Fifty!!!

Boating season is here, yet again!

In 2016, after nine years of living in a community whose daddies had blackballed me from the very beginning - like legit before they'd even met me - I relocated to New York state and bought a boat to spend the summers on.

What a difference that move made...

My first new ABDL friend visited just weeks into my new lifestyle. At first, I was afraid to invite someone to come visit a boat - what kind of weird, f'd up situation is that? But he came, and actually seemed to really enjoy it, and what began a little awkwardly quickly turned into a brainstorming session.

"This berth would make a pretty decent crib," he pointed out. "Throw in a few stuffed animals and you could make someone feel very, very little. And just think of the padded parties you could throw on this thing..."

Thus, the 'Luvs Boat' was launched.

I started off by inviting people to visit for what I called 'boating weekends' in 2017. I took a few weekends off, invited a ton of ABDLs from all across upstate New York, and waited.

The first weekend was a washout. Only me, on the boat, all weekend.

The second weekend, too... nothing but cancellations and flakes.

(If you've ever tried to build a community in a less-populated area, I bet this sounds familiar to you).

The third weekend was just me for most of the weekend. At the very end - we're talking late Sunday evening - two ABDLs from Buffalo, two to three hours away, arrived. They came waddling down the dock bearing bottles of wine, and we sat on the forward deck, drinking and watching the sunset.

"This is magical," one of them said. "Think of the get-togethers you could have..."

(I'd been trying...)

The next 'weekend' was crazy! There were seven of us - we barely had room to sit down. I took a few group photos and posted them on my social media, and suddenly the people I'd invited who had a hard time picturing themselves diapered on a boat could vizualize what a 'padded boat party' might look like.

I had no trouble with invites after that.

Group get-togthers. Weekends with Z, a local college student and my first bona fide 'little'. Finally meeting ABDLs I'd talked to online for years but had never met. Padded movie nights... watching thunderstorms diapered abovedecks when the marina cleared out and it was just us left. It really was magical.

I'd spent years with zero local ABDL friends, so having a dozen in that first summer? I used to say that I'd met more ABDLs in three months than I'd met in nine years where I used to live. It was heaven!

 

 

Then we started taking the boat out. Until then, we'd spent our weekends mostly belowdecks, hanging out in the 'cuddle cabin' or taking naps in the 'crib'... sipping mixed drinks or wine in the salon... playing games and watching movies... and, my favorite, having deep, meaningful conversations late into the night.

Motoring out onto the water changed things. With more than 60 square miles of surface area, it was easy to find a secluded spot, strip down to nothing but diapers and onesies, and just... be little. If you're into boating you already know: things are different out on the water. You find a sense of freedom that can be elusive almost anywhere else. Being able to share it with members of our community felt amazing, and the eventual realization that a little bit of a 'community' had formed - I can't tell you how much that meant, especially to those of us experiencing it for the first time.

Then, just as quick as this new life had found me, COVID came, along with an almost-simultaneous cancer diagnosis, and we were suddenly social distancing and avoiding each other to be safe. Big padded weekends at the boat became sort of scary, and we had to settle for 1:1 weekends, if that.

Still, the day before my surgery in August 2020 I snuck three friends (at once!) onto the boat, and we spend the afternoon, and the evening, and - thanks to a touchy motor that didn't want to re-start - part of the night padded and out on the water. We had a BBQ dinner, and caught a surprise fireworks show offshore, and just hung out. If you were a reader of my blog back then, you may remember how scared I was that complications during surgery might arise. While we didn't really discuss it until the end, we approached that day on the boat like it could be our last, and as we returned to the dock, I was in tears - it meant a lot to me that my friends had been willing to drop everything to come out and spend that time with me. I wasn't sure that I'd get another chance to captain a little padded excursion, and if I wouldn't, I knew I couldn't have asked for a better final cruise out on the water.

Fast forward - my surgery went better than expected, recovery breezed along, COVID mostly came to an end, and things slowly started getting back to normal. In 2021 and 2022 I began to host visitors again, and while the crowded 'blowout weekends' of the past were no longer a thing, we had a few fun weekends out on the water.

In the seven years since I launched the 'Luvs Boat' I've had visitors from NYC, Boston, CT, DC, Miami, Texas, Chicago, Iowa, Mexico City, and Europe, among other places. I've also assembled a core group of 'little' friends I can call on a moment's notice, whether diaper-related or not. Being invited to my first 'diaper party' was a shock of sorts - I'd never met more than one ABDL at a time before I moved, outside of CAP - but I've since attended several. 'Padded pours' wine tours, glamping with the boys, semi-padded hikes with a little (I chafe, lol)... living the padded life, and loving every minute of it... 

 

 I absolutely realize how lucky I have gotten.

Although it didn't come without a fair share of work...

Anyway, last week I hosted my fiftieth ABDL visitor to the #LuvsBoat.

50!

We didn't do a photoshoot - it didn't even occur to me until later that he was visitor #50. It was just a short little boat ride to reposition the Luvs Boat from one marina to another. But still... 50! But dude was chill AF - just the way we like them - so hoping to have him back to visit soon...

I realize that counting the number of visitors to the boat probably sounds obnoxious - braggart, much?

I do it for three reasons.

The first is because, over those nine years in ABDL Outcastatopia, I missed out on so many opportunities to meet people from our community. People who wanted to meet but had to swear me to secrecy, lest some daddy find out and ban them from the local parties. People who read my blog and loved the content, but could only tell me that in DMs because commenting where others could see it could cause trouble for them. Did you know that I reached one million blog views, with over a thousand blog entries, and dozens of 'guest entries', and four photo contests - all without a single person from my area appearing anywhere on my blog? Cliques ruin community. Moving away and suddenly getting to meet dozens of ABDLs... that says something to those who I missed out on, and who missed out on meeting me. (I've since had a number of people who were once afraid to meet me reach out to explain their side, or to ask questions, etc. - seeing photos of so many of you visit the boat has made some re-evaluate things, and I absolutely fucking love that.)

The second is because I know that many of you who read my blog are in a similar place as I was. The messages I receive, and results of surveys I've done and polls I do on Twitter, tells me that a large number of those in our community don't have very many - or, often, any - ABDL friends. Maybe it's because a 'clique' of daddies/boys (or mommies/girls?) have intentionally excluded you. Maybe nobody is setting up formal meets in your area yet. Or maybe you just have social anxiety and are afraid to accept invites that are being extended? Whatever the reason, I want to make it known that the same person who can go nine years without making a single local friend can move, find their fortunes changed, and eventually have a few dozen of them. Hang in there...

The third and final reason is because I love to host ABDLs for the first time. Whether it's a college student coming for padded little weekends, or friends visiting from afar, or even littles passing us by on the New York State Thruway and turning in for an afternoon - I love meeting people from our community, and I have a lot of lost time to make up for. While some will become regulars, and others will just be here for a few hours - maybe just to help me move a boat - and will head back along their journey, every visit I've had has been amazing - for me and, I hope, for my new friends. ABDLs have visited the 'Luvs Boat' and left with new friends they made here. Close friends. And, very likely, lifelong friends. People who have met on the Luvs Boat have gone on trips together... two have even gotten engaged. I'm so hoping that 2023 will bring more of the same...

If you live in upstate New York - think western, central, and the Southern Tier - and you'd like to visit, email me at abysitter@gmail.com.

Likewise, if you'll find yourself traveling through the area - I'm just an hour or two from Buffalo, Rochester, Syracuse, Ithaca, Corning, etc. - get in touch.

And, if a long weekend, or a few weekdays, is something you'd be interested in driving out for - same. There's even a direct shuttle from NYC, NJ, Toronto, and a number of other cities. If we're friends but haven't met yet, and you are staring down a summer of adventures, consider making a stop thru NY one of them.

If you're connected to a clique or companies who don't take particularly kindly to my stance on 18+ please be up front about that. I'd prefer to avoid those who actively blackball/ed me for obvious reasons, but I am definitely aware that sometimes innocent li'l ABies get caught up in the 'clique mentality.' If that's been you, open the conversation with that. Who knows what could happen. Honesty is the best policy. TIA, for that.

Anyway, whether you're close by enough to make a visit, or just prefer to enjoy the action on the website, I'm hoping for an amazing spring and summer with lots of fun, some new friends, and magical experiences.

If you're one of the fifty visitors we'd had so far, I can't thank you enough. Every single one has been amazing.

If you're not, and making it to where I am isn't outside of the realm of possibility, let me know.


Cwis

 

PS: Thanks, as always, for your support... I see every 'like' and 'retweet' on Twitter, and appreciate them all. Y'all rock... 

Q&A With Florian/Cathbaby

Q&A with Florian/Cathbaby

Name/Nick: Florian Ramm / cathbaby

Age: 46

City/State/Country: Kiel / Schleswig-Holstein / Germany

AB/DL/BabyFur/Other?  I am ABDL and in BDSM as Babyslave, also like #watersports, so everything that deals with peepee, and I like clinic (in combination with rubber/latex clothes), especially catheter and enema, with and without diaper

When did you first realize you were ABDL?  

 

After I became incontinent (by heavy accident/brain trauma) with 16 I was 3 years in trouble, then psychologist helped me to accept to wear diapers. With 19 I met then a very dominant girlfriend and she liked that I was wearing diapers and we started role play - she made me to be her baby and I started pretty quick to like it and to become "addicted" to ABDL (and later BDSM); BUT 1st tendencies I had already with 12 or 13 because my sister was/is bedwetter and had plastic protection pants - and´I "borrowed" them and weared them as well.

 

What steps did you take to get your diaper 'fix' as a child and/or teen?

 

"Normal development" so diaper-free with 3 , then by trauma/accident being 16 years old 6 month in clinic with catheter, after catheter was out it was dripping further and since then diapers are my daily support 24/7/365.

 

Do your parents and/or siblings know about you and diapers? If so, please explain how, and how they reacted?

 

Yes they know I wear diapers and it was just seeing as "support" for me (required) but except my (Play)Friends and partners nobody knows that I am ABDL or into BDSM play ;-)    

 

Have you dealt with the shame and regret that is the binge/purge cycle? Please explain.

 

Sometimes yes, not for wearing diapers - that is normal for me - but for being Adult Baby, wearing baby clothes, sucking pacifier or thumb ; especially if I (very rarely) mess my diaper - with or without enema... but this is very very rare , normally I am very very open and interested in a lot of things and have more or less no shames.

 

For collegebabies/DLs, did this interest affect your college experiences? If so, how?

I did not go swimming in the lake with my college partners and had some "limits" in doing sports because I did not want somebody to know my "handicap".

 

How has this fetish affected your social life and/or dating? Married life? Parenting?

 

A lot - it is not easy to find partners to accept that kink, and if they accept often then do not want to play as well.., Kids no option because I am limited there as well (very low level of sperms). By 1st dates always thinking about "how will I explain..." and "what if  She/he finds my stuff..." ??  

 

Some experts believe that we become the way we are because of traumas experienced at an early age, including abuse and/or neglect. Do your life experiences bear this out?

 

Not that I am aware of BUT my younger bedwetting sister got lot of attention where I had to be the "strong guy", might this impacted me

 

Some people have pointed out their observation that a larger-than-average number of multiple birth babies (twins, etc.) rep the ABDL lifestyle. If you are one of these, please explain what effect, if any, you feel this may have had on your ABDLishness.

 

I am not a twin, have younger sister.

 

For the older generation, please tell us more about what it was like being ABDL before social networking. I will be looking for the perspectives of members in their 40s, 50s, and even higher.

 

What is "older generation" ;-) I am 46, so as I went inside "ABDL lifestyle" it was with my girlfriend, later (after I got single) as got interested if others feel "baby'ish" or combine diapers and BDSM roleplay with 1st internet explorers, but in "social networks" I am only since 10 years, before there were special groups or sites (more locally, more limited), now it is more the feeling of a "global community" - and this one is bigger than I thought - a lot of ABDL exist > and very interesting fact: there seems to be a strong combination between ABDL and Trans/FemBoi/PupPlay(gay, bi)...

 

For the little dunces, please tell us about what it was like to discover this fetish/lifestyle on the Internet. Please be at least 18 at the time of writing, but be specific about what age you discovered it, what sites helped you, and keep this part PG for obvious reasons.

 

I started begin/mid 30ies with diaperspace and then some German local based websites - how did I find them ? by a linklist from a larger diaper supplier who did not only serve incontinent also ABDL and fetish people. My coverage: a longer time kinks/fetishes were more "separated", since 10-15 years they are more "mixing/melting together", same as it is for me - I explore more and I "combine"...

 

Do your interests involve a subset of this community, such as babyfurs, diaper disciplinarians, wet/messy, sissybabies etc.? Please tell us about it. I won't even try to be specific here; just tell us what you think people should know.

 

I like a lot and experiment a lot - diaper disciplinarian/babyslave, messing/enema, clinic/catheter ; sissyfication I did not try but I am interested, same as Trans (so having a Trans as dominant or sub ; I switch, so I started as Submissive but since 5 years or so I explore the dominant side as well taking care of interested play partners ; I would declare myself now as "Pansexual" so I like all but started as "bi" after a longer period only attracted by girls but as said I like to experiment and I am very curious :-)

 

What % of your sexual activities and/or masturbation incorporate diapers? Has this caused problems for you?

 

95% in diapers (because I am incontinent and can not be without) and I am "addicted" too so like that squishy warm feeling (and the smell of baby powder and urine), but 5% as well just with catheter in "harder play sessions" as pure rubber slave not baby, sometimes I also combine to be the "rubber baby" with (open) catheter AND diaper  AND  mostly a buttplug in.

 

If you get into the regression aspect of ABDL please tell us more about that. If you do not, and you have feelings about being lumped into a fetish involving it, explain how it makes you feel.

 

I feel little, helpless and the other person need to tell me what to do ; and I need something in my mouth - pacifier or thumb.

Don't let yourself be limited by my questions. If you have anything else at all that you would like to say please feel free to say it here:  

 

Overall I think the whole ABDL community gets more "colorful", other kinks are accepted and combined with each other which is creating interesting profiles of people ; I have the feeling that people get more tolerant but more "inside the big pool of kink people", less tolerant "outside".

Twitter... my thoughts/my history...

I created my Twitter account, @abysitter, way back in April 2009. My blog - the one you're reading now - had been started just a few months before, and I was looking to open some new channels. 

I'd started this blog because there were rumors that several of the various ABDL websites were going to go down. I'd made some amazing friends all over the world, and back then we were primarily connected via the diaper sites - a few made the AIM/YIM cut, but not many, and if the diaper sites went down, that would have been a lot of connections lost. I reserved the "Abysitter.com" domain, linked it from my various ABDL site accounts, and hoped that, if the websites died, people would come find me. 

One of the websites did go down, new ones opened, but a whole lot of people came and found my blog. And started reading it. Regularly. My stories about growing up ABDL appealed to people, I think, and before long I had regular readers, and soon after contributors - other ABDLs sending photos for me to post, or stories to share. I started doing polls and photo contests within a few years, and the blog really took off. 

I celebrated our millionth pageview with a photo contest a few years back. Our 100th Q&A came in the next year, I believe. More than 1,500 blog entries were posted between its beginning and my transitioning content to my new website, WhyABDL.org, around the same time. 

That's a lot of content. 

I started my Twitter account in part because of a few pedodads (pedophile + daddies) who had blackballed me in my local community - in part so they could continue to party with the kind of people who wouldn't be welcome in our community today. Several people connected to them served as moderators for the diaper websites, and I'd been quietly warned that my accounts on one or two of those websites might be taken down as retaliation if I blogged about their behavior - if you were around back then you may remember that I started posting about minors in kink rather early on, striking fear (and anger) in the hearts of those who support it - a much higher percentage than you'd see today. I figured adding additional channels couldn't hurt. Still, I wasn't aware of any other ABDLs on Twitter, and I honestly didn't think my account would last long there. I created one to reserve the @abysitter handle and figured maybe one day it might just take off with kinksters like it had with tech geeks - its primary user base in the early days. 

Eventually, obviously, it did.

When I posted a little bird graphic linking directly to my Twitter page some in our community did not approve - my blog readers had shit to say to me haha. Posting my Twitter handle on the old forums, too, was met with hostility. Li'l ABDLs who came into this community via Twitter will find this hard to believe, but back in '09, '10, '11 if you created an ABDL Twitter account, many in our community would accuse you of "pushing our kink onto the public." Making a kink account on a non-kink website, back then, was the same as stripping down to a diaper on a playground today - sure you could do it, hut should you? It was a bad look for the community. 

I kept it up, despite the criticism, though I didn't use it much in the early days. I preferred the space the Blogger platform offered, and once our community began to take to Tumblr, I'll admit I preferred the additional space offered there. I'm wordy - anyone who's tried to slog through my blog entries or my e-book can tell you that. Twitter's character limit was so - limiting, lol - and the DM's were limited, too. Fuck that...

Over the past few years, though, something happened: actual conversations began to take place on Twitter. Sure, the same daddies used it for lurking and sneaky DM grooming, and the same 'stars of the community' boys used it to blast sexy fap material and links to the masses. But between all of that there were people actually conversating. Conversations with multiple parties, even. I started including my Twitter handle in my email blasts, trying to encourage others to join, as well. 

When I was diagnosed with cancer in 2020, followed by a surgery which did not go as well as hoped, fatigue took hold and my productivity level dropped a thousand fold. If you knew me in the early years of my blog you'll remember that I was prolific as fuck, often working on a whole bunch of different things at once, updating everywhere with fresh content across the board. All of that changed in the months leading up to my diagnosis. I haven't written much more than a few cancer updates in the past two years. 

That's the real reason that I've come to love Twitter. The character limit I once hated has become one of my favorite features - I can keep things short and sweet, posting something meaningful without spending hours on it. It's helped a lot. Even Tumblr posts seem longer-than-necessary, now - I prefer Twitter's 'threads' over a longer Tumblr post any day of the week. And with unlimited character DMs on Twitter, some of my DMs have become an absolute fucking monstrosity of text - y'all know who you are, and I've loved every minute of messaging with you.

Today "RIP Twitter" began trending, and before long had more than 100,000 tweets. Twitter insiders claim that internal problems will lead to things like people being locked out of their accounts, server outages, and maybe even the site's demise. The new owner, Elon Musk, has a history of homophobic and transphobic tweets, so even if the website sticks around, nobody knows what the future of adult content - and, especially, gay/trans content - could be. Will Twitter continue to be safe for someone like us in the future, as it has been since at least 2009? Nobody knows. 

If Twitter goes down, it will have a very real impact on the ABDL community, and other kink communities. Sure, there will be replacements - just like Aby.com replaced DPF.com, and RUPadded.com replaced Aby.com, and Diaper-Bois replaced RUPadded.com, something would replace Twitter. Just like Twitter replaced Tumblr for ABDL content - something else will become the next Tumblr. I mean, the next Twitter. 

One thing is certain: the ABDL community adapts to change. We will continue to find places to flock to, and we'll continue to find ways to connect with one another, no matter what happens with any website. I've already seen people posting a few dozen times tonight with the links they've already set up just in case something like this happens. We know how it is... we've been through it before, and we'll go through it again. 

Here's hoping that Twitter gets it together, and that it continues to be a safe space for kink. If that's not he case, you can find me across numerous other platforms, @abysitter on most and @luvsboat on one or two.

 And if the Twitter apocalypse occurred and you're here to find me and share some new link with me - my links are all on the right side of this blog. Or email abysitter@gmail.com. You don't even have to ask - of course I want to keep in touch.

Cancer Update Fall 2022

Two years ago today I was being prepped for cancer surgery, completely unsure of the outcome. Possible complications during surgery due to the condition itself - plus the usual anesthesiologist warnings - had me feeling fairly certain things wouldn’t go my way, and I wrote a letter expressing my appreciation to our community. It was something of a ‘goodbye letter’, as well, because I wasn’t feeling very optimistic at the time. In something of a ‘silver lining’, my cancer proved to be mostly inoperable - something my surgeon could only determine once they’d opened me up in the operating room. Because they abandoned the plan to operate on my tumor itself and on the lesions on my liver, most of the risk was negated, and my recovery time was faster than expected.

That left me with a rare cancer with one known treatment - a monthly injection administered at the infusion center - and a prognosis that is indeterminate, to say the least. A ‘second opinion’ confirmed that I was on the only course of treatment available to me, and I’ve settled in for monthly shots, quarterly scans, and hoping for the best.

I get a lot of requests for updates. The truth is, there’s not much to share much of the time. Many cancers are the same: go through treatment, get a scan, interpret the scan results, and continue the process. There is no cure for cancer that has spread to the lymph nodes, and short of a liver transplant, which only temporarily slows the kind of cancer I have, once cancer has spread to your liver it’s there and growing, no matter what you do. Stage IV is stage IV - it doesn’t decrease to stage III, and it doesn’t go away. Slow is the goal. So far, as far as metastasis goes, I’m satisfied with how things are progressing.

I hope to see a specialist in the Seattle area who is considered an expert in the particular kind of cancer I have. I may incorporate that into a road trip to the west coast, eventually. But where I bucket-list-road-tripped all the way from New York to Key West in January, and drove the Blue Ridge Mountains in April, the heat wave of the summer brought with it worsening symptoms, especially fatigue and exhaustion. CAPCON almost didn’t happen, and many of the weekends I’d hoped to spend hosting Luvs Boat visitors have been spent in bed, instead. (My hope is a specialist might be able to help improve that side of this).

Two pieces of good news: some very, very introductory-level studies have shown a new classification of drug that appears to make short work on cancerous tumors; and, a new medical treatment for Carcinoid syndrome is being tested. Both of these could be years away, but could be introduced in my lifetime. Hopeful for that! 

During these months that things haven’t gone as well for me I’ve poured myself into my work in the ABDL world, doing polls and Twitter and deep-diving into survey data from previous surveys I’ve done. My goals are to publish an explainer for ABDL that is detailed enough for our community but simple enough for those outside of it - spouses, family members, and significant others who don’t understand. I’ve spent years gathering survey data, Q&A’s, and other input, and it’s time to use that to the fullest. I look forward to sharing more with you…

Summer is almost over, fall is coming, and I’m hoping that the cool weather will bring increased energy and decreased symptoms. In the meantime, I want to thank every member of our community who have taken the time to reach out, no matter where it was: at CAPCON, on my Fetlife feed, in an email or direct message - anywhere. Realizing that there are people in a community who care about you and truly want to know how you’re doing feels amazing and, no matter how I’m feeling, makes me feel better every time. So thank you for that.

I belong to several Facebook groups for my specific cancer, and I read so many people feel like they don’t have much of a support network. I’ve had dozens, if not hundreds, of inquiries since I went through surgery two years ago. All of that, plus a case of diapers in the mail and donations toward my road trips - this community has reminded me time and time again that my support network is strong af. So thank you for that.

I feel like fall is going to tell whether things being worse for me was truly the heat or maybe just disease progression. I am hopeful - think positive, right? - that it’s the former. Either way, I wanted to give my mailing list subscribers, blog readers, and friends an update. I’ll have more for you soon.

Your friend,


Cwis

[X] - Follow me on Twitter

[X] - Buy my ABDL E-book

[X] - Support 

Also: I’ve had a shit ton of requests for more information on the ‘DNI List’ that I referenced in my last mailing list blast. I’ll have more on that for you soon… that warrants an entry all on its own.

Twitter Photo Contest - Updates!

 

 

 

 

'DNI'?????
I've been hearing persistent rumors that a little hive of petty babs has asked some of their friends to avoid interacting with me on Twitter. I've seen enough of a dropoff from certain people in my likes, and had one interaction, to determine that is... true.

I've been calling out cliques and pedodads for a long time, and it's all culminated in... the 'DNI' list?

If someone has asked you not to interaction (DNI = Do Not Interact), or not to participate in this contest, I'd love to hear about it - just reply to this email or DM me on Twitter. And know that, when I share my full account of my time in this community, it will make things crystal clear. 

That's coming, but for now... be independent. 

There's a reason that I've been championing independent ABDLs who make their own decisions over the many cliques and followers in our community (May 2017) or the boys who blindly follow pedodads (February 2012) or the pedodads themselves (March 2015) or the boys who blindly follow the clique(January 2014). This is far from new... I've been talking about this shit for over a decade. Not everyone is a fan, it turns out...

If anyone, in this or any other community, ever tells you that you shouldn't interact with anyone... ask questions. Even if that person seems like a 'leader'. My experiences have showed me that not all 'community leaders' are created the same, and sometimes good people get targeted by people who don't have half their character. I've seen it happen to others, and it's happened to me. For the vast majority who still support me - I truly appreciate it.

 

TWITTER PHOTO CONTEST DEADLINE - PROBABLY 7/11!
My Twitter photo contest deadline is 7/11! Nobody ever wants to be the first, but I finally have an entry - check it out! That guarantees a Canadian winner... who's next? Prizes for top photo in US, Canada, Mexico, Europe, and Australia, plus a few prizes that can be won by anyone, anywhere. Anyone can win, so make a "SummerOfSog" sign, snap a summery photo, and enter! Click here for rules and details.


PRIZES GALORE!
Prizes for this contest have been donated by ABUniverse, AgeComfort.com, Diaper-Minister, Northshore, and OnesiesDownunder, and include:

• $250AU in OnesieBucks ($100AU group, $50AU for Most Creative, Most Summery, and 'Broke the Mold' - more on that soon.

• Bag of Cushies diapers (Mexico, Australia where it's winter, blah)

• Bag of Crinklz Aquanauts diapers (USA)

• Bag of Little Sailors diapers (Europe)

• Bag of Forsite Under the Sea diapers (Canada)

• Nautical Baby Bottles (for best comments)

LEAVE A NICE COMMENT

Remember, there are awards for leaving nice comments! Give someone a morale boost and you're eligible to win a prize, as well! Visit the contest announcement tweet to check them out.

MY APOLOGIES...

I've had a number of folks hit me up to share that they're on vacation or traveling during the past holiday week, and I guess not everyone packs diapers or sign-making material on their trips? We'll wait to see how many entries roll in before I decide whether I'll be able to extend the deadline. I'm anxious to get these prizes shipped out! Keep an eye on the contest details page for updates.

 

TWITTER PHOTO CONTEST SUMMER 2022

 

TWITTER PHOTO CONTEST

CLICK HERE FOR THE CONTEST TWEET

This is a Twitter-only contest.

Visit whyABDL.org/summerofsog for details. 

18+ (duh)

PRIZES:

Group Photo: $100AU Giftcard Courtesy OnesiesDownUnder

Top USA: Bag of Crinklz Aquanauts courtesy Northshore

Top Canada: Bag of Forsite Under the Sea Diapers courtesy AgeComfort.com

Top Mexico: Bag of ABUniverse Cushies courtesy ABUniverse.com

Top Europe: Bag of Kiddos Little Sailors Diapers courtesy Diaper-Minister

Top Australia (where it's currently winter): Bag of ABUniverse Cushies courtesy ABUniverse.com

Most Creative Sign: $50AU Giftcard courtesy OnesidesDownunder.

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Updates Spring 2022

Updates - Spring 2022

LUVS BOAT

It’s launch time and the ‘Luvs Boat’ should be afloat during the next few weeks.  

In 2020 I was in bed (on the boat) for weeks, awaiting surgery, and we were all quarantining, so I saw only my most die-hard boating friends. In 2021 things were getting back to normal, but we limited visitors to people I knew would be taking COVID precautions - no new people that year.

In 2022, with things even more ‘back to normal’ and those of us who are vaccinated appearing to be immune from serious complications from COVID, I am hoping to make a few new friends. Maybe have some visitors from afar.

Nothing crazy, but I’m building a little invite list.

If you live in upstate New York, or will be visiting the area between May and October of this year, email me.

ROAD TRIPS

I’m also building a little contact list for future road trips… scroll to the bottom of this email to read more.

In 2021 I acquired a Tesla Model 3. It’s the entry-level EV from Tesla, but I absolutely love it. What I love most is being able to take road trips on the cheap, criss-crossing the country and mainly charging (for free) at campsites as I go.

I have a huge hook-on tent that clips to the back, but I much prefer sleeping in the car - they call that Teslacamping. So far in 2022 I have spent the night in my little sleeping pod nearly 30 nights. (I’ve been on the road for almost 40, but health conditions and weather have necessitated some hotel and homestays).

Those of you who have been with me for a while have probably seen the road trip I took with Ben in June of last year. That trip was so amazing, but too short. This past January I traveled solo from my home in New York state down the Atlantic coast to spend some time in the Outer Banks, in South Carolina, an overnight in Georgia, and a week in Florida, including two nights in Key West. What a trip! Earlier this month I took a trip to Virginia, North Carolina, and a little bit into Tennessee to drive Skyline Drive, the Blue Ridge Parkway, and Tail of the Dragon. Talk about beautiful.

Each trip has been a padded road trip - I’ve been diapered nearly 100% of the time, with a few exceptions. I will say that wearing diapers while driving 5,000 miles in January made that trip a lot easier - and a bit more fun - but wearing them on the Blue Ridge Parkway was an absolute necessity - the rest areas are mostly closed this time of year, some of the port-a-loos were overflowing, and the Appalachian Trail hikers just pee and poo in the woods so many folks visiting in their cars do that, too. Diapers! Don’t go on a road trip or hike the trails without them. 

Still, it wasn’t as fun without Ben - two diaperboys on the road makes it an adventure! I did get to see a friend (and repeat boat visitor) while I was in Miami, so that was cool. And I had plans to visit some ABDL friends in NC on the way back up, but the January COVID outbreak ruined that. And I couldn’t find the contact info of two in Florida I’d hoped to see when I was there. A little from inland NC offered to drive out to the Outer Banks for an overnight and I have been kicking myself ever since for not taking him up on it.

Ben’s talked about coming back for a re-attempt at our Great Lakes Road Trip - you might remember that the first edition got shortened after some joyriders in a parking lot caused $6K in damage to the car. LittleBroTyTy would like to go on an adventure with me this year, too. And, as I do a few into neighboring states over the summer, I may have other friends ask to join. Maybe I’ll even bring the tent on a few and have some padded sleeping under the stars with a gaggle of littles. A few friends have brought up a group road trip plan. For now, I’m just loving every minute of the drives, and trying to make every day as experienced-filled as possible, wet, damp, or dry.

CANCER

You may remember that, in June of 2020 I was diagnosed with Stage IV neuroendocrine cancer. I had surgery - one I was afraid I may not make it out of - and while the most serious of the tumors was inoperable and my surgeon abandoned surgery on my liver (for the time being) to avoid more serious complications, the surgery did help alleviate some of the symptoms of the disease.

Since then I’ve had a monthly ‘chemo’ injection, and scans every 3-4 months to keep an eye on the tumors - are they growing, spreading?

I get questions about my cancer a lot, and I appreciate it every time. Sometimes it’s hard to update immediately, and my answers may be a bit simplistic at times, especially during the periods of time where I haven’t known myself and am anxiously awaiting the next scan. Still, the first 15 months following surgery went fairly smoothly, save for a need for iron infusions when I turned out to be very anemic due to a reduced ability to absorb iron - likely caused by the medication. A bit more detailed info on recent difficulties follows - skip to the next subject header if you don’t want to hear…




After my January road trip I returned and reported that my symptoms were worsening. My oncology team watches for signs of more than just scans showing tumor growth, as this is a type of cancer that is slow-growing but can cause many other issues that don’t show up on the scans.

Another problem that arose was that my blood pressure suddenly spiked, and medication wouldn’t bring it down. My oncologist was concerned that the monthly dose was the direct cause of the increased hypertension - he’d doubled my dose back in December to increase the effects of the drug, and thought that it might be too much. They decided to stop the cancer treatments for three weeks, to monitor things. My blood pressure improved and the symptoms didn’t get too much worse, so they sent me off on my road trip after a halved dose.

Symptoms during the last road trip were not good at all, and upon my return it was decided that the double dose would be the norm going forward. Things have improved since then, but my BP is higher again. Some patients have to stop taking the drug altogether because of its side effects, and they are investigating a different drug - there are only two that work for my kind of cancer - and some additional medication that is apparently so expensive they fully expect to have to fight my insurer to get it approved, and don’t think they will win. (Those of you reading this from Canada, Europe, and other countries with real healthcare… I can’t tell you how lucky you are). I also met with a radiation oncologist, because if they have to stop the shot the next step will be radiation. I’m a little concerned because I clearly remember my surgeon telling me that radiation would be the last-ditch effort step, and they’re talking about it now. But they tell me not to worry. Still no way to really predict.

My next concern will be my scan in June, because stopping the monthly injection typically leads to the cancer spreading within weeks. Was my ‘break’ from the shot long enough to lead to tumor growth? I’ll know in June.

My cancer is one where the prognosis is difficult to determine. I belong to Facebook groups for my specific cancer type, and they’re full of people celebrating milestones - sometimes 9, 10 years! still alive following surgery - but they’re also filled with notifications of the passing of people who seemed healthier than me and hoped to live for years but lived for just a few. One woman who had her surgery the exact same day as I did died one year later; I was celebrating my surgery anniversary and she made it exactly to the anniversary.

I’m hopeful that my scan in June reveals good news and we proceed with whatever the best course of treatment is. But since neuroendocrine cancer is unpredictable, and since the symptoms is causes typically worsen over time, and since it can cause issues that go beyond simple cancer itself - carcinoid syndrome, carcinoid heart disease, and etc. - I’m going to keep trying to fit as much as possible into every day.

Sorry to those who have gotten short, nondescript answers about my cancer - I get the question a few times every week, at least, and sometimes it’s harder to answer than others.

CAPCON, TEDDYCON, ETC.

Hoping to attend CAPCON this year! If so it would be my sixth one. Tyson and I, like most of you who are going, didn’t get a room in the host hotel. (Boo!) We’re hoping things change - you may remember that everyone who was closed out of the host hotel in 2020 eventually got a room if they wanted one. This year does seem to be even more popular than the past, probably because of the many events that have been canceled - CAPCON, TeddyCon, WCJJ, and TomKat just here in the US - so if there’s an event, everyone will jump at the chance to attend. Tyson found a hotel that has suites just down the street, so we may do that and have a little get-together of our own with those who are able to drive… time will tell.

I had considered proposing a class to teach at the con - you may remember I co-lead one on the history of the ABDL internet five years ago, and lead a discussion on the ‘Origins of ABDL’ a year later. I’d love to lead another discussion, because there are a few topics that I think would make a fascinating discussion. Still not sure. My treatment schedule and, sometimes, symptoms could lead to my not being able to attend, and stress leads to increase symptoms so… maybe I’ll leave the classes up to others this year. We’ll see. If you have a good idea for a class that you’d like to attend, I’d love to hear it. If you’re going to CAPCON in July, consider proposing and teaching it! Anyone can do it… trust me…

I will say that I was very unhappy with the way CAPCON went down in 2020, from registration to the hotel booking. I was one of those who provided feedback - privately at first, and then publicly when it appeared that it had fallen on deaf ears. I have to give credit where it’s due: the process this year has been much more transparent and, I have to say, well-organized. Presuming that there is fairness in the way that the rooms are being handed out, most everything this year is an improvement. I see a lot of complaining about delays and dates not met, and I have to say that running an event of this magnitude is a daunting task and not following up on the exact date, while testing the anxiety of those of us who have it, isn’t that remarkable. Everyone just be chill… so far, though, my ABU cap is off to organizers.

As for TeddyCon…

I had never gotten to attend a TeddyCon. I bought tickets several years, but I was always closed out of the host hotel, and like many of you I like having that little escape to duck into during the con. So I just didn’t go. It probably didn’t help that it was the very end of boating season every year, and I had a lot to do, so a con felt like something I just didn’t have time for.

TeddyCon very generously sponsored my photo contest one year, donating a room in the host hotel and a whole bunch of other prizes, and I always appreciated that. I had planned to attend this last one, despite my COVID concerns, and was excited to even get a room in the host hotel last-minute! Woo hoo!

Turned out that was probably because the hotel had just found out the event would be canceled. A day or so later they made the announcement. I was just as surprised as anyone. And I haven’t heard a thing from the organizers since, like everyone else. (Not that I would expect to).

The one thing I want to say is this. In all of the years of my not attending, so many of my community friends reached out to try to convince me to go. Some of y’all LOVED TeddyCon considerably. I’ll be honest when I say I don’t think anyone has every talked to me about CAPCON, or any other con, the way some of you tried to sell me on Teddy. It was small… it was intimate… it was welcoming.

I’ve seen a lot of hate directed toward TeddyCon recently. Much of it is rooted in the disappointment of a chance to be little, and we with accepting friends, pulled out from under us at the last minute. I get that. But speaking as someone who has had a hand in putting on major events - vanilla ones - that stopped with COVID, I can say that when cancellations happen, full refunds - or, sometimes, partial refunds, even - aren’t possible. Much of the money has been spent in the preparation for the event, and it just isn’t there to be returned.

I’m not privy to the books of TeddyCon, and people have said a lot about the way news was communicated, etc. which I can agree with. But for those who were proud of TeddyCon and loved that event with so much passion over the years - I hope you can remember the many good years that it provided. I feel like, without the COVID catastrophe we had this past year, TeddyCon would still be going strong.

SUMMER ROAD TRIPS

Hoping to fit in at least one or two summer road trips this year, in between cancer treatments, boat weekends, and everything else.

One possibility is a Great Lakes Trip: overnights on all five of the Great Lakes: Lake Ontario, Lake Erie, Lake Michigan, Lake Huron, and Lake Superior. If you live on or near the shores of any of these, anywhere (US or Canadian side), and would be interested in meeting if/when I come through, please email me your info, including social profiles.

(That one I may combine with a drive to and from CAPCON in late July/early August.

Another possibility is Maine to Maryland, or possibly even to DC. That would probably occur after CAP, in August. If you live in any of the  Atlantic states that would be on that route: Maine, New Hampshire/Vermont, Massachusetts, Connecticut/Rhode Island, NYC, NJ, Delaware, Maryland, Virginia (around DC), or DC… email email me your info, including social profiles?

I’ll be doing a bigger road trip around the entire US once I have my financing straight and if my health holds up, so I will eventually be reaching out to find out what city/states all of my friends are in.

Friends and people I’ve talked with in the past, especially, I’d like to try to meet on these trips.

So hit me up.

FINALLY… FRANCE

Due to relatives spending an extensive amount of time in France, I may be making a visit to Europe this summer or fall.

Not trying to set anything up now until I know for sure. But if you’re a French friend (or on the western border of France, which is the part I’d likely be visiting) holla.

Scenes from the Road Trip

 SCENES FROM THE ROAD TRIP!

In June, my 'little bro' ABenjaminButton and I took a road trip.

I tweeted all of the highlights from the road, but it's become apparent from the emails I've since received that not everyone who reads this blog is on Twitter. 

For those of you who want to see all of the deets, I've put together a website that shares each of the related posts - you should be able to see them whether you're logged in to Twitter or not. 

I'm also working on an e-book that will share dozens of photos we haven't shared, and lots of stuff from the trip that didn't make it to Twitter. I expect that will be released late summer/fall. Stay tuned...

In the meantime, to check out the web page, click the link below...

whyABDL.org/miniroadtrip 

Who remembers?

Who remembers? 

When I sprang on to the ABDL scene as a college student, old daddies diapering adolescents was fairly common. Some of your favorite ABDLs' first diaper pics were taken when they were 14, 15, 16. Many are still being shared across social media today, unfortunately.

Me and a few others mainly in my age range were vocal about the mixing of minors and adults in the community needing to stop. Back then our message boards were rife with debate. Believe it or not, we were decidedly in the minority at one point! Our own community sites actually WELCOMED minors, often right from the front page. Fully-grown adults would vehemently defend the inclusion of kids, using excuses like "it's not sexual" and "I'm not just showing him the ropes" and "if the good people don't take him in, someone bad will." Hmm. 

Back then, those of us speaking up were branded "18+ nazi's" and blackballed from the pool parties and community events still being run by the old-schoolers who thought that mixing with minors was "innocent" and viewed our taking a stand as "tearing communities apart."

Can’t tell you how many rage rants I got from underage ABDLs, too, in the years that followed. Bitter daddies forced to change their behavior love to blame others for being “forced to discriminate”, and kids just don’t know any better. (Some of y’all know who you are lol).

Imagine trying to convince a kink community to adopt 18+ and not being in the majority? It wasn’t just ABDL, either - most kink communities went through the same debates. It was just more important in ours, maybe, because of the nature of the content, and the perception?

Anyway, I'm working on a segment for my website and I'd love to hear from those of you who remember the good times. 

Maybe you yourself were taken advantage of by a daddy or part of the community? 

Maybe you remember the heated forum debate battles (or took screenshots?)

Maybe someone told you that you weren't allowed to invite me to a pool party and you're only just now realizing why? 

Maybe you were an underage little who ranted in my DMs because you truly felt that you were being "age bias'd" - but now (hopefully) understand better?

Maybe you have other memories of that period in our community and you'd be willing to share them? 

I'd love to hear anything you remember. Email is abysitter@gmail.com. Hit me up. 100% anonymity.

Some 2021 Updates...

(thanks, Mojo!)

Hey, y'all...

Just a few updates for 2021...

First, sorry that I haven't been keeping the Blogger blog updated. I've been over on the 'new' Abysitter.com site, putting page after page after page together. It takes days to build a website, and that's what I'm doing... trying to update everything to the newest versions in preparation for the day that someone else starts helping with it or takes it over. That takes a lot of time, so not doing a lot over here - I think I hit a record for days without a post! 

Curious about cancer updates? Visit whyABDL.org/cancer. The latest news is at the top. In late 2020 I went to Boston twice for 'second opinion' consultations at the cancer center there. Their opinion: that all that could be done surgically has been done - and done well - but my cancer is just not resolvable surgically, and that further surgery would be 'incompatible with life' lol. There's even more in 2021, but I haven't updated the site with it yet... I went a week without insurance for medication due to a computer error nobody could figure out how to fix... meanwhile the injection I get every 28 days came due, and they say that about a week after the due date it stops working and your tumors speed right up. Thankfully they got it figured out just in time, but I found out that the shots are $7,600+ each, and in fact my medical bills in 2020 (from June's diagnosis forward) were more than $200K. (I was only personally responsible for between $6,000-$7,000 of that, thankfully - insurance paid the rest.) I thought I was having a shit ton of anxiety attacks that week after call upon call with insurance, but it turned out to be something else... they're doing tests as we speak to try to rule out metastasis to my heart, collapsed lung (possibly during the August surgery?) - waiting to see and hoping for the best. Between that and being extra fucking tired most of the time, haven't been real active anywhere. 

I have spent a lot of 2021 padded, chilling with my puppy and watching movies from my childhood... there's something to be said for that, right? 

On a brighter note, I get my first COVID vaccine in early March! So excited about that...

Normally this is the time of year we'd all be getting mentally prepared for CAPCON, so it's sad that it's not going to happen this year - or, at least, at its usual time. (No announcements yet). Still, I'm excited to be going to TeddyCon in November, health permitting. This is the first time it hasn't been held during the final week of boating season! Just hoping COVID decreases enough to allow for some get-togethers in between now and then. 

If you follow my Twitter or belong to my mailing list you probably know I got permission to publish another story, Fraternity Baby - it was actually on my blog years ago in three parts, and was supposed to go into the e-book, but I couldn't reach my friend in time. A few years later (four!) he reached out about my illness, and I mentioned it, and he didn't notice that in my email and just got back to me with permission. You can buy it for $2.99 here:

BUY THE STORY

And, the e-book is still for sale as well: 350 pages for $9.99. 

BUY THE E-BOOK

With the story, you MUST click a link that takes you to the PDF, so be careful you don't miss it. (If you do, email abysitter@gmail.com with a screenshot of the page it does take it to you, and I will try to send you the link myself). With the second link above, the e-book, once you make your payment it sends me info and I send you that link. That PDF is HUGE - again, it's 350 pages with tons of pictures - so download it ASAP, and be prepared to wait if you are on slower WiFi. 

And, as always, the donation page is open - visit whyABDL.org/donate, or whyABDL.com. Whether you make a contribution or purchase the story or book, the proceeds help fund the work I'm doing on the upcoming website, and I humbly thank you for your support. 

Now, just a few updates to the new site: 

• The 'Luvs Boat' portion of the site is now four pages, instead of one, with lots more narrative.
• Some of the Q&A's - five so far - are 'featured' and appear on their own page. 
• In addition to the Padded Pups page, there will be a page for Babyfurs.
• There is a story page for the Big Kid Bucket (Big Boy, Big Girl, Big Genderfluid, etc.), and there will be a whole series added once COVID restrictions are lifted. 
• Several additional stories from my blog have been added to the stories page. 
• There is a bit more recognition for sponsors/donors on a separate page. 

Once again, the entire site is being rebuilt - page by page. I'm probably going to remove some pages that weren't popular, as well, so if there's any certain part of the old site that you really, really liked, and you don't see it above, email me. 

Here's hoping that 2021 is going well for you, and that if it's going like mine is, it starts going better soon. 

In the meantime, one last thing... a little early lol...

Twitter Popup Contest

 

Holding four Twitter popup mini-contests this week.

First is live! Theme: padded gaming.

Click the link or image and check it out...

For those of you on Tumblr... 

I'll have something for you in 2021. 

In the meantime, consider joining us over on Twitter... 

Q&A With LittleBoyJakey

[CWIS'S NOTE] Up today I have a Q&A with, and some adorable pictures from, LittleBoyJakey. You may know him from his Twitter account; he's also the fiancé of LittleBoyOlive, who some of my readers may remember as Z from the LuvsBoat. If you're on Twitter, be sure to give Jakey a follow (@LilBoyJakey)!

Want to do a Q&A for my blog? Email me at abysitter@gmail.com, and put "Q&A" in the subject, I'll reply with the questions! 18+ I'll be updating the WhyABDL.org website with Q&A's in the near future, as well... stay tuned! 

Thanks, Jakey!

Q&A With LittleBoyJakey 

Name/Nick: Jakey
Age: 21 (little age 1-2)
City/State/Country: Richmond, Virginia 
AB/DL/BabyFur/Other? ABDL!


When did you first realize you were ABDL? 

I first remember having thoughts about diapers, pacis, bottles and such around 8 years old. I often has accidents for years as a kid, come to find out later on in life I actually have what’s called urge incontinence and my mother just never helped me get it treated. But none the less I would get locked in staring at the diapers at the grocery store, if a family member ever asked me to get a diaper for them when they were changing their kid I would take a little to long just holding them and staring in awe. When I discovered I could fit into pampers size 7 as a 10 year old it kind of exploded from there!

What steps did you take to get your diaper 'fix' as a child and/or teen? 

Around 10 years old I started acting on my desires, as much as I hate to admit it I stole some diapers from my brother (they were for his kid) and discovered that I was tiny enough to fit comfortably into a pampers size 7. I kept that up for about a year and then discovered goodnites which I could get free samples of! So of course I did, unfortunately I did not account for the fact that my mother checked the mail, and she had lots of questions! Eventually I started scrounging up money and gift cards and walking about 2.5 miles down the busy main highway through town to the local grocery to buy pampers, pacis and goodnites whenever I could get away with it. 

Do your parents and/or siblings know about you and diapers? If so, please explain how, and how they reacted?

Unfortunately, all of my family knows about my diapers and most of them know about my little side. My mother was suspicious when I ordered free samples of goodnites, however I was able to chock this up to my constant accidents and bed wetting. She had other ideas unfortunately she took the samples from me and instead purchased a cold, noisy and uncomfortable plastic sheet to “solve” my problems. I eventually found other ways to find diapers of course and unfortunately for me I was not very good at hiding it, my mother thought I was disturbed. Her biggest concern was that I was a “gay” or a pedophile. I would continue to buy diapers and when I turned 16 I started buying abdl diapers (QTTY rawr diapers to be exact), this would enrage her. She would find them in my hiding spots and trash them all. I would dumpster dive for the, this only worked for a short amount of time before she started destroying them before tossing them out. One of my father’s neighbors caught me lounging about outside my father’s home in just a goodnite once and informed my father, he was more confused than anything. When I eventually made it out of my mother’s home, I ended up living with my father at the age of 18 until I was 20, he was aware of my abdl shenanigans, but he never said anything I assume out of respect since I was technically an adult and it was my own money. 

Have you dealt with the shame and regret that is the binge/purge cycle? Please explain. 

ABSOLUTELY! I cannot count the times I have thrown out all my abdl gear in shame. I was also dealing with some unresolved mental health issues and periodically I would start to feel disgusted by myself and my abdl side. Luckily I ended up getting some mental health assistance and started to accept my little side and all that comes with it! I discovered that little space is like an anxiety medicine for me and I haven’t had any “purge” for about 2-3 years.

How has this fetish affected your social life and/or dating? Married life? Parenting? 

Before I found (@lilboyolive), currently my fiancé, dating was an interesting minefield for me, I would start talking to people but I would never meet them because I knew that little me is a big part of who I am, and I couldn’t love someone who couldn’t love little me. All of my friends and even my coworkers know I wear diapers and that I am a little, taking this step has made my life 100% easier, no more fear and no shame about being who I am. All of my friends and coworkers were very accepting and most of them said they weren’t surprised in the slightest!   

Some experts believe that we become the way we are because of traumas experienced at an early age, including abuse and/or neglect. Do your life experiences bear this out? 

I 100% believe this, I suffered an unfortunate amount of verbal, mental, and physical abuse from my mother as a child. I think this directly influences my need to be a little, and my lack of desire for any mommies in my scenes. I'm sure the way my mother poorly handled my health issues with accidents and bedwetting definitely pushed me into ABDL. 

For the little dunces, please tell us about what it was like to discover this fetish/lifestyle on the Internet. Please be at least 18 at the time of writing, but be specific about what age you discovered it, what sites helped you, and keep this part PG for obvious reasons. 

Oh goodness do I feel a large amount of shame about the age I discovered ABDL social media, I was 10 years old! I first discovered abdl content on the image hosting site “photo bucket” of all places! I quickly discovered abdl tumblr and lerked for years, at one point I actually made a ABDL Instagram that was short lived (thank god) before Instagram deleted me for my age and content. The sight that ultimately helped me accept myself was tumblr, the sea of ABDL pioneers helped me feel less alone and definitely helped me stop feeling so crazy about wanting to act like a baby all the time! Tumblr would actually lead me to Cwis’s site and I would actually eventually try to use it to convince my mother that I wasn’t insane!

Do your interests involve a subset of this community, such as babyfurs, diaper disciplinarians, wet/messy, sissybabies etc.? Please tell us about it. I won't even try to be specific here; just tell us what you think people should know. 

As much as I originally never wanted to admit it, I am a diaper pup as well as a little! Pup space is not a hard jump from little space and I think that’s why it has always called to me (also collars and onesies I mean have you seen the combo!). I think pup space and little space are almost identical kinks just one has a little more cuteness (ill let you decide which one!) thankfully Olive helped me explore my pup side and having close friends (and idols for the longest time) like @jamesfrost_3 (a ABU diaper god and fantastic baby sitter) and @pupjacksonboy ( a part-time babysitter and unofficial big for me) really helped me get out of my comfort zone and become the little crinkly pup that I’ve always been!

What % of your sexual activities and/or masturbation incorporate diapers? Has this caused problems for you?

Diapers are Definity not required for me to have sex, however they’re not removed entirely from the bedroom activities, they have been incorporated a few times but they’re by no means a necessity. HOWEVER, masturbation is pretty much exclusive to diapers for me. Simply put its convenient and a magic wand on a soggy diaper is just stimulation heaven.

If you get into the regression aspect of ABDL please tell us more about that. If you do not, and you have feelings about being lumped into a fetish involving it, explain how it makes you feel. 

I most certainly do regress, of course if you know me or follow me then you’ll know that I’m a huge baby! I’m almost always in little space to some degree and I’ve more or less let it become a part of my daily life. You’d be hard pressed to find me out and about not wearing at least one article of little clothing, being a little is really who I am! I am genuinely just a little boy in a big boy body making my way through life being as sweet as I can! 

 

I do want to touch on the fact that little space, whether you like it or not is a kink. DO NOT involve or allow minors to be involved in your kink. It’s dangerous for everyone! Their time will come to join the community! Don’t put yourself or others in danger, not only could it be detrimental to your life it makes a horrible name for our community. We are a group of consenting (and adorable) adults who like to be cutesy and dress up like kids and wear diapers, let’s keep that to consenting adults!  

Don't let yourself be limited by my questions. If you have anything else at all that you would like to say please feel free to say it here:

Our community is amazing and wonderful, there are so many of us out there and I am beyond thankful for the ability to be united on social media! With that being said, we have to fight every day for our kink to be accepted in other kink communities, what we do is simply that, a kink and there is no reason for us to not be accepted! So I ask that all of us make sure to make a good name for the whole community, do not interact with minors, and (this is really important to me) do not, do not force non-consenting individuals to be a part of your “scene” not everyone wants to see a man in a diaper walking down the street! It makes our community as a whole look awful and destroys the progress we make establishing ourselves with other kinksters.

 

I cannot wait to see how our community continues to grow, I hope that it becomes more accepted and I hope that our community itself becomes more accepting. I cannot wait for the day that babs don’t have to be the “picture-perfect” twink to gather likes and friends! 

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