Cwis's ABDL E-Book On Sale Soon...

TALES FROM THE CRIB, my #ABDL e-book, will be finished and ready for download in the next few days!!! 

This book is an opportunity for me to put my stories into e-book format, and to raise funds for my upcoming WhyDiapers.com project. 

Keep watching this space, and my mailing list, for availability. Thank you for your support!

About the E-book

The e-book will be sold in PDF format. It is more than 300 pages long, and includes at least 20 stories, as well as a few dozen ABDL-related photos. 

I have decided to sell the e-book in PDF format. It will be on sale for $9.99 until the first 100 are sold; then the price will be raised. 

The e-book will be available via a dedicated download link which will be made available to the purchases via an email message within 24 hours of purchase confirmation. The link will remain available for at approximately 72 hours. Purchasers should watch their email for the link, and then should download the e-book/PDF upon receipt of the email, and save it to their device. The PDF file is very large, so having WiFi access during the download is definitely recommended. 

What’s New?

Many of the stories you’ll read in the e-book/PDF have been published in my blog before, but have been in multiple parts - one is in a series of 10 different blog entries. They have all been condensed into book form here, so each story can be read in one sitting. 

Other parts of the book are newly-written and have never been published on the blog before. These include: 

New! Christmas Message

New! Pampers & Parolees

New! Schaefer’s First Time

New! Little Bwo - w/ pics 

Two stories have been finished for the e-book/PDF: 

Updated! Diapered Deals - the Baby Craig Story

Updated! Mikey & Me - w/ pics

Table of Contents…

Christmas Message from Cwis…

A message thanking all of my followers, some of whom have been alone for an eight-year ride. 

What Is Abysitting?

Wondering what an babysitting session might be like? I detail it here, complete with pictures of the “big boy bucket”. A bunch of you have experienced this over the years, and I look forward to sitting and diapering many more people in our community. One of my first blog entries, this entry on my blog has been read thousands of times. 

Message…

A blog entry I wrote to the community in 2011, after so many of my ABDL friends wrote to me about the thrashing our community took following an episode of the television show Taboo featuring one of us. 

Message: Dyl’s Response

A response written by one of my readers, who sparked a conversation with his parents by allowing them to read my “Message” blog entry. This was originally left as a multi-part comment on my blog, but was submitted via email, also. 

Ghosts of Christmas Diapers Past…

An entry I wrote about my Christmases growing up, either in diapers or wanting to be. 

Open Letter to Collegebaby Chad

My response to a college baby battling depression in part because of his interest in diapers. 

Growing Up: The Cottage

I write about my grandfather’s summer cottage, and how I feel that it, and experiences I had there, contributed to who I am as an ABDL. I diapered my best friend there when we were in high school. I almost got caught wearing when I feel asleep in the sun laying out on the dock. Another time I nearly got caught when I ventured out in a sinking rowboat wearing only a few baby diapers taped together. The cottage was my place to explore my little side - and it’s still just as important to me today. 

Early Community Experiences

I came up as a college baby when the internet was brand fucking new. Our community was filled with people who were being presented with the possibility of meeting someone else into diapers for the first time - and they were having none of it. Nothing but fakers, flakes, and people who’d delete their accounts every other week for a while. I write about some of that here… 

“Near Miss” - I watched someone I connected with over the phone get off the Thruway, turn around, and get right back on. He later pretended he’d never been there, as I threw away all my diapers, my first/last real “purge”… 

“First Time” - I had someone I’d met online visit my apartment - where after a few hours of deep conversation he absolutely lost his shit, certain that I was trying to set him up because of his sick fetish. 

Pampz For Pay

Our community is big. Chances are there is another ABDL less than an hour from you - and some of us are lucky enough to live in a community filled with diaper boys. We have whole munches and shit. 

But when I was coming up, it wasn’t that way. After a flaker, a flipper-outer, and so many deleted accounts, I just said fuck it, and took to a telephone chat line - who remembers the ‘Party Lines’ - asking straight guys “Who wants to wear a diaper for dough?” 

Dozens did, so I had a shit ton of hot diapering experiences with random straight vanillas. I write about some of those experiences here… 

“Pampz For Pay” - My first time was with a guy who had poop-stained underwear. I had to wipe him and then wipe him again, and I even gave him the rest of my baby wipes for the walk home. Some of these people were really struggling… 

“Beam Me Up, Scotty” - I almost missed out on Scotty, for a few reasons - but wound up having one of the hottest experiences I have ever had. 

“Anthony” - I write about my experiences with Anthony, who was cool as fuck, and who moved away too soon. 

“Pampers & Parolees” - I write about diapering a gang member trying to earn $25 for his electronic home confinement payment - complete with a visit from his parole officer. 

“Last Time” - I diapered a kid named Chris who became something of a friend. That was, until he robbed me at knife point. I tell that story here… 

Pampered Pals

Over the years a number of my vanilla friends have worn diapers with me. Some did it out of pure curiosity. Others did it for a little extra $. One did it for a case of beer. And Craig did it for a car… 

“Diapered Deals” - Craig wanted a car. Coincidentally, I had an extra one laying around. He came up with a plan: a shit ton of diaper time and some cash for the Mustang. I’m not sure he knew what he was getting himself into, but he figured it out pretty quick when I pulled over and put him in a diaper on the picnic table at a rest stop. 

“Baby Chad Visits Orlando” - Chad was a freshman in college, and he visited Orlando on some type of school trip. His visit was amazing, and he followed that up with a second visit a year later. 

"Schaefer’s First Time” - Schaefer was nervous as hell, having never been diapered by anyone before. I mistook the confidence he projected in his Tumblr pictures as IRL confidence, and was reminded that, while some of us have been around the community for years and have a ton of experiences, we have to make adjustments for those who haven’t had experiences yet. 

“The Trucker & The CB Radio” - I met a truck driver in the parking lot of a truck stop in a snowstorm. He was diaper curious, and somehow all the stars aligned and… well, you can read about it in the book. Let’s just say I haven’t seen a US Express truck pass me without trying to see who the driver is in all the years since… 

“Mikey & Me” - Mikey was a Facebook friend, although we’d met briefly when he lived in my city. He was battling addiction, homeless, and living in the woods in PA when he hit me up to ask if I’d let him come stay with me while I was on vacation. I was hesitant, at first, and he made me an offer he knew I couldn’t refuse. What followed was a week in diapers with a straight/vanilla friend - and it was one of the best weeks of my life. 

“Little Bwo” - It was summertime when I got an email from a high school senior who called himself “B”. He was writing letters to all of the people who had helped him along his journey growing up, and he wanted to include me in that list - he’d discovered my blog at some point, and it had meant something to him. He visited Orlando and then became one of the few community members to be invited out to the cottage. Somewhere along the line he attained ‘little bro’ status - and gave me a glimpse of the best our community has to offer. 

Frequently Asked Questions…

FAQ: Why are you selling an e-book/PDF? You’ve always published your material online for free. 

I’ve been blogging for more than eight years, and have never charged a penny for anything. I haven’t sold advertising on the blog, and in fact have advertised ABDL diaper brands and events free of charge. Monies raised through the sale of this e-book will be put toward an ABDL project I am working on, WhyDiapers.com.

FAQ: Why not Kindle/Apple Books? 

The PDF, once downloaded, can be stored in Apple Books on an iPhone or iPad. I am not selling it in the Kindle Store or Apple Books store for two reasons: doing so would extend the availability date by weeks, if not months; and, because some of my poll respondents who do not live in the USA said that either one or both of those options aren’t available where they live. A PDF link is available to everyone, everywhere. 

FAQ: Is the book available in paperback format? 

My book is only available as an e-book at this time. This tends to be more practical for many in our community, who might enjoy a 300-page e-book filled with ABDL stories but who probably don't want to have something like that laying around. If there proves to be demand for a physical copy I'd consider that in the future. 

FAQ: Why do you have to be 18+ to buy the book? 

This book contains erotica, including graphic scenes depicting diaper wearing, diaper changing, and some sexual content. It also contains pictures of guys in diapers. Therefor, purchasers must be 18+.


FAQ: Can I get a free copy? 

I have given out free copies of the e-book to anyone whose story or photos appear in it. I appreciate each purchase of this book, because the proceeds are being put toward a project I am working on that is very important to me. Each free copy that I give away takes away from that. Thanks for understanding! 

FAQ: Can I buy a copy of the book for someone else? 

Thank you for respecting copyright! Each copy of my e-book/PDF sold means more time I am able to put toward my WhyDiapers.com project. If you would like to buy a copy of the book for someone, please email me so that arrangements may be made.


FAQ: Are your stories true? 

My stories are 99% true. I'm writing from memory, so I sometimes fill in fuzzy details. But every single event I write about occurred at some point in my life; only things like names, cities/states, and other identifying details have been changed. 

FAQ: Will you still be blogging? 

Yes, I'll continue to blog at Abysitter.com. This e-book/PDF is my answer to all of the people who have suggested through the years that I put my stories into book format. It's also an opportunity to raise funds for something that is very important to me. Keep watching this space for more information on WhyDiapers.com, coming soon. 

E-Book... Partial Table of Contents...

I mentioned in a blog entry last week that I am working on an e-book. I've written ABDL stories - dozens of them over the years - and I decided it's time to put them together in a booklet format and sell them online. Also, I'm trying to raise funds for an ABDL project I've been working on - more about that later - and this will be the beginning of that. 

Last week I sent out a survey to everyone on my mailing list, and I asked for feedback - what stories did you want to see included? I got some suggestions back, and I have to admit I wasn't all that surprised - your favorites now seem to be the same as your favorites when I first wrote these. Today I compiled a bit of of table of contents, and I hope to round it out in the next few days. Check it out below. Can you think of a favorite story you've read on my blog that is missing? If you can, please email me at abysitter@gmail.com and let me know what it was, and I'll try to find it and consider it for inclusion. 

Thanks for your feedback! Now forgive me, I already have 240 pages down, and still have a few more stories to write, and a few of the ones included in the list below still need to be finished... 

Table of Contents…

Message…

A blog entry I wrote to the community in 2011, after so many of my ABDL friends wrote to me about the thrashing our community took following an episode of the television show Taboo featuring one of us. 

Message: Dyl’s Response

A response written by one of my readers, who sparked a conversation with his parents by allowing them to read my “Message” blog entry. This was originally left as a multi-part comment on my blog, but was submitted via email, also. 

What Is Abysitting?

Wondering what an babysitting session might be like? I detail it here, complete with pictures of the “big boy bucket”. A bunch of you have experienced this over the years, and I look forward to sitting and diapering many more people in our community. 

Ghosts of Christmas Diapers Past…

An entry I wrote about my Christmases growing up, either in diapers or wanting to be. 

On Self-Discovery…

A series of personal blog entries I wrote about growing up and discovering I was ABDL. Some of these stories feature Cwis as a little nug, so I politely but firmly ask that anyone who enjoys fapping to stories about pre-adolescents in diapers skip buying my e-book. I think everyone else will probably identify with me as I attempt to navigate growing up with the instinctual urge we all know so well... 

Growing Up: The Cottage

I write about my grandfather’s summer cottage, and how I feel that it, and experiences I had there, contributed to who I am as an ABDL. I diapered my best friend there when we were in high school. I almost got caught wearing when I feel asleep in the sun laying out on the dock. Another time I nearly got caught when I ventured out in a sinking rowboat wearing only a few baby diapers taped together. The cottage was my place to explore my little side - and it’s still just as important to me today. 

Early Community Experiences

I came up as a college baby when the internet was brand fucking new. Our community was filled with people who were being presented with the possibility of meeting someone else into diapers for the first time - and they were having none of it. Nothing but fakers, flakes, and people who’d delete their accounts every other week for a while. I write about some of that here… 

“Near Miss” - I watched someone I connected with over the phone get off the Thruway, turn around, and get right back on. He later pretended he’d never been there, as I threw away all my diapers, my first/last real “purge”… 

“First Time” - I had someone I’d met online visit my apartment - where after a few hours of deep conversation he absolutely lost his shit, certain that I was trying to set him up because of his sick fetish. 

Pampz For Pay

Our community is big. Chances are there is another ABDL less than an hour from you - and some of us are lucky enough to live in a community filled with diaper boys. We have whole munches and shit. 

But when I was coming up, it wasn’t that way. After a flaker, a flipper-outer, and so many deleted accounts, I just said fuck it, and took to a telephone chat line - who remembers the ‘Party Lines’ - asking straight guys “Who wants to wear a diaper for dough?” 

Dozens did, so I had a shit ton of hot diapering experiences with random straight vanillas. I write about some of those experiences here… 

“Pampz For Pay” - My first time was with a guy who had poop-stained underwear. I had to wipe him and then wipe him again, and I even gave him the rest of my baby wipes for the walk home. Some of these people were really struggling… 

“Beam Me Up, Scotty” - I almost missed out on Scotty, for a few reasons - but wound up having one of the hottest experiences I have ever had. 

“Anthony” - I write about my experiences with Anthony, who was cool as fuck, and who moved away too soon. 

“Last Time” - I diapered a kid named Chris who became something of a friend. That was, until he robbed me at knife point. I tell that story here… 

Pampered Pals

Over the years a number of my vanilla friends have worn diapers with me. Some did it out of pure curiosity. Others did it for a little extra $. One did it for a case of beer. And Craig did it for a car… 

“Baby Craig” - Craig wanted a car. Coincidentally, I had an extra one laying around. He came up with a plan: a shit ton of diaper time and some cash for the Mustang. I’m not sure he knew what he was getting himself into, but he figured it out pretty quick when I pulled over and put him in a diaper on the picnic table at a rest stop. 

“Mikey & Me” - Mikey was a Facebook friend, although we’d met briefly when he lived in my city. He was battling addiction, homeless, and living in the woods in PA when he hit me up to ask if I’d let him come stay with me while I was on vacation. I was hesitant, at first, and he made me an offer he knew I couldn’t refuse. What followed was a week in diapers with a straight/vanilla friend - and it was one of the best weeks of my life. 

“The Trucker” - I met a truck driver in the parking lot of a truck stop in a snowstorm. He was diaper curious, and somehow all the stars aligned and… well, you can read about it in the book. Let’s just say I haven’t seen a US Express truck pass me without trying to see who the driver is in all the years since… 

The Community Today…

I’ve hung out with so many people in our community over the years that I sometimes have a hard time remembering what it was like having to drop a dub to diaper someone. So many of you have visited Orlando, and a smaller number have visited me at the cottage, or on the boat. 

I rarely share stories about people in our community, because the knowledge that they will read them… that makes it tough to write about. I’ve been working on the Baby Max story since 2006. The ABenjaminButton story since 2014. And here and there, a few other stories, people who have been cool enough to give me permission to write about our experiences, but have watched for their stories in vain. Maybe I’ll get one or two of them into this book. 

“Baby Chad Visits Orlando” - Chad was a freshman in college, and he visited Orlando on some type of school trip. His visit was amazing, and he followed that up with a second visit a year later. 

DID YOU VISIT ME AND WANT TO READ ABOUT IT IN PRINT? DID I SNAP PICS OF YOU AND YOU’D LIKE TO SEE THEM IN THE BOOK? CONTACT ME ASAP! 

E-book Coming Soon...

Next month I'll be selling an e-book to raise funds for an ABDL community resource website I am currently working on. 

The book contains a shit ton of stories I've written over the years, including many of those you may have read on this blog. I'll be finishing a few unfinished stories and including a few that have never been published before, packaging it all in PDF format, and selling it online. 

A few questions... 

QUESTION #1: 

The book currently stands at over 200 pages, and it's not even done yet. I may need to break it up into two parts or something. Turns out I've written a shit ton of stories over the years. 

If you're a long-time reader of my blog, are there any stories that stand out in your memory that you think I simply must include? If anything jumps out at you as a favorite, please email me and let me know. It's hard to decide what to put in, so I appreciate any help you may be able to provide. 

QUESTION #2: 

I'm still trying to decide what format to sell the book in, and how much to charge. Kindle? Apple Books? A simple link to a PDF download? Please take a moment to take my survey and give me some feedback. 

HELP NEEDED... 

Soon you'll read more about the website that I'm working on. I'll be looking for folks to help with different parts of it. If you're talented with graphic design, are a babyfur illustrator, like to write, or just have a collection of dope ABDL pics (of yourself) and are comfortable being included in some of what I'm working on, email me at abysitter@gmail.com and let me know how you'd like to help. 

In the meantime, stay tuned... I'll have more information coming soon. If you haven't already subscribed to my mailing list, you can do so in the upper right section of my blog - that's where you'll read it first! 

Who TF Is This?????

My blog gets hundreds of readers a week, including ABDL's from all over the world. I'm hoping that its range might help me finally get an answer to this question...

Who IS this??

The picture below has appeared on ABDL sites hundreds of times. I was catfished with it once myself: a person claiming to live just a few miles from the cottage used this, and a few other pictures of the same person that haven't lasted as long on the internet, as his own pictures. For all I know, that may have been the original person. But this was back in the 1990s and this picture still floats around on every diaper site imaginable, with new people choosing it for their 'default photo' on a pretty regular basis. A few of my best ABDL friends have used it. Just saw someone using it on Fetlife today. It never ends... 

If you know who this is, or if this is you, hit me up: 

Baby Pictures: Baby Spencey...

Up today I have a bunch of pictures from Baby Spencey! Y'all know Spence... he's contributed here many times - I think he may even hold the record now haha. He and I finally got to meet at CAPCON last March, and his Daddy Paul and our friend Tony met up with us for a hotel room photo shoot with the infamous Big Boy Bucket!

These pictures are actually from CAPCON, taken in the special nursery area that the event set up. The event photographers accompanied Spencey and Paul upstairs for a special photo shoot, so props to them - thanks, guys! Anyway, Spencer sent me these just before the photo contest I did last year, and I meant to put them up after, but they got lost in a flood of after-contest emails.

Speaking of CAPCON, I'll have a CAPCON announcement in the very near future, so stay tuned!

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Q&A With DLChubbyBabyPDX

Up today I have a Q&A with someone new to the blog: Robbie, aka DLChubbyBabyPDX. He's answered my questions and submitted some great pics. He's looking for friends, so hit him up on Tumblr: dlchubbybabypdx.tumblr.com! Thanks Robbie! 

Q&A with

dlchubbybabypdx  

Name/Nick: Robbie
Age: 41
City/State/Country: Portland Oregon, USA
AB/DL/BabyFur/Other? Dl  


When did you first realize you were ABDL?   

Mostly about 10 years ago, but didn't really pursue it until 5 years ago.


Do your parents and/or siblings know about you and diapers? If so, please explain how, and how they reacted? 

No, they don't.


Have you dealt with the shame and regret that is the binge/purge cycle? Please explain.   

Yes, many times in the beginning. Like something is wrong with me. I would buy the cheap diapers at the drug store, use one when home alone and then feel dumb for doing it. Now I know better. Nothing is wrong with me. It's just something that makes me happy and


How has this fetish affected your social life and/or dating? Married life? Parenting?    

I told my husband a couple of years ago. He's not into the little scene, but he's very supportive of me doing it. It took a long time to wear around him without being self conscious but now he even changes me sometimes and has bought a couple of stuffies for me.


Some experts believe that we become the way we are because of traumas experienced at an early age, including abuse and/or neglect. Do your life experiences bear this out?    

Yes.


For the older generation, please tell us more about what it was like being ABDL before social networking. I will be looking for the perspectives of members in their 40s, 50s, and even higher.    
I really didn't do anything before social media. It was social media that helped me discover my little side tbh.


For the little dunces, please tell us about what it was like to discover this fetish/lifestyle on the Internet. Please be at least 18 at the time of writing, but be specific about what age you discovered it, what sites helped you, and keep this part PG for obvious reasons.  

I was mesmerized by it. At first I thought I was just a dl, but when I finally bought some premium nappies and I heard the crinkle sound, I was hooked. I haven't looked back.


Do your interests involve a subset of this community, such as babyfurs, diaper disciplinarians, wet/messy, sissybabies etc.? Please tell us about it. I won't even try to be specific here; just tell us what you think people should know. 

Yes it does. Hehe. I like being disciplined and kept in wet/messy diapees until daddy feels it's time to change me out of them. Love to be completely submissive to daddy and let him have complete control of my life.


What % of your sexual activities and/or masturbation incorporate diapers? Has this caused problems for you?  

Usually sex comes at the end, or when I'm not feeling little but still in my nappy. I can't explain it. It's just when I'm in little mode, sex isn't something I think about. Although I can be hard in my diapee from being so content.  


If you get into the regression aspect of ABDL please tell us more about that. If you do not, and you have feelings about being lumped into a fetish involving it, explain how it makes you feel.  

I love when I'm a baby. All my cares are gone  I've given up all control over every decision, from what I wear, to what I eat, to when my nappy gets changed. It's a way for me to escape the bad days. 

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18+

HELP WANTED! Looking For A Graphic Designer... And Others...

I am looking for someone talented in graphic design who might be interested in working with me on an upcoming ABDL project. 

I'll also need help in the future from folks who do ABDL cartoons and babyfur drawings, and other ABDL-inspired artwork. 

If you are interested, email me at abysitter@gmail.com and link to any portfolio you might have, or include an example of your work. I'll get back to you with what I'm looking for. 

I should mention that this is a voluntary gig, and the project is related to an ABDL resource website I am working on. 

Thanks! NOTE: Must be 18+! 

Kickstarter for "Underscares"...

I'll just leave this here. It's from Underbarrels, makers of video game Outlast 2.

Just click here to see the Kickstarter page. Oh, and here's an article. Any thoughts? Hit the comments.

Baby Pictures: LittleC

Up today I have some new pics from Chuck, aka Little C! He's appeared on Abysitter.com many times. You can also find him on Twitter, where his handle is @littlec420, and he's on Fetlife, as well. Chuck is 25 and lives in Colorado. 

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Don't forget to give him a follow! 

https://twitter.com/littlec420

Want to contribute pictures

to my blog? 

I will be eternally grateful!

Email me!

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18+ pls!

Hall of Shame: Keep It 18+

Note: I know there are some people in the community who strongly dislike these types of posts, because they feel that they don't give our community a 'good look'. To that I'll say, the number of people in the community who don't understand why 18+ is imperative is still too high to stop posting these, so... here we are... 

Up today we've got a story out of Michigan.

Tyler Ryan Lowis, 22, is accused to raping a teen, forcing the teen to use diapers, a sippy cup, and etc., and videotaping the encounters.

This follows his uploading pictures of infants and toddlers to his Dropbox account.

We have no way to know whether the photos were of diaper-clad children - something we all know doesn't mix with ABDL, right? Right? - and we can't be sure whether Tyler and the teen were two ABDL's engaged in ageplay, or if this was something more.

What we do know, however, is that if Tyler had kept it 18+, with respect to both photos and meet-ups, he'd probably be in the clear right now.

I see so many comments on Tumblr, Reddit, and other places from people talking about how they're not abusing minors, just mentoring them.

That didn't work to keep Tyler out of jail - he's facing life in prison for some of the charges, now.

Remember: depending on what state you are in, the age of consent is 16, 17, of 18. Keeping it 18+ is a way to avoid any illegal conduct involving minors from other states, minors using out-of-state communications to contact you in-state, and etc. 

Also, 18+ for photos and video. No exceptions. 

From MLive.com.

Q&A With Min

Up today I have a Q&A from someone new! Min is 33 and lives in Colorado Springs. He and his girlfriend are looking for some new friends - and they even bring a nursery to the table! Min included some adorable pictures, below, and I'll have more from him in a few days! Thanks, Min! 

Q&A With Min

Name/Nick: Min/Min
Age: 33
City/State/Country:  Colorado Springs/Colorado/U.S.
AB/DL/BabyFur/Other? AB/DL

When did you first realize you were ABDL?  

Around 7 or 8 years old, when my younger sister and several of my cousins were born (we all lived in the same city at the time), I remember seeing them in diapers and wanting the same. I moved around alot around that time and didn't have much time to think about/act on my desire to wear diapers until much later on in my teens when we finally settled down and my parents bought a house. I first got online when I was 14, around '96 and within a few months found about about AB's, DL's and adult sized diapers.


What steps did you take to get your diaper 'fix' as a child and/or teen?  

I remember trying to wear my sister's or cousins disposable diapers but of course they didn't fit, a few times I put one on and put my underwear on over it but it still never fit. When I was in my teens I would purchase adult diapers at the drugstores or mostly order them online with my parents credit cards and would lie and tell them it was for computer parts or something similar.


Do your parents and/or siblings know about you and diapers? If so, please explain how, and how they reacted?  

My parents were never nosy or went thru my things when I was younger so I never expected them to open my mail but when I was in school they opened a box that came for me, I'm guessing because it said something about "medical" supplies on the box. Afterwards they searched my room and found my stash of diapers, plastic pacts, pacifiers, baby bottles etc, thankfully they didn't think/know how to look on my computer. They confronted me when I came back from school and there was a huge fight, they tried to send me to a therapist because they thought I had some sort of mental problem but I refused to go. After what seemed like months of avoiding and not speaking to each other we finally started talking again and it was never brought up again.  My younger sister also knows but never said anything or made an big deal over it.

Have you dealt with the shame and regret that is the binge/purge cycle? Please explain.  

When I was younger I has several binge purge cycles. Now I look back and wish I had never thrown all that stuff away, mostly harder to get items like custom made clothing. I had a major purge after I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years who knew about my fetish and participated, I had a nursery similar to the one I have now including a crib and got rid of everything. Now that I have accepted my AB side and found someone who accepts and fully understands it as well I think any more purges should be a thing of the past.


For collegebabies/DLs, did this interest affect your college experiences? If so, how?  

During college I lived at home, at the time I was too scared to wear outside of my house, college was pretty normal for me.


How has this fetish affected your social life and/or dating? Married life? Parenting?  

I've told 2 of my ex girlfriends about it around the 3 to 4 month mark, none of them took it negatively, one participated and one wouldn't, but didn't mind if I wore anytime I wanted. A few of my friends found out, mostly because of the room noone was allowed in (nursery) and a couple somehow found my Twitter, they all acted like it wasn't a big deal though. My current girlfriend was already a AB before I met her, we have also known each other for a very long time (met during our teens) I'm sure she's the one I'll be spending the rest of my life with ☺

Some experts believe that we become the way we are because of traumas experienced at an early age, including abuse and/or neglect. Do your life experiences bear this out?  

I don't believe I was actually abused, I know I was spanked alot for things I would never spank a child for, such as not perfect grades in school (as in B's and C's), one time the neighbors heard/saw and called the police, I denied that I was hit but I remember it continuing well into middle school. I know my parents never used that type of punishment on my younger sister which I know some people may resent but I was actually happy she never had a go thru all that when she was younger. Maybe it did have some type of effect because I am a AB and she isn't, I do also find it a bit strange I enjoy getting spanked as an adult now. 


For the older generation, please tell us more about what it was like being ABDL before social networking. I will be looking for the perspectives of members in their 40s, 50s, and even higher. 

I remember feeling like I was very alone, wondering why I liked diapers so much and if I would just spend the rest of my life alone. When I went online and first found out about AB/DL's I couldn't believe what I was seeing, I felt happy, relief that I wasn't alone and the possibility of having friends who shared my interest. I don't think I slept at all that night, staying online and reading/looking things up.

For the little dunces, please tell us about what it was like to discover this fetish/lifestyle on the Internet. Please be at least 18 at the time of writing, but be specific about what age you discovered it, what sites helped you, and keep this part PG for obvious reasons.  

I was around 14, I went online and just searched for "diapers" after a few pages of results I stumbled across DPF, I remember that was the first thing I saw regarding AB/DL's, went thru all the other pages they linked to but the only one I really remember is DPF.


Do your interests involve a subset of this community, such as babyfurs, diaper disciplinarians, wet/messy, sissybabies etc.? Please tell us about it. I won't even try to be specific here; just tell us what you think people should know.  

I enjoy all the aspects of the AB lifestyle, spending little time with my girlfriend as both of us being little or one of us switching for the other and being mommy or daddy, being punished (spanking, restrained, enemas/suppositories & diapers and being forced to wear girly clothes) or just cuddling and watching a movie or playing games.


What % of your sexual activities and/or masturbation incorporate diapers? Has this caused problems for you?  

It used to be about 50/50, lately though when I'm in little space I don't think of sex much, unless there is some type of BDSM/punishment involved, then my mind pretty much goes straight to having sex. 

If you get into the regression aspect of ABDL please tell us more about that. If you do not, and you have feelings about being lumped into a fetish involving it, explain how it makes you feel.  

I usually always start regressing and becoming extremely submissive as soon as a diaper is put on me. I've spent several days upto a week of being diapered/little and almost always wear diapers to bed at night. I find it relaxing as my job is pretty stressful and helps me unwind. I also used to have a sleeping problem but I find it helps me fall asleep at night.   


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I'm always looking to make new friends, it seems as if there aren't that many AB's where I live (Colorado). I'd love to meet other AB's, even if it's just a hang out, it'd be nice not having to put everything away and lock up our nursery every time someone comes over. We're not looking for any mommies or daddies to take care of us but would still love to be friends, and the same for any AB boys or girls 😀  My twitter is @Kmin3603478 & email is k.min10@yahoo.com 

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Q&A With James or Alexander "Xander"

Up today I have a Q&A from James, or Alexander "Xander". You may know him from Tumblr, where he goes by the handle KinkyDude93. He and I are frequent text buddies, so I get to see his pics all the time, but I learned a little from his Q&A. Enjoy! 

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Name/Nick: James or Alexander “Xander”
Age: 23
City/State/Country: Miami, FL, USA
AB/DL/BabyFur/Other? AB/DL

When did you first realize you were ABDL?

Early on in first grade, while no one was home I tried on one of my sister’s pull-ups. When I slid it on, I loved the way it felt. Later in the year I had a tutor for reading. I was a slow reader and still am… My parents got me hooked on phonics. Do they even make that anymore? Anyways I remember wanting my tutor to put me in a diaper and babysit me. She was so hot! I wanted her to be my mommy. I didn’t know it yet, but I was definitely an ABDL. It was many years later when I got a laptop I discovered there were other people like me. The good ole days when the deeker website was around. I miss that site.

What steps did you take to get your diaper 'fix' as a child and/or teen?

As a child I would wait for my parents to leave the house then went straight for the pull-ups.

Do your parents and/or siblings know about you and diapers? If so, please explain how, and how they reacted?

Nope, but some of my friends know. The first person reacted negatively, but we were still friends. We just never spoke of it again. Besides that one time, everyone has been cool about it.

Have you dealt with the shame and regret that is the binge/purge cycle?

Of course, every now and then I’ll want to throw away my diapers.

For collegebabies/DLs, did this interest affect your college experiences? If so, how?

Being an ABDL really affects my focus on school. I’d much rather pamp up and get comfy than study. On multiple occasions I put diapers before school, but I’m still doing all right.

How has this fetish affected your social life and/or dating? Married life? Parenting?

Same as my last response really. I used to lock myself in my room and be super unproductive. I still do it from time to time just not as bad as before. If I have plans, I go out. If I don’t, I try to pamp up.

Some experts believe that we become the way we are because of traumas experienced at an early age, including abuse and/or neglect. Do your life experiences bear this out?

My dad was always working, so maybe? I honestly think I was jealous of all the attention my sister was getting. I was no longer the center of attention.

Some people have pointed out their observation that a larger-than-average number of multiple birth babies (twins, etc.) rep the ABDL lifestyle. If you are one of these, please explain what effect, if any, you feel this may have had on your ABDLishness.

I definitely think this affected me. If I didn’t have a sister, I would have never been curious to try on a diaper. At least that’s what I think.

Do your interests involve a subset of this community, such as babyfurs, diaper disciplinarians, wet/messy, sissybabies etc.? Please tell us about it. I won't even try to be specific here; just tell us what you think people should know.

I’m kinky. I’ll let your imagination wonder. ;)

What % of your sexual activities and/or masturbation incorporate diapers? Has this caused problems for you?

Sometimes 100%, but it ranges from 0-100%. It depends on the mood. I don’t need diapers to get off. I like diversity so I change it up all the time.

If you get into the regression aspect of ABDL please tell us more about that. If you do not, and you have feelings about being lumped into a fetish involving it, explain how it makes you feel.

I think my pictures can do a better job of portraying my feelings than my actual words.

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Resources

If you're a millennial who fought for Bernie Sanders, but still voted for Hillary Clinton because you knew she'd work to protect the oppressed class and you put that above your own anger at the DNC or your need to win, YOU are the real MVP.

If you're a straight white male (or female) and knew that a Trump presidency might do more for you than a Clinton one, but you STILL voted for Clinton because you have compassion for those who are marginalized by the RNC, YOU are the real MVP.

I'll even give a shout out to the people I know who snuck behind that curtain and pulled the lever for a Trump/Pence presidency, but didn't share that with anyone before or after the vote because people they know and love are in the groups who will be marginalized over the next four years.

We all got a chance to find out a lot about the people we are friends with this election season. So many people learned details about their family and friends that they probably wish they never knew. How many friendships have ended in the last 24 hours? How many family members aren't on speaking terms after this election?

The silver lining in this cloud is that more Americans voted for inclusion than voted for exclusion: 59,796,267 to 59,589,809. The electoral college determines our president, and we have to let the system work. But make no mistake: when it comes to sheer numbers, it was close, but there were more of us who voted for the candidate who backed the LGBT+ community, Muslims, immigrants, Black Lives Matter, and etc. than those who voted for the candidate who wants to stack the deck against these groups.

Remember that: we were in the majority. Keep that in mind as you continue the fight for equality over the next four years, and let's build on those numbers, person by person, one person at a time.

Each generation is better than the one before, and with each comes greater acceptance of those who are different than us. I've been inspired by my friends who, despite having no real personal reason to do so, chose to support a candidacy they disliked but knew would work to protect those that they love. Thank you.

I know a lot of us here in the U.S. are feeling the sting of a Donald Trump victory, especially since his running mate, Mike Pence, has such a long history of anti-gay actions to his name. Here are some resources for anyone feeling particularly upset. This is from the Human Rights Campaign... 

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Just An Article That Made Me Giggle...

Just an article that made me giggle. Something tells me this lady bumped into one of us and has no clue. I envy people sometimes who are that vanilla...

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