home. I talked to a man in a bar about changing a college boy’s first diaper since his toddler days, and the people at the next table joined in with a similar story of their own. Try having that conversation at Applebee’s tomorrow and see if you get the same reaction…

Most of us walked through a virtual mall of ABDL merchandise: diapers, and onesies, and pacifiers, and little gear, and adult baby furniture - tomorrow most of us will have to go back to shopping for those things online. Before this weekend we didn’t mind - now we’ve been waited on by the Casey, and going back to a dot com shopping experience just won’t feel the same.

Whether we spent most of our time this weekend snuggling in one of the cribs, playing in a playpen, racing tricycles around the track at top speed, or just taking deep breaths in the corner and trying to get the courage to talk to someone - or, in some cases, anyone - wherever we’re headed back to tomorrow, it’s likely we won’t be doing any of those things.

Some of us will go to a rave this weekend - but it won’t be the rave.

Some of us will return to classes - but they won’t be these classes.

Once the con organizers start taking down those barriers, this experience known as CAPCON is coming to a close, and real life is rearing its ugly head once again.

So we go back to real life, and what we know as ‘con drop’ begins.

For the first-timers… what is con drop?

First, be prepared to feel irritable for no reason - and to not understand why.

When coworkers or friends bother you with things that seem important to them, but ‘little you’ now realizes is grown-up trivial bullshit, you will resent the shit out of them - so much more so than usual.

Even ordinary responsibilities you were used to before con will seem like such an arduous chore after.

Everyday life stuff will feel exhausting and overwhelming after this high that we experienced over the weekend.

All that contributes to the feelings that we know as ‘con drop’.

Read the entire article here.

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Q&A With Aulden

[CWIS'S NOTE] Up today I have a Q&A from Aulden. You may know Aulden from ABDL.link or Twitter. He'll be presenting a class on internet safety at CAPCON this weekend, so if you're in the area, stop in and check it out. Thanks, Aulden! 

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Q&A with Aulden

Bio: Aulden is a poly abdl who currently lives in Boston, MA with his partner AJ. He's an avid reader of classic fiction and nerdy non-fiction alike. Voted the simultaneous biggest bab and most likely to kick your butt in MMA, he can be a handful when he's asked to stay still. When he's not pooping his pants, he can be found taking care of other babs who do or listening to Yoko Ono's rendition of Fireworks by Katy Perry (you're welcome). His coping strategies for stress include watching depressing anime until he stops feeling things and drinking more kombucha than a Soul Cycle instructor from the Bay Area. Aulden works in technology and enjoys tinkering and learning new things especially when they involve robots with cute faces. Once he stops being an aloof bitch around you (which may take some time), you can expect to hear him say strange combinations of words and cycle rabidly between manic sugar highs and severe sleepiness. In summary, he is one strange cream cheese cat.

Name/Nick: Aulden

Age: 26

City/State/Country: All Over

AB/DL/BabyFur/Other? ABDL

When did you first realize you were ABDL?

For me, it all started with a little pee action. While I was tickling my friend, he peed his pants and it drove me absolutely crazy. I also peed my pants out of fear pretty consistently. So Omorashi fantasies and experimentation took off from there. I grew up in fairly rural areas and my parents weren't the most attentive, so peeing my pants was pretty easy to get away with. Rivers and watering holes were definitely my allies in those days. I loved the feeling of losing control and the warmth and infantile comfort that wetting myself gave me but I also grew fonder of the humiliation factor as well and watching others lose control. I was lucky enough that a few of my friends wet the bed and had some potty problems until pretty late, so I was around a fair share of pants peeing boys and girls. One boy in particular certainly formed a lot of my Lovemap.

This all transmuted into abdl when I started using the internet around ten years old. We didn't have a computer until then, but I certainly made up for lost time quickly. I stumbled on a Deeker (cringe) story one day about a boy who gets put back in diapers for Thanksgiving and I was hooked. Many of the ideas around humiliation, power dynamics, diaper usage, diaper dependency, caregiver dynamics, messing were all-new or much more developed than what I had thought of in my own fantasies prior.

What steps did you take to get your diaper 'fix' as a child and/or teen?

I wore thick underwear and toilet paper or multiple layers of undies for a while when I was a kid. I would pee small amounts through the day and it would hold up ok. Also, I was a little jock so it helped all my clothes dried super quick (shoutout to Nike and Speedo) and I was in an out of water frequently. When I was a teenager, I would order goodnights to different abandoned houses using a pre-paid credit card and sneakily grab them at night. 

Do your parents and/or siblings know about you and diapers? If so, please explain how, and how they reacted?

Yes, my mother found out when I was twelve after setting up a new anti-virus software on our network that listed all of the websites anyone in the house visited. Suffice it to say, our conversation around it didn't go well haha. Later that same year she unlocked my computer and saw some pretty pervy conversations I was having with an older couple in California who offered to adopt me. I was actually thinking of going forward with it but that conversation also didn't go very well as you can imagine. From that day forward, I started going to see a therapist which actually ended up being very helpful in the long-term.

A few of my close vanilla friends know now and are supportive. Growing up has been great in a lot of ways and I don't feel as anxious to hide it as before. In this version of reality that we're living in the United States right now, few things surprise or embarrass me anymore.

Some experts believe that we become the way we are because of traumas experienced at an early age, including abuse and/or neglect. Do your life experiences bear this out?

Sadly yes haha. I'd love to break that narrative and I think there are so many exceptions that it seems less prevalent nowadays but I was abused for a long time and there are certain aspects of my sex life/identity that are directly related to this. A lot of diaper usage and physical touch in abdl activities reflect pieces of my experience that I have sought to reclaim and translate into safety and comfort. That being said, it's something I still struggle with and it makes it much harder for me to feel comfortable around people I don't know and any situation I might have trouble processing. It doesn't help that I have Kleine-Levin Syndrome which makes some stimulus hard for me to deal with at times as is haha. I do really applaud the abdl and ace community for being a safe haven for people who need to rebuild or in general have experienced trauma.

Do your interests involve a subset of this community, such as babyfurs, diaper disciplinarians, wet/messy, sissybabies etc.? Please tell us about it. I won't even try to be specific here; just tell us what you think people should know.

Not really but I am a big fan of little messy pants babs and being a stinker myself. However, in general I'm kind of all over the place but many of my partners come to the table with different interests and it's part of what I love exploring with people. I'm a pansexual, switch, poly, aquarius (exhale) so there is really no limit to my chaotic experimental energy.

What % of your sexual activities and/or masturbation incorporate diapers? Has this caused problems for you?

Probably close to 100%. I certainly had a hard time with this when I was younger. I didn't date some really amazing people because I didn't think they would accept this part of me. Which caused me to feel very lonely and isolated. After getting some perspective and growing up a lot, I do think that being a queer abdl has given me a very unique perspective on the world. Some of the brightest and most interesting people I've met are in the community and with every year that goes by I see how the community broadens and the world becomes more accepting. One of my dreams is to open up the first state-funded kink-friendly college in Germany!

If you get into the regression aspect of ABDL please tell us more about that. If you do not, and you have feelings about being lumped into a fetish involving it, explain how it makes you feel.

Regression is magic! I find that it has helped me let go of some of my hangups around gender and masculinity as well which has been a bonus. Being able to let everything go and be wide-eyed and bushy-tailed again is an experience I think everyone should be able to have at least once as an adult. It took me a while to be able to find someone who could get me into the headspace but, once I got there, I realized how similar it was to the nirvana you can experience with mindfulness meditation, rigorous athletics, or deep creative expression. Everything else in the world just goes away and you transcend. 

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