[CWIS'S NOTE] Up today I have a Q&A from PupKeno21. You may know him from Tumblr or Diaper-Bois, among other places, as well as the Facebook 'secret groups'. In fact, here's his contact information for just about everywhere:
Insta: dljn2193
Tumblr: pupkeno21
D-bois: nautical09
Fetlife: dljn2193
Snapchat: Joel.alexis
Add him up! And now, without further ado... thanks, bro!
Q&A with PupKeno21
Name/Nick: DLJN2193, PupKeno21
Age: 25
City/State/Country: New York, New York
AB/DL/BabyFur/Other? DL, Daddy, Big Bro, Pup
And now for the questions. Just delete or ignore any which do not apply to you. The questions are:
When did you first realize you were ABDL?
Let’s see.... We’ll I started discovering my sexuality when I was 13, and with that like any boy you start looking up porn. Well, one day I came across a guy who was padded and I was turned on. So, through out all of my teens I look at guys who are padded and started learning more about this scene. Finally, when I was 19 and in my second year of college, I made the decision to finally dive into this community and that is where I discovered RuPadded (for all you abdls who talked before tumblr and IG lol) and I started chatting with guys. I had gotten to chat with this guy who was super cool and alumni of the college I was going to( Lakhota for all you who know this awesome man). One thing led to another and we finally met up and talked over wine for hours and he sent me home with some diapers to test them out myself . We met up a second time, and this time he padded me up. Needless to say since that day I was hooked and I never looked back.
What steps did you take to get your diaper 'fix' as a child and/or teen?
The only thing I can think of was sneaking adult pulls up when I was 16 and doubling or tripling up on them because what can I say I like a thick diaper.
Do your parents and/or siblings know about you and diapers? If so, please explain how, and how they reacted?
Well it wasn’t a good experience, but yes recently this year while I was visiting my parents found out. I had diapers in my drawer because I was visiting for a while before I moved back to NY. Well, my mom went snooping for some reason and he explanation for snooping was because she smelled something from my room. Maybe it was the baby powder. Well she started having a “panic attack” and telling my brothers and my dad meanwhile I’m out with friends. Well I come home to my brothers telling me they defended me saying to my parents “that he’s a grown adult and it’s his business”. My parents then wanted to have a conversation, and I shut down conversation down really quick. Let’s just say they know better to not bring it up because it’s none of their business.
Have you dealt with the shame and regret that is the binge/purge cycle? Please explain.
The only shame I have ever felt was me dealing with my sexuality. It took over six years to accept and embrace who I was. When I finally knew that I was a DL I told myself that I wouldn’t be ashamed of myself again and whatever I was into. I didn’t ask to be gay as much as I didn’t ask to be a DL or any other things I’m into. I didn’t just wake up one and tell myself “OK, today I love diapers”. So why question what makes me happy as long as it’s not illegal or harming anyone.
For collegebabies/DLs, did this interest affect your college experiences? If so, how?
For me, I was lucky to be five in when I was 19, and I could talk to so many guys. With out me being an ABDL and talking to fellow community members, I wouldn’t have visited cities like Seattle and Baltimore. For those diaper guys, I’m fortunate to have been given great people to show me those cities and get me exploring the US.
How has this fetish affected your social life and/or dating? Married life? Parenting?
I’m very much open book when it comes to my dating life. I don’t like wasting my time nor anyone else’s, and if it a factor in which the guy can’t accept then it won’t work. I don’t need my bf or partner to be active or participate, but I need them to be supportive. I’m fortunate that in my long term relationships they all accepted me and had no problem seeing me padded up on the couch next then while we cuddled. There is no point in settling. Compromise is healthy, but having to change who you because your kink makes your partner uncomfortable is a big no in my book. But that’s just me.
For the little dunces, please tell us about what it was like to discover this fetish/lifestyle on the Internet. Please be at least 18 at the time of writing, but be specific about what age you discovered it, what sites helped you, and keep this part PG for obvious reasons.
I was 13 when I discovered, and sites like ABY and Gay Diaper Hangout existed. But, I didn’t become part of the community until I was 19 And sites like RuPadded and D-Bois existed. Unfortunately RuPadded is no longer, but I think we somewhat older community have paved the way for the younger community members to find that they aren’t alone with sites like Tumblr or IG and even Facebook.
Do your interests involve a subset of this community, such as babyfurs, diaper disciplinarians, wet/messy, sissybabies etc.? Please tell us about it. I won't even try to be specific here; just tell us what you think people should know.
I’m very diverse when it comes to my interests involving diapers. I find that diapers are very versatile and can be incorporated into other kinks. Things that interest that is diaper related is diaper discipline, diaper humiliation, daddy changing wet and messy diapers, bondage scene with diapers included, regression by diapers, and slaves wearing diapers just to put them in a sub space etc.
What % of your sexual activities and/or masturbation incorporate diapers? Has this caused problems for you?
Probably 60% of my sexual activities are around my attraction to diapers. I wish there was more diaper porn for the gay abdl member, but hey gotta appreciate what you can find. But, in most cases it’s not needed in the bedroom when I’m having intimate moments with a partner. But I would love to involve one day.
If you get into the regression aspect of ABDL please tell us more about that. If you do not, and you have feelings about being lumped into a fetish involving it, explain how it makes you feel.
The only Ab tendencies I have is that I enjoy my paci. Other then that I enjoy regressing little guys into little space. It’s side of me in which has took time to accept, but I now enjoy being the daddy/big bro. I’m such a nurturing person that my goal is for a little to feel accepted, to feel like they aren’t alone, that they are protective because feeling safe is a big one, know a littles comfort zone and having their consent, and knowing what triggers them into that headspace. For someone assume all abdls want to regress means to just educate them, no need to be upset.
Don't let yourself be limited by my questions. If you have anything else at all that you would like to say please feel free to say it here:
I feel that we as community get comfortable with finding a group of friends, and staying that way. It somewhat becomes cliquey. In my opinion, when someone reaches out don’t just dismiss automatically. I mean do some vetting work but we have all been a new person in the community shows and we wanted someone to give us an olive branch. At the end of the day we are a small community, it’s grown a lot in the past years, and that means we need to stay a community. Give back what was given to you when you first started out. Also, I know everyone’s journey to accept this side of them is different, but please know that there are people you can reach out and talk to. People are willing to answer questions anytime , as long as they are not pervy or creepy, and this helps you feel less alone and ashamed.
Thanks, PupKeno21!
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