Gay Days!

I've been getting email and YIM messages concerning Gay Days Orlando. I think I've responded to each one, but just in case:

I'M UNAVAILABLE DURING THE WEEK OF 'GAY DAYS' THIS YEAR.

I apologize; I know last year I'd put out an email in advance inviting people to contact me. This year I've got repeats from last year, plus a collegebaby visiting Orlando for something completely unrelated - he's straight, lol. Between the above and other non-ABDL obligations I won't be available for anything too time-consuming.

That said, if you're an ABDL visiting for Gay Days and want to hit up a Starbucks or something, my email is abysitter@gmail.com.

HAVE FUN AT GAY DAYS!!!!

Hall of Shame: Ottawa

If I've said it once, I've said it a hundred times: 18+.

"Hill admitted he had a "diaper fetish" and on Sept. 12 took with him the 9-year-old daughter of a friend, stopping at an Ottawa gas station where he put a diaper on the girl. Eventually he took her to a store. At the store, he took her into a baby changing stall in the mens' room. There he changed the diaper and molested her. They went to another store, this one at the Peru Mall, where Hill tried to take the girl into a mens' room, but the girl resisted and drew attention from shoppers who intervened and called police. Hill was arrested, later posting $7,500 bond."

http://m.mywebtimes.com/mywebtimes/pm_105538/contentdetail.htm?contentguid=yYAKP5fP

YouTube Tuesdays: Diaperbasket Superstar

Today I'm including a YouTube video of a YouTuber who has used fatherhood to hone his Diaperbasket skills.

You probably know what I'm talking about: the ability to toss a diaper and hit almost any target. If there was a DBA (think NBA, lol) I'd be chosen Round 1 in the draft. This kid may even have me beat...

[WARNING] There is a brief scene in which the father changes his baby. That part of the video is censored, and is ten seconds of a 2:45 video, but if you're pervy or prone to leaving creepy comments on YouTube videos, keep it moving. No creepy comments. Just enjoy his shooting skills... and then, if you get the urge to write something nasty, practice your own.

You can view the video here.

Abysitter.com Branding Survey - Part I Results

ABYSITTER.COM AB/DL BRANDING SURVEY

Results: As Of May 23, 2011

I created and posted my AB/DL branding survey poll on May 19, 2011. Four days later, 66 people had taken the poll.

You can find the poll here. If you haven't taken it already please do; I'll be updating it in a few weeks...

The ages of my respondents:

• 18-20 - 16% (11)
• 21-23 - 13% (9)
• 24-26 - 24% (16)
• 27-29 - 7% (5)
• 30-34 - 15% (10)
• 35-39 - 6% (4)
• 40-44 - 3% (2)
• 45-49 - 3% (2)
• 50-59 - 7% (5)
• Under 18 - 3% (2)

Respondents came from the United States, Canada, Ireland, England, Kuala Lumpur, Germany, Belgium, and Australia. Several didn't identify where they responded from.

Question I: Community

I asked "Of all of the diaper community sites, which is your favorite for COMMUNITY."

RUPadded.com was the clear winner, with 63% of respondents preferring it. Runners up included FetLife (9%), and ABKingdom and DiaperSPace (6% each).

Question II: Forums & Conversation

"Of all of the diaper community sites, which is your favorite for FORUMS/CONVERSATION."

The winner, again, was RUPadded.com, with 42%. FetLife took second again, with 13%. DiaperSpace and ADISC tied for third, with 9% of respondents preferring them.

Question III: Photos

I asked "Of all of the diaper community sites, which is your favorite for PHOTOS."

Probably no surprise, RUPadded.com was first here, with 54%. ABKingdom.com was second (13%), and DailyDiapers third with 9%. Several of you noted missing Aby.com.

Question IV: Meeting New People

"Of all of the diaper community sites, which is your favorite for MEETING NEW PEOPLE."

And, again, it's RUPadded for the sweep, with 51%. FetLife was second with 16%, and DiaperSpace was third with 10%.

Several of you mentioned DiaperMates. One of you mentioned that RUP is your favorite but the location search doesn't work (seriously!), lol. A few of you have never met anyone. One of you doesn't plan to.

ABDLPixel

(27% Familiar; 71% Of These Favorable)

63% (42) had no experience with this site.

27% (24) had experience with it. Of those:

• 1 had a very favorable opinion
• 16 had a somewhat favorable opinion
• 6 had a somewhat favorable opinion
• 1 had an unfavorable opinion

12% (8) reported visiting the site on a regular basis.

ABDL University

(55% Familiar; 55% Of These Favorable)

45% (30) had no exerience with the site.

55% (36) had experience with it. Of those:

• 3 had a very favorable opinion
• 17 had a somewhat favorable opinion
• 13 had a somewhat unfavorable opinion
• 3 had an unfavorable opinion

One of you stated that you purchased a DVD from the site, and "it was a disaster... the DVD never same." Boo...

15% (10) reported visiting the site on a regular basis.

AB Kingdom

(44% Familiar; 86% Of These Favorable)

56% (37) had no experience with the site.

44% (29) had experience with it. Of those:

• 14 had a very favorable opinion
• 11 had a somewhat favorable opinion
• 3 had a somewhat unfavorable opinion
• 1 had an unfavorable opinion

24% (16) reported visiting the site on a regular basis.

ADISC

(54% Familiar; 57% Of These Unfavorable)

46% (31) had no experience with the site.

54 (35) had experience with it. Of those:

• 4 had a very favorable opinion
• 11 had a somewhat favorable opinion
• 15 had a somewhat unfavorable opinion
• 5 had an unfavorable opinion.

Of those of you not satifisfied with this website, I heard "stuck up" thrice, "snarky" once (I had to go back to make sure that one wasn't me), and "forum trolls, need I say more?"

15% (10) reported visiting the site on a regular basis.

www.BedWettingABDL.com

BedWettingABDL.com

(31% Familiar; 70% Of These Unfavorable)

69% (46) had no experience with the site.

31% (20) had experience with it. Of those:

• 1 had a very favorable experience
• 5 had a somewhat favorable experience
• 10 had a somewhat unfavorable experience
• 4 had an unfavorable experience.

One of you referenced "pedophilia" and another "children on this site" as negatives.

Nobody reported visiting the site on a regular basis.

DailyDiapers

(85% Familiar; 68% Of These Favorable)

15% (10) had no experience with this site.

85% (56) had experience with it. Of those:

• 14 had a very favorable experience
• 24 had a somewhat favorable experience
• 12 had a somewhat unfavorable experience
• 6 had an unfavorable experience.

For complaints, I heard "borrowed photographs... infrequent updates... poorly managed pay sites... seems to be overrun by sponsors... biased against gay people."

28% (19) reported visiting the site on a regular basis.

www.Diaper-Bois.com

Diaper-Bois.net

(67% Familiar; 70% Of These Favorable)

33% (22) had no experience with this site.

67% (44) had experience with it. Of those:

• 8 had a very favorable experience
• 23 had a somewhat favorable experience
• 8 had a somewhat unfavorable experience
• 5 had an unfavorable experience.

The site is a pay site, which several of you referenced in your complaints.

31% (21) reported visiting the site on a regular basis. One of you mentioned that there seem to be a lot of abusive people there, and that they never get punished."

DiaperSpace

(73% Familiar; 82% Of These Favorable)

27% (18) had no experience with this site.

73% (38) had experience with it. Of those:

• 8 had a very favorable experience
• 23 had a somewhat favorable experience
• 10 had a somewhat unfavorable experience
• 7 had an unfavorable experience.

Those not happy with Diaper Space mentioned it being poorly maintained, poor customer service response, and hacked profiles as a concern. I also heard concerns about new photos being visible without a login - anyone can see them.

42% (28) reported visiting the site on a regular basis.

DL-Boy.com

(61% Familiar; 78% Of These Favorable)

39% (26) had no experience with this site.

61% (40) had experience with it. Of those:

• 12 had a very favorable experience
• 19 had a somewhat favorable experience
• 7 had a somewhat unfavorable experience
• 2 had an unfavorable experience.

33% (22) reported visiting the site on a regular basis.

Fetlife

(47% Familiar; 81% Of These Favorable)

53% (35) had no experience with this site.

47% (31) had experience with it. Of those:

• 15 had a very favorable experience
• 10 had a somewhat favorable experience
• 4 had a somewhat unfavorable experience
• 2 had an unfavorable experience.

One of you mentioned that FetLife just isn't your kind of site, and I got an email response asking if it is appropriate to include a website concerning all fetishes in with a diaper website poll.

28% (19) reported visiting the site on a regular basis.

IMABDL.com

(25% Familiar; 56% Of These Favorable)

75% (50) had no experience with this site.

25% (16) had experience with it. Of those:

• 1 had a very favorable experience
• 8 had a somewhat favorable experience
• 5 had a somewhat unfavorable experience
• 2 had an unfavorable experience.

4% (3) reported visiting the site on a regular basis.

MyDLTown.com

(20% Familiar; 77% Of These Unfavorable)

80% (53) had no experience with this site.

20% (13) had experience with it. Of those:

• 1 had a very favorable experience
• 2 had a somewhat favorable experience
• 4 had a somewhat unfavorable experience
• 6 had an unfavorable experience.

Two of you mentioned that there are children, and/or pictures of children, on the site.

Only one person reported visiting the site on a regular basis.

RUPadded.com

(87% Familiar; 96% Of These Favorable)

13% (9) had no experience with this site.

87% (57) had experience with it. Of those:

• 39 had a very favorable experience
• 16 had a somewhat favorable experience
• 1 had a somewhat unfavorable experience
• 1 had an unfavorable experience.

78% (52) reported visiting the site on a regular basis.

COMING SOON... PART II

The second part of this survey is coming soon.

In it I'll be asking Abysitter.com blog readers to rate

experiences with diapers, AB/DL products, and merchants.

If you have any merchants or products you'd like to see included:

abysitter@gmail.com

(ASAP please).

AND...

I'll be including some of your comments from the survey.

ALSO...

I hope to include some information from a report I've found

which gives information on the various diaper sites

based on Alexa rankings

and other factors.

IN SIX MONTHS...

I'll be doing this survey once every six months

(or, at minimum, annually)

and hope to see how the tastes of my readers evolve and change

over time.

THANKS, AGAIN...

Thanks a lot for taking the time to take this survey.

Your input is important to me...

...and I appreciate the answers that you provided.

Cwis

UPDATE: Christian Choate

I've had a bunch of people ask me for an update on Christian Choate, the little kid who was tortured and abused for more than a year before being murdered by his family two years ago. 

If you're not following this case on purpose, skip this blog entry and continue to the next. This case is graphic and disturbing, and likely does not involve diaper fetishists. 

But it may. Which is part of the reason I am writing about it. 

If you are following the case, you know that the boy's body was discovered several weeks ago, after his biological mother - who hadn't seen him for more than four years - was tipped off by another family member and in turn tipped off police. 

You can read a little bit more about the case via a CNN International article here. 

I've read more than a dozen articles on the case, and the affidavit against the boy's father and stepmother. It gives a very disturbing picture of what went on to this little kid:

• the boy was abused ferociously by his father, who would punch him and kick him in the head;
• the boy was abused by his stepmother, who would diaper him, tie his hands to the top of his cage so he couldn't put his hands in his diaper, and often photographed or video'd it all;
• the boy was abused by his sister, who took glee in giving him ice cold baths that would make him scream, throwing food intended him away instead of feeding it to him, and tying him spread-eagled to the bed and poking him with poles in his genitals;
• the boy was unable to walk, or even stand, as he neared death, and his body was purple.

While the police who wrote the affadavit have painted this as a crime committed by the father and step-mother, it seems that it was the 15yo sister's love of choking her brother until he couldn't breathe that actually killed him. She isn't charged, yet; I hope that changes. 

I've copied/pasted some of the affidavit below, some of which details the diaper angle. You'll notice that Christian was kept locked in the cage, and only allowed to wear diapers, for more than a year. The kid hated be in the cage, and would try to get out, damaging it on at least one occasion and successfully unlatching it on another until the family took to locking it with seven locks. The cage would be kept in the living room or the children's bedroom - meaning Christian was forced to sleep diapered, in a cage, in the same room with up to five other siblings. He would mess and, in a fit of what one can only imagine was humiliation coupled with rage, would wipe his poop on the walls and dryer vents. (This is what people resort to when they have absolutely no control over their lives or other recourse, which is why it happens so often in prisons). At one point, after an incident in which Christian smeared his poop on a wall, his hands were tied to the top of the cage, and he was left to sit for hours. He began to cry and his hands, ostensibly covered with poop, were spray painted black. This spray paint is some of the evidence which remains of the abuse. 

From the affidavit: 

"She said that she had seen Christian once or twice in the cage which was located in the livingroom, and that Christian was put inside the cage as punishment. Rachelle said that Christian was wearing diapers because when he became angry he would "poop himself as a way to be defiant." "

"A neighbor named Laurie gave them a dog cage for their dog. Laurie moved out around 2008. Kim started putting Christian in the cage instead of tying him to the bedframe and he was locked in the cage everyday. Aunt Kim and the above female juvenile subject kept him locked in the cage. She said that her uncle Riley, referring to Riley Choate didn't lock him in there or tie him up but would beat Christian. The above female juvenile subject was in charge of feeding Christian but she wouldn't feed him when she was mad or just didn't feel like it and the rest of the children would try to sneak Christian food but then aunt Kim would yell at them. Aunt Kim would tell them that they were stupid and tell them "He needs to be locked up. He's a dog." On a particular date in 2009 her aunt Kim tied Christian's hands to the bedframe in their bedroom and the female juvenile subject started beating him and aunt Kim left the room. The girl turned on aunt Kim's video camera and recorded the beating. The other children were not allowed to leave the room so they had to sit and watch the beating. The girl choked Christian a couple of times until he turned blue. Kim walked by to use the bathroom and told the girl to stop choking him. The girl kept Christian tied up and Kim left. Christian was tiet up all night and the other children slept in the same room. Christian didn't make much noise when he got beat because he would get beat worse if he did. In the morning Kim and the girl locked Christian back into the cage. She said that when her grandmother was able to come over and had to use the bathroom that one of the children had to cover the cage with a blanket and Christian had to be quiet or he would get beat. This occurred about two weeks before Christian died." 

"On May 6, 2011 the above folding metal dog cage was recovered from a storage locker in Crofton Kentucky through the use of a search warrant. The above female juvenile subject was brought to that location and she identified it as the cage which Christian Choate was kept in the above incidents. She identified it by several individual locks on the cage as well as some damage caused to the floor by both Christian and Riley during separate incidents. She also pointed out a small area of black spray payin on the cage which occurred while Christian's hands were once chained to the top of that cage and Kimberly had spray painted Christian's hands because he was crying. She also stated that she had seen Kimberly Choate's video camera and computer which contained images of Christian..."

"The beating started on Christian roughly in 2006 after he molested Eddie Choate at their home. Riley would slap Christian very hard in the face a couple times a week and the beatings started to happen more as RIley and his wife Kim got into disagreements and Riley took it out on Christian. Several months later the slaps turned into full punches and kicks to the head which went on several times a week. They also stopped feeding him and he became very weak and pale. They would not let him wear clothing and made him wear a diaper. They would not let him use the bathroom as much and the above female juvenile subject was put in charge of him. Christian started to put his poop in the walls and dryer vents and she said that there should be pictures taken by her Aunt Kim, who put them on her hard drive."

Pretty fucked up, to be sure. 

A twelve year-old and thirteen year-old boy diapered and photographed. 

A father who is addicted to internet gaming. 

A stepmother who likes diapering boys and photographing them. 

I'll keep you posted on this case. 

Here's my question to you. 

Most of us avoid 'under 18' like the plague, preferring to stay on websites which don't mix children and adults. You can't go to some sites - Facebook, for example - without being exposed to pictures of children in diapers. (This is why most of us gave up on having diaper Facebook accounts long ago). I also know that there are other AB/DL websites which I don't frequent which purport to have members Christian's age posting pictures of themselves. (If you're a regular reader of this blog, you already know what I think about that). 

Did Christian's family diaper him out of convenience? Did they simply choose something they felt was the most humiliating thing possible in an effort to further torture this little boy? Or was someone in the household a diaper humiliation and/or s&m fan? If the latter is the case, it's possible that photos of Christian in diapers, caged, etc. may have made their way into web profiles or inboxes within our extended community. 

Take a look at Christian's photo, and think back. Have you seen any pictures of someone who looks like Christian? I'm thinking of one particular picture that I saw on Facebook which stays with me; the kid was probably Christian's age, laying on a blanket in a diaper, and it's clearly not a picture the child willingly posed for. I 'reported' it on Facebook, but this was more than a year ago, and I'm sure it didn't get its start on Facebook. It's probably all over. I hope to not see it again, but if anyone knows the picture I'm talking about - or any others which could be this kid - make a mental note of where you saw them and contact the prosecutor's office in this case. Do Not Send Me A Link To The Photo. Do, however, pass the information along. 

Something about this case doesn't sound right to me, and to think that I was blogging about diaper punishment around the same time this kid was living it, unwillingly, pisses me off. 

Please take my BRANDING POLL!

Abysitter.com 'Branding' Poll

http://www.misterpoll.com/polls/524670

I would like to invite you to take part

in the Abysitter.com 'Branding' Poll.

This is a survey to measure

the respect and trust various brands known to the AB/DL community

have achieved amongst our members.

This is Part I of the survey.

Part I seeks to determine which diaper community websites

have attained the trust and respect of our community - and which have not.

Please answer as honestly as possible.

Please answer all of the questions.

Part II will be released next week.

It will focus on products marketed to the ABDL community, including diapers,

and the merchants who sell them.

Any questions?

Email abysitter@gmail.com.

Thanks for taking part in the survey!

Cwis...

Once Again, The Survey Link:

http://www.misterpoll.com/polls/524670

ABDLs Under Attack?

Oklahoma Senator Tom Coburn, infamous for his deficit-reduction efforts, has a new target: Stanley Thornton the adult baby. And Stanley is ready to fight... to the death.

You may remember Stanley from National Geographic's recent Taboo episode. You can read my blog entry on the subject here.

Read the article from New York Magazine here.

And from the Washington (DC) Times here.

It seems that Senator Coburn has written a letter to the Inspector General of the Social Security Administration suggesting that Stanley is perhaps collecting benefits improperly.

An excerpt:

"Given that Mr. Thornton is able to determine what is appropriate attire and actions in public, drive himself to complete errands, design and custom-make baby furniture to support a 350-pound adult and run an Internet support group, it is possible that he has been improperly collecting disability benefits for a period of time."

Eek!

Coburn is described as the Senate's top waste watcher, and issues with social security are a hot-button political issue right now.

Republicans would like nothing more than to take welfare benefits away from millions of Americans. Talk of requiring welfare recipients to take drug tests, for example, has come up year after year. It's spun by Democrats as being anti-minority and anti-immigrant, and has no chance of passing. In short, it's not politically correct.

But isn't it completely reasonable to take welfare away from anyone who, we assume, uses their welfare payments for feeding a drug habit? Shouldn't this be expanded to anyone convicted of selling drugs? Maybe other crimes, even?

Drug using, drug dealing welfare recipients are a powerful lobby, and the Republicans can't openly make these suggestions for fear of losing a powerful voting block.

And you sure as hell can't suggest taking social security from the elderly. They vote like crazy-ass motherfuckers.

Coburn's apparent new deficit-reduction target - adult babies - isn't so much of a gamble...

Stanley was not amused by the Washington Times' article, and wrote back, threatening suicide:

“You wanna test how damn serious I am about leaving this world, screw with my check that pays for this apartment and food. Try it. See how serious I am. I don’t care. I have no problem killing myself. Take away the last thing keeping me here, and see what happens. Next time you see me on the news, it will be me in a body bag.”

We hope that Stanley won't kill himself over the loss of his benefits, should it come to that. And, judging from what I've seen of Stanley, he will probably keep his benefits for life.

But should he? NY Magazine says it this way:

"[Coburn] has a point there. Just because Thornton enjoys playing with toys and pooping in a giant diaper all day, doesn't mean that taxpayers should have to support his bizarre lifestyle. On the other hand, you could certainly make the case that, despite the ability to run errands and build obese baby-man furniture, Thornton suffers from a mental disability that precludes him from holding a job."

Hmm...

I applaud anyone giving presenting the AB/DL community in a positive light their best shot. And, despite all of the forum bashing going on within our own community, there's not a lot from the video which I have a problem with. Two things, however, stuck out:

• Both Stanley and his caretaker receiving public assistance.
• Members of Stanley's website being as young as... 9.

I won't touch the age thing here, as I'm working on a future blog entry about age and AB/DL.

But I knew that the public assistance thing was going to be trouble.

I don't begrudge anyone public assistance who truly deserves it and I certainly won't try to make an armchair diagnosis of Stanley Thornton from clear across the USA.

But let's be straight up: anyone one of us who goes on a television show represents all of us. And we now have a whole nation envisioning adult babies as... well, Stanley.

I don't care if they picture us as Stanley's age, height, weight, race, gender, or sexual orientation.

But the stereotype that ABDLs can't function properly in society, whether due to health issues or mental health issues, is an insult to the hundreds of ABDL college students and employed ABs and DLs I've gotten to know from my years in the community.

I'm not sure if I would blame Stanley, entirely, for this.

But I've said it before, and I'll say it again: what each of us does singly has an effect on us collectively. (I'm talking to you, Stanley!)

We are a community, even if we don't always want to be.

Now we're a community that's attracted the attention of the United States Senate.

It will be interesting to see how this plays out...

Be A Part of the Abysitter.com Team...

LOOKING FOR SOMEONE GOOD WITH HTML

- web designer -

interesting in working with me

on an upcoming

project...

if you are talented with

web sites

please email me at:

abysitter@gmail.com

and put "web design" in the subject header.

Oops... Someone Fucked Up...

As you may know, Blogger had some issues over this past week which resulted in posts being deleted, and replaced, by Blogger. Some blog posts were delayed.

In addition, a number of comments disappeared if they were left during a certain time span. Indeed, Abysitter.com had at least a dozen comments disappear. I don't know if these, too, will be reinstated; if they are not, and a comment you posted was removed, rest assured it was due to system issues and not a deliberate deletion by me.

- Cwis

Pampers: Worth More Than Facebook - Really.

The sixth annual Millward Brown Optimor Brandz™ survey is out – and the results may surprise you.

From the official website:

Developed by Millward Brown Optimor, the BrandZ Top 100 Most Valuable Global Brands ranking analyzes the world's leading brands and the economic and competitive dynamics that influence value fluctuations. It is the most comprehensive annual ranking of brand value, and focuses on consumer-facing brands, rather than corporate brands.

The Top 15 was probably no surprise to anyone.

The number one brand was Apple, with a brand value of $153 million, up 84% from 2010.

Google was second, down 2% to $111 million.

3: IBM, $100 mil.

4: McDonalds: $81 mil.

5. Microsoft: $78 mil.

6. Coca Cola: $73 mil.

7: AT&T: $69 mil.

8: Marlboro: $67 mil.

9: China Mobile: $57 mil.

10: General Electric: 50 mil.

11: ICBC Asia: $44 mil.

12. Vodaphone: $43 mil.

13. Verizon: $42 mil.

14: Amazon.com: 37 mil.

15. WalMart: $37 mil.

Surprisingly, even with their DryMax scandal in 2010/2011, Pampers was 33rd, up 11% with a brand value of $19.350 mil.

And an even bigger surprise: they beat out Facebook, with a valuation of $19.102 mil.

Since Facebook's value was up 246% since 2010, it's likely that this will be the last year that the brand leader in diapers will beat the brand leader in social networking.

They also beat out ABDL favorite Disney: $17,290 mil.

In a valuation of brand contribution – a brand's emotional attachment on its customers – the following:

1 Möet & Chandon 4,570 5

2 Baidu 22,555 5

3 Skol 4,579 5

4 Hennessy 4,997 5

5 Pampers 19,350 5

6 Louis Vuitton 24,312 5

7 Natura 4,614 5

8 Brahma 1,996 5

9 Hermès 11,917 5

10 Chanel 6,823 5

11 Rolex 5,269 5

12 Guinness 3,446 5

13 Porsche 12,413 5

14 BMW 22,425 5

15 Gucci 7,449 5

Pampers: The BrandZ Top 100 Leaders in Trust and Value:

The results confirm two fundamental findings of the BrandZ Top 100 Most Valuable Global Brands report:

· Brand leaders successfully inspire trust and project value; and

· Brand leaders increasingly appear in fast-growing markets.

Pampers and Amazon are listed three times in this table. While consumers expect products in the childcare category to be highly trustworthy, Pampers consistently exceeds those expectations. Effective use of social media has helped the brand connect with new parents and score high both in Trust (performance over time) and recommendation (recent experience). In the process of driving a revolution in retailing and e-commerce, Amazon has established itself as a highly desired brand.

View the Chart:

http://www.millwardbrown.com/Libraries/Optimor_BrandZ_Files/2011_BrandZ_Top100_Chart.sflb.ashx

View the Full Report:

http://www.millwardbrown.com/Libraries/Optimor_BrandZ_Files/2011_BrandZ_Top100_Report.sflb.ashx

Abysitter.com Survey - Coming Soon!

NEW SURVEY COMING UP!

Next week I will be introducing an ABDL version of the Brand Survey. I'll be posing questions to you and asking which "brands" you trust and respect, be it in diapers, ABDL products, and communities/websites.

If anyone has any feedback for me, please email me: abysitter@gmail.com. Specifically I am looking to include all brands, and all websites, so if you know of any I might not include please email me, put "Brand Survey" in the subject header, and suggest away.

I Know The Feeling...

When my brother asked me to change my nephew's dirty diaper a few years ago I politely declined. He got annoyed with me.

"Dude, you practically change diapers for a living! You can't change a real one?"

No, thanks.

You see, there's something about a baby's diaper that's just... eww. You avoid it. As much as we love diapers, a baby's diaper... yech.

Real infantilists know what I'm talking about.

And so do the winners from tonight's news story:

http://www.mcall.com/news/local/police/mc-diaper-duty-20110510,0,918728.story

Imagine getting to be in your teens and finding out your parents loathed changing your diapers so much they assaulted each other and went to PRISON?

That's gonna have a lasting effect on the psyche... lol.

Hall of Shame: Graphic

As you may know, I get a nightly Google News alert on diapers. I set it up to get news from the world of ABDL, since my AB/DL alert mostly scoops news from the world of terrorism. (Ab-dl is, apparently, a popular Arabic name). And, boy, do I get news...

If a diaper fetishist does something stupid, I get the alert.

If a diaper fetishist appears on a cable television program, I get the alert.

If Pampers burn babies' bottoms and parents complain, I get the alert.

If Huggies is coming out with a new line, I get the alert.

If a high school football team is getting a big group of freshmen and some coach terms them 'diaper dandies', I get the alert.

And, of course, when a parent somewhere decides that diapering their child is an appropriate punishment, I get the alert.

You get the idea.

Tonight's alert is, without a doubt, the most horrible I've seen so far.

If you want to be able to sleep tonight, you may want to stop reading.

Meet 13 year-old Christian Choate.

Christian died April 5, 2009 - after being tortured by his family for more than a year.

Christian was suspected by his family of "molesting a male relative." Christian's father would slap the fuck out of him, with the beatings growing more severe as time went on. At first he was locked in a dark basement room; after the family moved to a trailer his father bought a dog cage, where Christian lived "every night for more than a year" - and where he would die.

The family would beat Christian on the regular, chain him to a bed frame, and withhold food as punishment. His 17yo sister claims she was responsible for feeding Christian, taking him to the bathroom, forcing him to exercise, and physically punishing him if he disobeyed. She apparently relished her job: she once choked him until he turned blue, and often videotaped it all.

Ice cold baths, twice weekly, would cause the boy to scream, and his hands would begin to discolor from being tied up all the time. Eventually, Christian would be gagged with a sock and duct tape and - you've probably already guessed it - kept naked - except for a diaper.

The family considered Christian a dog and believed that he needed to be caged. After a particularly severe beating from his sister the little boy was found in the cage, not breathing. The family hid his body and told people he had run away - and that it was a family matter.

This story is HORRIFIC. Reading it made me want to get in the car, drive to Indiana, and lobby for the death penalty for these fuckers. If anyone deserves it, they do.

But the whole story has me wondering. This case has, to me, clear overtones of sadomasochism. A boy kept confined to a cage... duct taped to a bed... forced to exercise... spanked and beaten... and diapered?! This describes pictures I've seen on more than a few S&M blogs - substituting consenting adults for this helpless kid, of course. I've read this kid's story on Deeker and other sites...

Seems unlikely that the mind that devised the last year of Christian's life didn't have some kind of interest in some part of this lifestyle. Does anyone recognize these two pieces of trash? Perhaps you've seen them on a website, or at an event? I would bet $1K that at least one of these two are into spankings, diapers, or both.

Of course, it's possible that these are just two sick, twisted pieces of shit and they couldn't find anything more humiliating or degrading for this kid than - well, diapering him. But take a close look at them, just in case. If you recognize either, their case is coming up...

R. I. P. Christian Choate. You deserved none of what you got. Saying a prayer for you tonight...

Makes me wonder how many Christian Choates are out there right now.

If you are one, were one, or know one... please, report it.

From the Chicago Sun-Times:

http://www.suntimes.com/news/5294165-417/dad-stepmom-charged-in-murder-of-boy-found-under-concrete-slab.html

Baby Pictures: DiaperedInMD

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Up next: some hot pictures from someone new. Well, new to Abysitter.com, anyway. If you're on RUP you may already know Michael. Michael is 25 years old, and from Maryland. He says:

"I'm a rarity - an African American ABDL. I wear a lot and, as you can see, Abena M4's are my favorite. I am a fun-loving person who truly enjoys everything life has to offer. I am not seeing anyone, but that doesn't mean I am not looking - I am not looking for Mr. Right Away or Mr. Right Now, just... Mr. Right."

Mike is a rarity. Over the 2.5 years I've been blogging I've been asked to include diaper pictures of African American babies, Hispanic babies, and even Middle Eastern babies. They're hard to find to begin with; add to that the fact that, when I feature ABDL photo sets (baby pics), I don't lift pictures from diaper websites or other blogs... everything is taken by me or submitted to me. So for those of you hoping for diaper pictures of various ethnicities... thank Mike for submitting.

Mikey is looking for friends, daddies, and a potential BF so... if you want to hit him up look for him on AIM (dare2dream000), YIM (badboy4e_o4), or on the diaper sites:

• RUPadded
• DiaperSpace.com

Remember! All photos at Abysitter.com are copyright this site. Please do not distribute or use on any other site, or in any other forum, without written permission, as I do not have permission from the subjects of my photos to re-distribute. Thank you.

Have pictures you'd like to share? Abysitter.com averages 125-150 unique viewers on a daily basis. A post typically remains on the front page of the site for a week or more. That's up to 1,000 AB/DL'ers who will see your photos - way less than posting them on most websites. If you're up for having your adorable diapered ass on display - or want to write or draw for us - email abysitter@gmail.com.

Friends Don't Let Friends ADISC.org

In 2009 I joined a website called ADISC. It purports itself to be an AB/DL forum/support group. I was entirely unimpressed; despite having a large number of members, the forums I read seemed to be dominated by a small number of snarky, petty Internet Trolls.

I mentioned ADISC in my blog entry on survey results.

Today I got an email from an AB, Trav, who had just recently taken my survey and read the posts that go along with it. He told me that he, too, had tried ADISC - but had quit when the Trolls began picking at each post he left.

Trav told me that "some of the mods are the worst ones!" and I knew exactly what he was talking about. Last year, before I knew the deal with ADISC, I had friend requested someone on another website who had posted that he was a moderator for ADISC. He sent me a message, in response to my request, telling me that he wasn't even sure he'd be around long because ADISC was so much better, "IMHO". I knew right then that I was talking to a Forum Troll, because only Forum Trolls use shit like "IMHO". I withdrew my request, and he left nasty messages on my profile. (He's since posted that he is no longer an ADISC moderator because of some ADISC drama). LOLLERS.

Trav's point in messaging me was to link me to a forum post that he felt illustrates the ills of ADISC. He sent it to me in a second email, titled simply: "The post responses are exactly what ADISC is about."

Want to read it? Click here.

In the post, a user, Skizzybaby - who has apparently been banned since this post was submitted - tells about how he is extremely happy because he has the use of a crib in his bedroom. His post, in fact, is titled "I'm So Happy With My Baby Crib!" lol.

Skizzy goes on to explain that he had relatives visiting from out of town, so his mother purchased a crib from a department store with the intention of returning it.

"2 weeks ago my aunt and uncle came to vist from california, they just had a new baby boy, and were comming to stay with us for 2 days. before they left they told my mom and dad that they needed a crib as they couldnt take one on the airplane, even if it was broken down. So my mom went out and bought a new babycrib, with meesh screens and babyzoo animals all around it, and its babyblue, MY FAVORITE COLOR! she said she would return it to the store after they left, but i went threw her purse and threw away the reciept."

Do you spy the problem yet?

User Zephy did:

"Fine, I'll be the one to say it. You planning on paying your mom back for that? Those aren't free and I'm sure she planned on getting the money back. This is no different than stealing diapers, or than stealing money from your parents to get something. In fact, you even went through her purse to get the receipt, just like people who are addicted to drugs. I don't really see a reason to brag about what you have done."

What a fucking tightass, right?

That, my friends, is an Internet Troll.

The post then goes on for several days, with various ADISC member trolls jumping in on the original poster (OP, in trollspeak) to bash him for his actions, which they compare to - and I am not making this up - a drug addict trying to get his fix, and an ABDL previously arrested for breaking into a stranger's house and stealing/wearing baby diapers.

Skizzy explains that his parents make a combined $700K+/year and won't be hurt by the deception; trolls get even madder, shouting "that's not the point!!"

It goes on from there. Member troll GasshaHuzza (wtf?) chimes in to let Skizzy know it has nothing to do with the money:

"I'm not going to talk for the entire site, maybe not even half of it. But a lot of people have this thing called 'self control.' A lot of TBs wouldn't steal something just so they could indulge in their fetish."

Okay, sure. Skizzy (and several other members) explain that, in a battle of 'self control' vs. crib, crib wins. This makes the trolls even angrier, and hilarity ensues.

Take user Fire2Box, for example:

"That doesn't make it any more right though. I am in agreement with Zep myself that what you did is wrong.. you intentional made it impossible for her to return it only to please yourself. I'm even willing to bet you knew it was wrong from the time you even came up with the idea, but you still went though with it. and saying this doesn't affect us is kind of wrong... it's like saying Deeker's doesn't affect us, or scat videos doesn't affect us.. even though those people make even the good AB/DL's look bad since that's what people could associate with AB/DL/TB's."

Now Skizzy - a kid who saw an opportunity to keep a playpen (see picture) and took it - is making all ABDLs look bad? He's comparable to Deeker?

Stop, thief! The next Deeker?

The drama continues unabated, with even a moderator stepping in to let everyone know that Skizzy's mother is ALSO a thief, and it takes a thief to raise a thief; his mother, remember, was going to return an item to a store she'd had no intention of keeping in the first place!

Lol.

At many different points Skizzy tries to end the argument by saying, point blank, he doesn't want to argue anymore - and attempting to change the subject. Fire2box's response?

"Just because you two don't like hearing other people's opinions, doesn't mean everyone else should be required to shut up just since you don't like it. If Skizzy knew how adisc operates, he should known members have a wide view of ideals, right and wrong and morality. Stealing anything can become controversial. But once again (like his first topic), he made a topic solely to gloat and is now upset that it actually backfired. To me, this is all very childish on his part, but in the bad childish way."

The bad childish way. Someone seem a little jealous?

At this point it becomes obvious that our Troll is not a simple run-of-the-mill troll, but a Stalker Troll - a very serious situation indeed. Skizzy notices it, too:

"firebox im not gloating, im just sharing stuff that happens in my life, and sharing it with people who are interested in the same things. and im not upset i just dont like argueing over something that dosnt affect anyone else but me. damn leave me alone man, you comment everyone of my posts and say something bad or contadicting, just stop its getting old."

It gets old for six or seven more pages before Skizzy posts that he repaid his mother for the cost of the playpen and a moderator, perhaps sensing that the Trolls will never be satisfied, closes the forum for drama.

Sigh... the whole site could probably be closed for "drama".

My problem with ADISC isn't the fact that it allows adults and children to intermingle in one single location for very adult-related conversations - although I admit that is a problem, other sites do that, too.

My problem is that, in the majority of the ADISC forum posts that I've read, Member Trolls dominate the conversation. They are, in essence, nothing more than bullies hiding behind a keyboard. My first foray into the world of ADISC was my last; I posted a response to a post and there were, almost immediately, two responses criticizing my post: one because I had not first posted an "introduction" (I needed to become familiar with how ADISC worked, I was told) and another because my avatar was not in cartoon form. I posted an "introduction" to satisfy my first critic, and let my second critic know I found the cartoon avatar distasteful as it basically lets adults and children talk about sexual stuff with total anonymity. (No response from that person).

In the years since I've seen lots of other troubling, bullying, negative, posts. In fact, in my news alert for ABDL, ADISC is one site that regularly comes up, so I see them often.

I hope that nobody ever explores their ABDL side by going to ADISC, because anyone's first experience with our lifestyle should be a positive one. Reading through the forum post that Trav sent me made me realize how many snarky people our community has - and how they all tend to gather in one place.

"Friends don't let friends ADISC" is the title of my blog entry today. And while I know that 25% of my readers are ADISC members - and I wouldn't ever ask you to stop - I hope that those of you who do venture there are among the more positive influences on the site.

ADISC can't be all bad. It was probably started with good intentions, but slowly, over time, as with most internet forums on any subject, some members begin to see themselves as having an ownership stake, and take to bully-ish, Troll-type behaviors to stake their claim. There has to be some good, right? I just don't spend much time on the site, and haven't seen it yet?

I hope?

Our community gets assailed too much from the outside world to be continuously picking at each other. If someone within our little circle of friends gets a baby crib, don't be so quick to judge how he came by it. If you are the type who simply must judge, throw your stones and then run back into your glass house and shut the fuck up.

Bullies: fuck off!

Internet trolls: fuck you too!

Skizzy: hope you're still enjoying your crib (playpen? Lol) in spite of the jealous, bitter Stalker Trolls on ADISC.

Blog Swap Friday: A Closet Life!

I'd like to direct your attention to my friend James' blog: http://www.aclosetlife.com.

James has been blogging since November. He's already attracted a number of loyal followers, including quite a few of my readers, judging from the survey I put out earlier this year.

James, a 26 year-old DL from New England, blogs about his life in, and out, of diapers. You'll read about his sharing his DL life with his wife, his decision-making process about entering the military, and his recent venturing out into the real world, meeting up with other ABDLs - first, a daddy, and second, a group of like-minded folks at a Littles Munch.

He's also got commentary into the community, diaper reviews, and - for you photo lovers - some photos of himself.

James is very active on Twitter (@ClosetDL), too.

Check him out, and look for the 'follow' button on the right side of his blog.

I'll be posting more blogs here in the future. If you've got an ABDL (or similar fetish/lifestyle) blog and would like to swap links, email me at abysitter@gmail.com. Your blog does not need to have a huge following, I'll even swap with new blogs too... I was a new blogger, once. But if your blog is merely a collection of photos stolen from diaper sites, I'll pass. FYI. Now hit me up! Or, if you don't blog, check out the one above!